<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Children of average ability]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">My younger boy, who is 4 years 3 months old now, has average learning ability.<br /><br /><br />Although he is able to read well, he still cannot write all the 26 letters, upper and lower case.  He tends to write his numbers and letters in mirror images.  I tried to let him practice by more, but I could not let him write more than 30 letters or numbers a day. He will complain that he is tired, or lose his concentration.<br /><br />Any ideas about what to do ?</p>
]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/1672/children-of-average-ability</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Wed, 06 May 2026 14:42:47 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/1672.rss" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><pubDate>Fri, 26 Dec 2008 08:35:58 GMT</pubDate><ttl>60</ttl><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Wed, 29 Feb 2012 07:22:42 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p></p><blockquote><b>RRMummy:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black">:scratchhead: who unlocked this dusty thread?</blockquote></blockquote><br /> :rotflmao: I was tempted to reply to some of the posts until I noticed they are so dated!<p></p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/720270</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/720270</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[concern2]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 29 Feb 2012 07:22:42 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Mon, 27 Feb 2012 08:33:33 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p>:scratchhead: who unlocked this dusty thread?</p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/718851</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/718851</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[RRMummy]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 27 Feb 2012 08:33:33 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Mon, 23 May 2011 06:26:58 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">Hi Tamarind and other parents… <br /><br /><br />I read the first few pages of this thread with great interest. Reason being I can identify with vomitting blood teaching my boy, who is very different than my girl in terms of learning too. He’s 2y9m now. He knows his 26 alphabets (both upper and lower cases) and he knows their sounds (ie phonics). The difficulty I have with him is in recognising chinese characters and also in his super duper short attention span. <br /><br />Whenever I try to do some learning with him, after giving me his 20% concentration power for like 20sec, he’ll tell me "enough", and he wants to go back to play. <br /><br />What can I do to help him improve his attention span.</p>
]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/427701</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/427701</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[MumandMe]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 23 May 2011 06:26:58 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Fri, 06 Mar 2009 08:24:07 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p></p><blockquote><b>clarabella:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black"><blockquote><b>H2O:</b><p>My son came and ask me this question.<br /><br /><br />why is caterpillar with 1 t and butterfly is with double t.<br />Why do they start to share t? Single or double t? <br />any clues? :?</p></blockquote></blockquote>Hi H2O<br /><br />My guess is :idea: :<br />- the word 'butter' follows the English spelling rule of doubling a consonant after a short, stressed vowel, hence it's spelled with double 't's after the vowel 'u'.<br />- caterpillar... I think there is only one 't' due to the origin of the word.  It appears to have come from an old French word '<i><i>catepelose</i></i>' and was first recorded in English (sometime in the 15th century) as '<i><i>catyrpel</i></i>'.  <br />So from the outset there is only a single 't'.<br />Hope that helps!<br /><br />It seems that many words which don't follow the 'rules' come from other languages, so finding the origin of the word helps me to provide an explanation to my kid who always wants to fit things neatly into categories.  The inconsistencies in English words really drive him bugsh*t!<p></p></blockquote>My answer to my girl is simply \"English is like that one lah !\"  Ooops Singlish  :oops:<br /><br />This article was published in the Economist :<br /><br /><span style="color:blue"><br />\"Ghoti and tchoghs may not immediately strike readers as staples of the British diet; and even those most enamoured of written English’s idiosyncrasies may wince at this tendentious rendering of “fish and chips”. Yet the spelling, easily derived from other words*, highlights the shortcomings of English orthography. [*Fish: gh as in tough, o as in women, ti as in nation (courtesy of GB Shaw). Chips: tch as in match, o as in women, gh as in hiccough.]<br /><br />\"This has long bamboozled foreigners and natives alike, and may underlie the national test results released on August 12th which revealed that almost a third of English 14-year-olds cannot read properly. Due partly to its mixed Germanic and Latin origins, English spelling is strikingly inconsistent.