Am I a Bad Mommy?

[Sun_2010]

chamonix:

2ppaamm:

It is not a lousy mom not to send a child to enrichment classes, or to deprive a kid of a rat race. It takes energy, drive, planning and a lot of patience to teach a 5 year old to prepare his own breakfast or vacuum the floor! Most of our Singaporean kids are too comfortable, spoilt or busy to do those 'trivial' but vital things. They have to study. For that, Chamonix, I :salute:

Thanks for the comforting words, 2ppaamm! Sometimes, I do wonder if I'm being \"bad\" to expect my kids help out at a young age. But I suppose having made a collective decision to have no external help, it's only fair everybody chips in to help out. I must confess - if anybody tells me that I should let my kids help out with the chores 4 years ago, I would go :yikes:. But now I believe we should have more trust in our little ones' capabilities.

The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. So, even though I know that enrichment classes aren't necessary, there's always this gnawing doubt that they might learn more if they had a chance to try out some classes. But I guess that's kiasuism at work.

And here i am thinking I am a baaad mommy since i dont give enough chores to my kids. For someone, who would get her 18 month olds to measure and wash rice for cooking, I have been slacking - precisely for reasons ( ok excure) that 2ppaamm mentions '\"no time\".

Its pretty easy to bring the toddlersto help out - they are so eager to learn and so full of energy. Its when they become bigger that it becomes chore

[2ppaamm]

Sun_2010:

Its pretty easy to bring the toddlersto help out - they are so eager to learn and so full of energy. Its when they become bigger that it becomes chore

I agree, and it is sad that our society has learnt to be lazy, both parents and toddlers. I wonder how things would have been if the government did not allow the domestic foreigners to come in droves in the 1980s to allow more educated mothers to go back to work. Perhaps we would have been less dependent on foreign workers, now and into the future. I'm just wondering, how would we ever be ridden of them. :?

[crystalbelle]

2ppaamm:

Sun_2010:

Its pretty easy to bring the toddlersto help out - they are so eager to learn and so full of energy. Its when they become bigger that it becomes chore

I agree, and it is sad that our society has learnt to be lazy, both parents and toddlers. I wonder how things would have been if the government did not allow the domestic foreigners to come in droves in the 1980s to allow more educated mothers to go back to work. Perhaps we would have been less dependent on foreign workers, now and into the future. I'm just wondering, how would we ever be ridden of them. :?

:oops: I am guilty of being one of them too. Dependent on my maid too much. Kids will imitate what the adults are doing so when i realize that, i quickly put a stop to that and correct myself and correct my kids... But times to times when i am so stress out & exhuasted with the day work, i wish to be \" couch potato \" and left the playtime and learning time to the maid.. Am i a bad mummy? Yes, in a way... cause my kids would very much like to play with me or learn with me as they have not seen me for the whole day thus they tend to do some silly things to attract my attention ( like squabbling for a small little things ) and this will make me even more frustration :spank:
After realising this, no matter how tired I am now ( pulling my hubby in )... I will make time for reading lesson with them ( my hubby said that this might be 3 minutes fever ) ...

[Chenonceau]

crystalbelle:

:oops: I am guilty of being one of them too. Dependent on my maid too much. Kids will imitate what the adults are doing so when i realize that, i quickly put a stop to that and correct myself and correct my kids... But times to times when i am so stress out & exhuasted with the day work, i wish to be \" couch potato \" and left the playtime and learning time to the maid.. Am i a bad mummy? Yes, in a way... cause my kids would very much like to play with me or learn with me as they have not seen me for the whole day thus they tend to do some silly things to attract my attention ( like squabbling for a small little things ) and this will make me even more frustration :spank:
After realising this, no matter how tired I am now ( pulling my hubby in )... I will make time for reading lesson with them ( my hubby said that this might be 3 minutes fever ) ...

Dun be too hard on yourself. It can be difficult when you work fulltime.

[seekingangels]

Where can we buy the book "The Explosive Child" rather than borrow from library?

[sunnydays2]

I think we all need some time to ourselves even if you are SAHM. Maybe can put him with your parents or in-laws while you take a break? Or send your child to tuition/enrichment lessons/activities like swimming, etc then you can take a break from him.