<![CDATA[Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School]]>I am wondering how is the time schedule of your kids in sec school ? IP and non IP.


I am a bit worried and lost. My girl in IP, sec 1 and she is like so busy everyday. Morning she has to wake up at 5:30am and I try to insist her to go to bed at 10pm for sufficient sleep.

Every weekdays, she is always so busy, lots of homework and sometimes hardly has time to talk to her because don't want to disturb her.

Monday after 3rd language, reach home about 7:45.
Tuesday & Friday, after CCA, reach home about 7pm.
Wednesday, after either care and share or contact time with seniors, reach home about 4:30pm.
Thursday, no extra sessions to stay back after school hour, so can reach home earlier, about 3:30pm but then has piano lessons at home.
Sunday, almost spend the whole day doing homework or research, starting from 11:00 am till 10pm. In between has lunch and dinner time.

Everyday she is complaining tired and every Monday, she is dragging herself to go school. Saturday is the only time free and we would have some outing on that day so that she could relax herself.

Is this normal in Sec school life ? Already 2 months have past and she is still not getting used to this tight schedule. Is this normal ? She seems not to enjoy sec school life as much as primary school life. Is it common ? I am seeing her smiling face lesser compare to last year. I always talk to her, counsel her and trying to make her happy but seems not much effect. She always give me many negative feedbacks about sec school life and classmates. Any good advices ? Thanks 😞

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Masquerade444:
Will getting them to type on Whatsapp Web give you more liberty of observation and monitoring?

Not unless you have access to their Whatsapp Web also. But I wouldn't recommend doing that. Teenagers need their privacy, and many parents mean well and worry about their children that sometimes they invade that privacy without thinking. This will definitely lead to the child having less and less trust in the parent, since they feel so suffocated at having what's supposed to be private monitored all the time. Teens need privacy and space to go. If parents don't respect that, they will grow up with many trust issues, not just towards parents, but also towards other people, making it difficult for them to create good, healthy friendships and relationships.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1777274https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1777274Thu, 01 Jun 2017 09:00:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Thu, 01 Jun 2017 04:53:13 GMT]]>Will getting them to type on Whatsapp Web give you more liberty of observation and monitoring?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1777218https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1777218Thu, 01 Jun 2017 04:53:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Tue, 25 Apr 2017 01:39:10 GMT]]>

ngl2010:
I noticed that nowadays DS only uses WhatsApp for homework/projects/tests/CCA and other school activities. WhatsApp has become unhappening. The ones that irritate me are SnapChat, Instagram, Telegram, Skype, etc. :slapshead:

whatsapp is not really reliable. what irritates me is instagram...you will see so-and-so is following you.
super bo liao. as long as daughter does her homework, revises and knows her limits, i will clam. i've already reminded her that she is facing SA1 until 8/5. last night, i heard son warning her to work hard.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769959https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769959Tue, 25 Apr 2017 01:39:10 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Tue, 25 Apr 2017 00:00:50 GMT]]>

XYZ1:
Funz:

The next thing you will notice is your child busting their data limit.


I don't give data plan to DS at all, his school has free wifi, if he's outside, he uses SG wireless whenever he can link up...
at home, he just uses the home wifi.
He has been bugging me for data plan, but seeing his inability to control his hp urge, I've been saying NO.

My kids dont hv data oso. My eldest was given data in J1, cuz he claimed he needs it for pw. Once his pw finished, I cancelled the data. In fact, I took away his hp for a few mths bef his A lvls. Nobody cld contact him, worked miracles for his A lvls : )

They dont need data in school. Their schools doesnt allow the use of hp in class also. Unless maybe, they need to take pics of stuff on the board or stuff that their teachers are flashing on screen. After three in sec sch and JC, I think they need a camera more than a hp : )

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769927https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769927Tue, 25 Apr 2017 00:00:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Mon, 24 Apr 2017 22:37:08 GMT]]>My battle with yes to data or no to data is not with my kids. It’s with DH. I have long accepted the fact that when it comes to gadgets and the latest IT n social media trends, I have to concede. Easier to manage the kids than the husband.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769906https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769906Mon, 24 Apr 2017 22:37:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Mon, 24 Apr 2017 12:51:18 GMT]]>

slmkhoo:
Good for you! My kids who didn't have data plans all the way through JC.

Ha, this is my last line of defence agst the hp...I'm planning to hold off data plan as much as I can.....lucky for now,
DS sort of just accepted our NO and did not keep coming to us and did not kick up a big fuss....I want it to stay this way! πŸ™

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769865https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769865Mon, 24 Apr 2017 12:51:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Mon, 24 Apr 2017 12:34:05 GMT]]>

XYZ1:
Funz:

The next thing you will notice is your child busting their data limit.