<br /><br />\"Three things have exacerbated this confusion. The Great Vowel Shift in the 15th and 16th centuries altered the pronunciation of many words but left their spelling unchanged; and as Masha Bell, an independent literacy researcher, notes, the 15th-century advent of printing presses initially staffed by non-English speakers helped to magnify the muddle. Second, misguided attempts to align English spelling with (often imagined) Latin roots (debt and debitum; island and insula) led to the introduction of superfluous “silent” letters. Third, despite interest in spelling among figures as diverse as Benjamin Franklin, Prince Philip and the Mormons, English has never, unlike Spanish, Italian and French, had a central regulatory authority capable of overseeing standardisation.<br /><br />\"There are linguistic reasons why spelling reform is tricky to undertake. Written language is more than a phonetic version of its spoken cousin: it contains etymological and morphological clues to meaning too. So although spelling English more phonetically might make it easier to read, it might also make it harder to understand. Moreover, as Mari Jones of Cambridge University points out, differences in regional pronunciation mean that introducing a “phonetic” spelling of English would benefit only people from the region whose pronunciation was chosen as the accepted norm. And, she adds, it would need continual updating to accommodate any subsequent changes in pronunciation.<br /><br />\"Yes despite these concerns, some changes are worth considering; it takes more than twice as long to learn to read English as it does to read most other west European languages, according to a 2003 study led by Philip Seymour of Dundee University. Standardising rules on doubled consonants—now more or less bereft of logic—would be a start. Removing erroneous silent letters would also help. And as George Bernard Shaw observed, suppressing superfluous letters will in time reduce the waste of resources and trees. In an era of global warming, that is not to be sniffed at.\" </span><br /><br /><br /><br />Shylyn,<br />Yes I know who you are referring to  <img src="https://forum.kiasuparents.com/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/android/1f609.png?v=f4f27f6278e" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-android emoji--wink" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title=":wink:" alt="😉" /><p></p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/19191</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/19191</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[tamarind]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 06 Mar 2009 08:24:07 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Thu, 05 Mar 2009 15:43:58 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p></p><blockquote><b>tamarind:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black"><br /><br />shylyn,<br />Can you view the photo now ?  The cover says \"My First Scrabble\".<br /><br />I saw My First Scrabble at both Kiddy Palace and NTUC Hypermart at Jurong Point. NTUC is selling $5.00 cheaper at $39.90, you can find it at Section 10 under Toys, together with other board games.<br /><br />There are a total of 15 word cards ( a few words a card).  But actually we can also let the kids spell any words using the colourful letter tiles. For very young children, we can start with 2 letter words like is, am, in, it, etc, then go on to all the 3 letter words.<br /><br />csc,<br />Yes definitely can keep for grandchildren   <img src="https://forum.kiasuparents.com/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/android/1f609.png?v=f4f27f6278e" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-android emoji--wink" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title=":wink:" alt="😉" /></blockquote></blockquote>Thks taramind<br />Managed to view the photo..think becos of my off server cos i'm replying frm my home now..<br />This Scrabble set definitely looks familiar..in fact, i bought a similar version (not scrabble) but a game to encourage children to spell in a non failing mtd..(dunno how to describe..see whether i can post a photo up as well) &amp; it goes for $9.90..bought from a shop in Taman Jurong Shopping centre. Yet to open it up to explore as intend to gift wrap as my boy's bd gift..heheh...'copying' ideas from someone we both knew  <img src="https://forum.kiasuparents.com/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/android/1f609.png?v=f4f27f6278e" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-android emoji--wink" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title=":wink:" alt="😉" />  (accumulating all the pressies to give to my boy on his bd)<p></p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/19116</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/19116</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[shylyn]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 05 Mar 2009 15:43:58 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Thu, 05 Mar 2009 10:49:38 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p></p><blockquote><b>H2O:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black">My son came and ask me this question.<br /><br /><br />why is caterpillar with 1 t and butterfly is with double t.<br />Why do they start to share t? Single or double t? <br />any clues? :?</blockquote></blockquote>Hi H2O<br /><br />My guess is :idea: :<br />- the word 'butter' follows the English spelling rule of doubling a consonant after a short, stressed vowel, hence it's spelled with double 't's after the vowel 'u'.<br />- caterpillar... I think there is only one 't' due to the origin of the word.  It appears to have come from an old French word '<i><i>catepelose</i></i>' and was first recorded in English (sometime in the 15th century) as '<i><i>catyrpel</i></i>'.  <br />So from the outset there is only a single 't'.<br />Hope that helps!<br /><br />It seems that many words which don't follow the 'rules' come from other languages, so finding the origin of the word helps me to provide an explanation to my kid who always wants to fit things neatly into categories.  The inconsistencies in English words really drive him bugsh*t!<p></p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/19086</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/19086</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[clarabella]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 05 Mar 2009 10:49:38 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Thu, 05 Mar 2009 09:12:57 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p>oh yah. but me too lazy.hee. :oops:</p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/19077</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/19077</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[smurf]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 05 Mar 2009 09:12:57 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Thu, 05 Mar 2009 08:46:32 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p>My son came and ask me this question.<br /><br /><br />why is caterpillar with 1 t and butterfly is with double t.<br />Why do they start to share t? Single or double t? <br />any clues? :?</p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/19070</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/19070</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[H2O]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 05 Mar 2009 08:46:32 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Tue, 03 Mar 2009 22:12:13 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p></p><blockquote><b>smurf:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black">thanks tamarind for the website. my boy knows this website, but he didn't really like it.hahha. wonder why. :?</blockquote></blockquote><br />smurf,<br />Also check out this thread. buds has shared very good and fun phonics materials <img src="https://forum.kiasuparents.com/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/android/1f642.png?v=f4f27f6278e" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-android emoji--slightly_smiling_face" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title=":)" alt="🙂" /><br /><br /><a href="http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=1927&amp;start=0">http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=1927&amp;start=0</a><p></p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18783</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18783</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[tamarind]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 03 Mar 2009 22:12:13 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Tue, 03 Mar 2009 22:05:15 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p></p><blockquote><b>shylyn:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black"><blockquote><b>tamarind:</b><p>Shylyn,<br /><br />Here's the box.<br /><br /><img src="\&quot;http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3363/3256121091_24351d64e8.jpg\&quot;" /><img src="\&quot;&lt;a" />http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3363/3256121091_24351d64e8.jpg\"&gt;<br /><br />I help you to look out for it when I go shopping.</p></blockquote></blockquote>Hi Taramind<br />Hmm..unable to view the photo leh..wonder why..btw, thks for helping me look out for it..let me know if u happened to see it somewhere..gam xia! :lol:<p></p></blockquote>shylyn,<br />Can you view the photo now ?  The cover says \"My First Scrabble\".<br /><br />I saw My First Scrabble at both Kiddy Palace and NTUC Hypermart at Jurong Point. NTUC is selling $5.00 cheaper at $39.90, you can find it at Section 10 under Toys, together with other board games.<br /><br />There are a total of 15 word cards ( a few words a card).  But actually we can also let the kids spell any words using the colourful letter tiles. For very young children, we can start with 2 letter words like is, am, in, it, etc, then go on to all the 3 letter words.<br /><br />csc,<br />Yes definitely can keep for grandchildren   <img src="https://forum.kiasuparents.com/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/android/1f609.png?v=f4f27f6278e" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-android emoji--wink" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title=":wink:" alt="😉" /><p></p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18782</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18782</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[tamarind]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 03 Mar 2009 22:05:15 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Tue, 03 Mar 2009 05:18:26 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p>thanks tamarind for the website. my boy knows this website, but he didn't really like it.hahha. wonder why. :?</p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18681</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18681</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[smurf]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 03 Mar 2009 05:18:26 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Tue, 03 Mar 2009 05:00:01 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p>Hey mommies,<br /><br /><br />The \"Scrabble\" box cover looks real familiar. Think my kids had played the game  but that was like 8-9 years ago. Gosh! That long! It's quite useful in helping them to recognise common sight words and to spell them as well.<br /><br />I've got a feeling the box has been stacked away in the storeroom...looks like now I must make sure I keep it for my grandchildren.. :lol:</p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18674</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18674</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[csc]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 03 Mar 2009 05:00:01 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Tue, 03 Mar 2009 03:48:07 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p></p><blockquote><b>buds:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black">Heyya guys,<br /><br /><br />POPULAR and Metro has this.<br />You guys Jurong people can find <br />it at JP's Toys R Us, shud have..<br />Biggest toys store wud have everything<br />right? Tamarind, how much you bought<br />that, mebbe for people who wanna <br />compare prices.. Thanks in advance.</blockquote></blockquote>Buds<br />Toys R Us in JP is undergoing reno now...sad..only got Kiddy Palace to satisfied this shopping mummy's quest for new &amp; exciting pdts for her kiddo. <img src="https://forum.kiasuparents.com/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/android/1f609.png?v=f4f27f6278e" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-android emoji--wink" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title=":wink:" alt="😉" /><p></p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18660</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18660</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[shylyn]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 03 Mar 2009 03:48:07 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Tue, 03 Mar 2009 03:46:44 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p></p><blockquote><b>tamarind:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black">Shylyn,<br /><br />Here's the box.<br /><br /><img src="\&quot;http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3363/3256121091_24351d64e8.jpg\&quot;" /><img src="\&quot;&lt;a" />http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3363/3256121091_24351d64e8.jpg\"&gt;<br /><br />I help you to look out for it when I go shopping.</blockquote></blockquote>Hi Taramind<br />Hmm..unable to view the photo leh..wonder why..btw, thks for helping me look out for it..let me know if u happened to see it somewhere..gam xia! :lol:<p></p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18659</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18659</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[shylyn]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 03 Mar 2009 03:46:44 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Mon, 02 Mar 2009 14:56:45 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p>buds,<br /><br />I forgot the price  :oops: Bought it more than a year ago. I will post the price here if I see it in the shops.<br /><br />smurf,<br />There are a few levels of difficulty for this scrabble game.  Level 1 contains very simple 3 and 4 letter words.<br /><br />A child should first know all the phonics letter sounds very well, and be able to join letters to form 3 letter words.  He should first learn to spell by listening to the phonics sounds, so there is no need to memorize.  Like buds say there are sight words, which must be memorized but these are at the higher levels and can be done when the child is older.<br /><br />For free and excellent phonics resources, check out this web site.<br /><br /><a href="http://www.starfall.com/">http://www.starfall.com/</a></p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18604</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18604</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[tamarind]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 02 Mar 2009 14:56:45 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Mon, 02 Mar 2009 14:23:12 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p>Hi Tamarind,<br /><br /><br />er, my 4 YO can read simple words, but he reads very slowly, like robot. :lol: <br /><br />just want to check, the scrabble game is suitable for him in this case? cos I think a kid needs to have certain level of command of language before he can play the game right? :?</p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18596</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18596</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[smurf]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 02 Mar 2009 14:23:12 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Mon, 02 Mar 2009 12:11:31 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">Heyya guys,<br /><br /><br />POPULAR and Metro has this.<br />You guys Jurong people can find <br />it at JP’s Toys R Us, shud have…<br />Biggest toys store wud have everything<br />right? Tamarind, how much you bought<br />that, mebbe for people who wanna <br />compare prices… Thanks in advance.</p>