I don't give data plan to DS at all, his school has free wifi, if he's outside, he uses SG wireless whenever he can link up...
at home, he just uses the home wifi.
He has been bugging me for data plan, but seeing his inability to control his hp urge, I've been saying NO.

Good for you! My kids who didn't have data plans all the way through JC. My older girl has just been given a data plan (but she isn't the kind to use much); the younger one is like your son - wifi in school and at home, free wifi outside if she can get it. They don't need it if they are mostly at school or at home.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769862https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769862Mon, 24 Apr 2017 12:34:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Mon, 24 Apr 2017 10:44:32 GMT]]>

Funz:
The next thing you will notice is your child busting their data limit.

I don't give data plan to DS at all, his school has free wifi, if he's outside, he uses SG wireless whenever he can link up...
at home, he just uses the home wifi.
He has been bugging me for data plan, but seeing his inability to control his hp urge, I've been saying NO.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769842https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769842Mon, 24 Apr 2017 10:44:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Mon, 24 Apr 2017 09:00:56 GMT]]>

vinegar:
MyPillow:

ya, what is this generation called? the class rep/monitor wats app the class to remind hw, projects etc

Last yr my kid was not that wats app active but this yr in sec 2, he is totally into this thing .
All cca grp, academic, extra prog . extra roles have a grp , including youth grp, pri sch alumni, game alumni - All are Super active πŸ˜“ sometimes when i took away, the class mates were discussing work over wats app and video call , then i got to give him the phone again
Conf call for lower sec is common now, I \"faint\" :faint:

Exactly. My DS told me that it was the teacher who told the class monitor to inform the class on the assignment, etc...

I hv no choice but to give him 10mins to chk thru his whatsapp everyday, as advised by his teachers.

10 mins is OK, surely? In fact, I prefer to let kids have access for short periods so they get to practise switching it off. Keeping them from it altogether doesn't enable them to practise that skill!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769810https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769810Mon, 24 Apr 2017 09:00:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Mon, 24 Apr 2017 08:59:17 GMT]]>I noticed that nowadays DS only uses WhatsApp for homework/projects/tests/CCA and other school activities. WhatsApp has become unhappening. The ones that irritate me are SnapChat, Instagram, Telegram, Skype, etc. :slapshead:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769808https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769808Mon, 24 Apr 2017 08:59:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Mon, 24 Apr 2017 08:37:32 GMT]]>

MyPillow:
ya, what is this generation called? the class rep/monitor wats app the class to remind hw, projects etc

Last yr my kid was not that wats app active but this yr in sec 2, he is totally into this thing .
All cca grp, academic, extra prog . extra roles have a grp , including youth grp, pri sch alumni, game alumni - All are Super active πŸ˜“ sometimes when i took away, the class mates were discussing work over wats app and video call , then i got to give him the phone again
Conf call for lower sec is common now, I \"faint\" :faint:
Exactly. My DS told me that it was the teacher who told the class monitor to inform the class on the assignment, etc...

I hv no choice but to give him 10mins to chk thru his whatsapp everyday, as advised by his teachers.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769800https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769800Mon, 24 Apr 2017 08:37:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Mon, 24 Apr 2017 06:09:10 GMT]]>Some kids use the reason/excuse of parents limit access (or early bedtime) and conveniently disappear on the evening when group project is due at 2359 when they have not finish their part.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769765https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769765Mon, 24 Apr 2017 06:09:10 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Mon, 24 Apr 2017 05:27:05 GMT]]>son started it. he brought the mobile phone to the toilet, told me he needed peace and quiet :faint: to do biz.

then i told him sitting on the toilet bowl will cause piles. toilet time has reduced.
now daughter brings the mobile phone to the toilet as well...tells me exactly the same thing. so i told her piles are painful and need operation. now she says she needs to take a relaxing bath after a tiring day in school.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769758https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769758Mon, 24 Apr 2017 05:27:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Mon, 24 Apr 2017 05:17:59 GMT]]>

janet88:

i must be very lucky to sign the M1 mysim $15 plan before it was discontinued. my data plan is only 1gb...enough for reading/sending email & whatsapp. cannot play games or else sure burst. hubby also signed a mysim $15 as a spare. when mum was hospitalized, i used hubby's m1 line to play games while in the hospital. kids are afraid to have their mobile phones confiscated if they burst their limits...so they are careful. BUT when they are at home, i have to monitor usage because there is wi-fi. you know what they do? they bring mobile phones into the toilet, lock the door and tell me they need to do biz.
SA1 these 3 weeks.
wow, ι«˜ζ‹› ,who started this first πŸ˜‚