]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18585</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18585</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[buds]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 02 Mar 2009 12:11:31 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Mon, 02 Mar 2009 10:07:39 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p>Shylyn,<br /><br />Here's the box.<br /><br /><img src="\&quot;http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3363/3256121091_24351d64e8.jpg\&quot;" /><img src="\&quot;&lt;a" />http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3363/3256121091_24351d64e8.jpg\"&gt;<br /><br />I help you to look out for it when I go shopping.</p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18568</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18568</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[tamarind]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 02 Mar 2009 10:07:39 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Sat, 28 Feb 2009 15:29:36 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p></p><blockquote><b>buds:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black"><br />The word \"bush\" for example, only the /sh/ is<br />a phonetic combination - but the /b/ and /u/<br />put together is actually - baaa sound. </blockquote></blockquote>Heheh...u r talking to a mummy who know nuts abt phonics..hehehe..honestly, i think my boy knows his phonics much better than his mummy.. <img src="https://forum.kiasuparents.com/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/android/1f61b.png?v=f4f27f6278e" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-android emoji--stuck_out_tongue" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title=":P" alt="😛" /> <br /><blockquote><b>buds:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black">Reading is the key to improve children's<br />vocabulary, so must try to read to them everyday <br />and also get them to read to us!</blockquote></blockquote>Oh yes..it's my boy's habit prior to sleeping..read at least 2 books b4 he is willing to sleep..of cos, he knows this is only so when he is with us..cos when he is with my in laws, who aren't able to read English, he wont even ask them to read.<br /><blockquote><b>buds:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black">Most time nowadays, parents are too focussed on achieving these <br />milestones faster than the child's age and hence this creates the so- <br />called very advanced child. <br />The more parents find their child can do certain things ahead of peers <br />their age, the more they push the limits... and slowly the children have <br />less of the time for their childhood to really enjoy being the child that <br />they are... </blockquote></blockquote>I agree with u that there is a drive for parents to let their children achieve their milestones earlier..it's somehow a boost to their confidence &amp; a source of pride to them. Honestly, i don't deny that i, myself is really proud of my boy..not only for his intelligence but also for being so adorable. Ok..i know it is NOT ok to booast abt oneself..but being a parent, i'm sure u will feel pride whenever ur kid does/excel in some areas..of cos, all these are not at the expense of pushing the kids to their limits. Childhood is still to be enjoyed.  <img src="https://forum.kiasuparents.com/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/android/1f604.png?v=f4f27f6278e" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-android emoji--smile" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title=":D" alt="😄" /> <br /><blockquote><b>buds:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black">But as for writing, its a physical <br />process where if he's still of a child's age, he'll be able to carry out <br />child related activities. Prior to that will also include fine motor skills/ <br />games like lacing, beading, playing pick up with chopsticks, feeding <br />himself and many other activities that can strengthen the childs fingers <br />to the pencil grip/pincer grip - thumb, pointer and tall man. </blockquote></blockquote>I didn't really give him training in this aspect..partially i didn't know the imptance of that...he does some lacing, chopsticks, beading etc either during his Shichida or CC time..at home, we usually spend time playing games, reading or let him engage in free play. <br /><br /><blockquote><b>buds:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black">legible and able to put words from <br />his mind/reading onto print.. </blockquote></blockquote>Hmm..my boy surprised me yest by writing (w/o any help from those tracing lines of alphabets) a few more additional letters like \"T', \"E', \"F', 'J', \"V', \"U\" &amp; \"X\". In fact, I find his writing of \"U\", \"F\" &amp; \"E* very well written. I'm not sure whether this is a sign of being ready to write..<br /><br /><blockquote><b>buds:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black">As a safeguard to keep child's interest in reading but yet trying to nurture <br />the writing process, i wud suggest to introduce both on a level scale and <br />not so much more reading activities than written activity. Provide oppor- <br />tunities if not for writing, at least colouring, shading, cutting, tracing shapes and pictures... etc. </blockquote></blockquote>Oh yes..he loves to use the scissors to cut! In fact, i can rest assured passing him a pair of scissor to cut..he will becareful w e scissor..colouring, erhh..dunno whether it is typical guy thing..dun really colour well..hehehe.. <img src="https://forum.kiasuparents.com/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/android/1f609.png?v=f4f27f6278e" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-android emoji--wink" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title=":wink:" alt="😉" /> <br /><blockquote><b>buds:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black">I always remind parents - teach everything age- <br />appropriately. Like the slogan says, everything in moderation is fine <br />and healthy. As too much of something/anything may pose side effects...</blockquote></blockquote>Hmm..if u read taramind's link...i did point out that i'm worried  (in such a way) that my boy will get bored when he goes to class in future as he knows a lot..not that i intentionally teach him materials that r not his age grp..but rather, i'll deem whether the material is suitable &amp; of interest to him 1st.. i guess, no matter how much we teach, there will always still be new knowledge somewhere.. <img src="https://forum.kiasuparents.com/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/android/1f604.png?v=f4f27f6278e" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-android emoji--smile" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title=":D" alt="😄" /><p></p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18409</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18409</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[shylyn]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 28 Feb 2009 15:29:36 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Sat, 28 Feb 2009 15:09:44 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p></p><blockquote><b>tamarind:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black">smurf, shylyn,<br /><br />I bought the Scrabble for Kids at Kiddy Palace  <img src="https://forum.kiasuparents.com/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/android/1f642.png?v=f4f27f6278e" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-android emoji--slightly_smiling_face" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title=":)" alt="🙂" /><br /><br />shylyn,<br />My kids play with it whenever they like. My older girl can spell independently without any help. My younger boy is very motivated to try on his own and refused any help from me. Both of them spell using phonics. No memorizing needed.</blockquote></blockquote>Taramind<br />hmm..how come i didn't see it..do u hv a picture of the cover?? <br />It's gd to let the kiddos learn spelling in a fun manner..via games! Think my boy still dun understand the concept of playing games..heheh..<p></p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18408</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18408</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[shylyn]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 28 Feb 2009 15:09:44 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Sat, 28 Feb 2009 15:06:54 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p>Allo Buds<br /><br />Me also haven't been posting as i did not hv internet access..else is i dun hv the time to reply..btw, how r ur girls?? Hope they r better now..what happened to them?<br /></p><blockquote><b>buds:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black">Didn rcv reply PM. Many apologies. Bummed with 2 not so well kiddies <br />and an extremely busy hubs this week. Plus lately with P2's teacher out<br />since last Friday, P2 has been bringing back LOADS of work, like can you<br />believe it? 8 pages of Maths homework??? All in the same workbook?<br />Gawd, is the substitute even doing anything? P2 is only too happy to do<br />it with me, cos she says in school the class is given only 10 minutes to do<br />5 pages or else, NO RECESS!!!</blockquote></blockquote>Hmm..no wonder i hv not received any replies from u &amp; another mummy..ok..will drop u the pm again..do let me know whether u received it this time. <br />Oh dear..can see tt ur P2 girl is stressed by the piling work..is her teacher back oredi? How many hrs does she spend with tt subsitute teacher?? It must be a whole load of writing to hv cause e blisters..poor darling..did u go &amp; find out exactly what was happening?? <br /><br /><blockquote><b>buds:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black">Ok, now the good part... been doing research on how to best answer<br />some of the questions being posted to me the best i can. Some of which<br />are pretty challenging too... a bit rusty now i suppose, not being back to<br />the actual circle, hahaa... BUT i know i'll be on track soon enuf, esp when<br />my kiddies are better (in health).  <img src="https://forum.kiasuparents.com/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/android/1f609.png?v=f4f27f6278e" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-android emoji--wink" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title=":wink:" alt="😉" />  </blockquote></blockquote>I'm glad to hear that..let e o buds return.... <img src="https://forum.kiasuparents.com/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/android/1f609.png?v=f4f27f6278e" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-android emoji--wink" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title=":wink:" alt="😉" /> <br /><blockquote><b>buds:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black">Think can only see you guys again next week by the looks of it.<br />I try to read up to catch up but may need actual sitting time to <br />reply to all... Late better than never? Can like dat or not?  <img src="https://forum.kiasuparents.com/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/android/1f61b.png?v=f4f27f6278e" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-android emoji--stuck_out_tongue" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title=":P" alt="😛" /></blockquote></blockquote>Aiyoo...of cos lah...own time own target..rem? Hee..somemore u r not paid..so no obligations lah..u r doing many of us a great favour by sharing ur thoughts/ideas etc...(cant speak for the rest) but i would rather see a well rested &amp; energised Buds back in action!  :lol:<p></p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18407</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18407</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[shylyn]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 28 Feb 2009 15:06:54 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Fri, 27 Feb 2009 09:24:07 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p></p><blockquote><b>buds:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black"><br />As for reading, the earlier the child starts his foundation... the faster<br />he will read coherently.... clearly... This is a cognitive process. The<br />stimuli he receives from caregiver or early playgroup may enhance<br />his ability to read at a young age. But as for writing, its a physical<br />process where if he's still of a child's age, he'll be able to carry out<br />child related activities. Prior to that will also include fine motor skills/<br />games like lacing, beading, playing pick up with chopsticks, feeding<br />himself and many other activities that can strengthen the childs fingers<br />to the pencil grip/pincer grip - thumb, pointer and tall man. </blockquote></blockquote>buds,<br />I still remember this thread which I read in 2006. Shylyn should know this very well.<br /><br /><a href="http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/messages/353635/374211.html">http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/messages/353635/374211.html</a><br /><br />The mommy wrote :<br /><span style="color:blue">Hi,<br />Anyone here with a Aug 2003 baby ( i.e 2 yrs and 3 months now ) who's able to read books independently aloud and do maths( multiplication ) ? my boy is able to do all these and was just wondering is this very advanced for his age or just normal ? He can speak very well , in sentences too. In fact, he started reading book ( just words no pictures ,at 18 months )...anyone with the same experience out there ?</span><br /><br />This is a very good example of a child who has been given a lot of stimulation from a young age ! <br /><br />My girl, on the other hand, has no stimulation until she was about 3 years 8 months old, when I started to teach her phonics and reading. <br /><br />Honestly I think that mommy of the super advanced boy is doing too much. I know a lot of people think that she is hot-housing her child, but I think she is just doing what she thinks is best for her child.  I am actually inspired by her to start teaching my own kids at home.  I do not advise any mommy to be like me who totally did nothing to develop my girl intellectually before the age of 3. <br /><br />Before that age, I focused on developing her fine motor skills using the methods you described : lacing, beading, playing pick up with chopsticks, feeding herself and many other activities that can strengthen the childs fingers to the pencil grip/pincer grip ... I even let her use kids' scissors to cut paper since 3 years old. She has excellent fine motor skills from a very young age.  I do not have to let her practice writing at home. Somehow she just knows how to write, and very neatly too.<br /><br />My boy on the other hand, only starts to respond to stimuli after the age of 3.  He also does the exact same activities as my girl to train his fine motor skills, though his development is far slower. But he is progressing well, slowly but steadily  <img src="https://forum.kiasuparents.com/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/android/1f609.png?v=f4f27f6278e" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-android emoji--wink" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title=":wink:" alt="😉" />  so I just let him develop at his own pace.<br /><br />I think that stimuli is important, the amount of stimuli should depend on the child's ability. And it is also very important to focus on developing their fine motor skills.<br /><br /><blockquote><b>buds:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black">Children who are exposed to some phonics and<br />also are early readers to simple books will be<br />able to manipulate this material with much enjoy-<br />ment. If child is only exposed to Phonics but doesn<br />read a lot, may not be able to make out the words<br />efficiently. Reading is the key to improve children's<br />vocabulary, so must try to read to them everyday<br />and also get them to read to us! </blockquote></blockquote>I agree  <img src="https://forum.kiasuparents.com/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/android/1f609.png?v=f4f27f6278e" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-android emoji--wink" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title=":wink:" alt="😉" />  My girl reads a lot so she is very familiar with sight words.  I teach my younger boy to use the color code to help him spell words which are not phonetic.  For example, a green tile goes on the green rectangle, blue tile goes on the blue rectangle, etc. He can guess the spelling on his own.  The best thing is he thought he is playing, and did not realize that he is learning  <img src="https://forum.kiasuparents.com/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/android/1f609.png?v=f4f27f6278e" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-android emoji--wink" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title=":wink:" alt="😉" /><p></p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18346</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18346</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[tamarind]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 27 Feb 2009 09:24:07 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Fri, 27 Feb 2009 07:02:41 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p></p><blockquote><b>shylyn:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black"><br />Wonder what is the normal age for a boy to develop his fine motor skills such that he can control his pen and write properly. Recently, I noticed my boy being able to trace accordingly (if he put his mind at it) and he is able to write 'T', \"E\" &amp; \"I\"..he is trying to write his name but appears like lines/strokes on the paper. In fact, previously, he will shiver when he is holding his pen..scared us..cos tot what is happening until i realised that he is trying to write but his fine motor skills r holding him back. </blockquote></blockquote><blockquote><b>tamarind:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black">shylyn, I think the majority children should be able to write well after 5 years old. But every child is different and some are able to write since well since 3 years old or even younger. I heard early childhood experts say that we should not make a child write too much if his fine motor skills are not good enough. I think I need buds to confirm whether this is true or not.</blockquote></blockquote>Wuah.. i not expert leh. Hehee.. But i will answer that the way i know<br />how. Yes, shylyn... you see... as our children grow they will slowly<br />develop skills depending on the nature of their living and schooling<br />environment. There's a milestone for every age range to be achieved.<br />Most time nowadays, parents are too focussed on achieving these<br />milestones faster than the child's age and hence this creates the so-<br />called very advanced child. So, then comes children who can read off<br />the dictionary by 4yrs old. A few can write legibly well past 3yrs old, etc.<br />The more parents find their child can do certain things ahead of peers<br />their age, the more they push the limits... and slowly the children have<br />less of the time for their childhood to really enjoy being the child that<br />they are...<br /><br />A milestone is a gauge for us, to help monitor our children's growth and<br />development and assure us that they are growing up healthy and also<br />cognitively on track. For example if we say a child at age 6 mths shud<br />be at a stage where they roll and roll on their mat a good full round,<br />the child is doing okay, head and neck up strong and looking attentively<br />at a familiar adult and smiling... On the milestone range, this is a CHECK.<br />Means, the child can do it at an estimated age range.<br /><br />As for reading, the earlier the child starts his foundation... the faster<br />he will read coherently.... clearly... This is a cognitive process. The <br />stimuli he receives from caregiver or early playgroup may enhance <br />his ability to read at a young age. But as for writing, its a physical<br />process where if he's still of a child's age, he'll be able to carry out<br />child related activities. Prior to that will also include fine motor skills/<br />games like lacing, beading, playing pick up with chopsticks, feeding <br />himself and many other activities that can strengthen the childs fingers<br />to the pencil grip/pincer grip - thumb, pointer and tall man.<br /><br />As a rough estimate, tamarind is right. At age 5yrs old, the child can be<br />at a stage of writing comfortably well - legible and able to put words from<br />his mind/reading onto print. Reading can always come earlier prior to <br />writing due to the abovementioned reasons (of stimuli) but it does not<br />necessarily mean the child is ready for writing. <br /><br />As a safeguard to keep child's interest in reading but yet trying to nurture<br />the writing process, i wud suggest to introduce both on a level scale and<br />not so much more reading activities than written activity. Provide oppor-<br />tunities if not for writing, at least colouring, shading, cutting, tracing shapes and pictures... etc. <br /><br />There are some young learners i've come across, (my K2 included) who <br />are put off with writing as it slows down their reading. They find that hey,<br />i can read that already and now i gotta write it? blah bblah bbblah... so <br />gotta be careful. I always remind parents - teach everything age-<br />appropriately. Like the slogan says, everything in moderation is fine <br />and healthy. As too much of something/anything may pose side effects...<p></p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18323</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18323</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[buds]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 27 Feb 2009 07:02:41 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Children of average ability on Fri, 27 Feb 2009 06:39:40 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p></p><blockquote><b>shylyn:</b><blockquote style="border:1px solid black">[....... a few suitable game sets for him...<br /><br />trying to search for Buds's recommendation of the bus game..<br />but didn't see it leh..anyway, also intending to get Scrabble as well..</blockquote></blockquote>The Bus Stop game is under How to teach pre-school maths, shylyn.<br />Its available at Growing Fun. <br /><br />As for Scrabble, in comes in many variations now, including kiddie<br />sets of different levels. The kiddie versions are the coloured ones.<br />The normal deluxe version of the adults is the green box with wood<br />coloured tiles.<p></p>]]></description><link>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18318</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/18318</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[buds]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 27 Feb 2009 06:39:40 GMT</pubDate></item></channel></rss>