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769754https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769754Mon, 24 Apr 2017 05:17:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Mon, 24 Apr 2017 04:58:21 GMT]]>

MyPillow:

There is this SIM only plan , plan is cheap with 3 or 5Gb data at $20 only, all 3 operators have
but ds commented singt is most stable in his sch compound .
i must be very lucky to sign the M1 mysim $15 plan before it was discontinued. my data plan is only 1gb...enough for reading/sending email & whatsapp. cannot play games or else sure burst. hubby also signed a mysim $15 as a spare. when mum was hospitalized, i used hubby's m1 line to play games while in the hospital. kids are afraid to have their mobile phones confiscated if they burst their limits...so they are careful. BUT when they are at home, i have to monitor usage because there is wi-fi. you know what they do? they bring mobile phones into the toilet, lock the door and tell me they need to do biz.
SA1 these 3 weeks.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769752https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769752Mon, 24 Apr 2017 04:58:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Mon, 24 Apr 2017 04:26:03 GMT]]>If u take or keep the phone away also no use Coz there is Lap top wats app and conferencing for project work discussion, they can continue the wats app on computer.

I keep telling ds to manage aand take charge of his own learning, as far as possible, I want to trust him , dun break the Trust and let parents take over the Control button again , like a Pri kid.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769746https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769746Mon, 24 Apr 2017 04:26:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Mon, 24 Apr 2017 04:23:51 GMT]]>I am just thankful that my kids did not have WA in early sec school! Perhaps parents should feedback to teachers about the issues of info and assignments on WA? Maybe such official stuff should be done on the computer, leaving WA to be social (and for the most urgent announcements).


And for less important stuff, let the kids tell their friends that they have "the Dr is IN" times (like Lucy the Peanuts comics).

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769743https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769743Mon, 24 Apr 2017 04:23:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Mon, 24 Apr 2017 04:18:16 GMT]]>

janet88:
Funz:

The next thing you will notice is your child busting their data limit. Especially if they are holding leadership positions. So many things to organise and communicate.


I was amazed when I saw dd's nose glued to her phone and I told her off and she showed me that she was doing a school assignment on her phone. Some English essay writing assignment where students are supposed to log in to write & post their essays and critique their classmates work as well.

my daughter's data plan is very limited...in fact she can only whatsapp at home.
we are using M1. son is very lucky...he has 3gb data plan using hubby's corporate plan before the retrenchment. but end of this year when 2 years expire, will probably switch to student line or mysim plan.

There is this SIM only plan , plan is cheap with 3 or 5Gb data at $20 only, all 3 operators have
but ds commented singt is most stable in his sch compound .

I guess all other boys are also v random n disorganised, they dunno how to or difficult to fix a fixed timing to log in to discuss work. And at one time, they can be in one for more chat grps. True that teachers are in their chat grp too . eg Sci chat, HMH chat, CCA chat, Form class chat , SEOW liao lor :siao: all can come in at diff time, I know coz I am holding his phone n i made know to ds I am reading for minimally him on impt msg while he needs to focus on his main work first ( I dun reply msg for him lar, sometime dd replied for fun n tease his fren :rotflmao: )

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769741https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769741Mon, 24 Apr 2017 04:18:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Mon, 24 Apr 2017 04:08:34 GMT]]>

Funz:
The next thing you will notice is your child busting their data limit. Especially if they are holding leadership positions. So many things to organise and communicate.


I was amazed when I saw dd's nose glued to her phone and I told her off and she showed me that she was doing a school assignment on her phone. Some English essay writing assignment where students are supposed to log in to write & post their essays and critique their classmates work as well.
my daughter's data plan is very limited...in fact she can only whatsapp at home.
we are using M1. son is very lucky...he has 3gb data plan using hubby's corporate plan before the retrenchment. but end of this year when 2 years expire, will probably switch to student line or mysim plan.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769738https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769738Mon, 24 Apr 2017 04:08:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Mon, 24 Apr 2017 03:56:55 GMT]]>The next thing you will notice is your child busting their data limit. Especially if they are holding leadership positions. So many things to organise and communicate.


I was amazed when I saw dd’s nose glued to her phone and I told her off and she showed me that she was doing a school assignment on her phone. Some English essay writing assignment where students are supposed to log in to write & post their essays and critique their classmates work as well.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769735https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769735Mon, 24 Apr 2017 03:56:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Mon, 24 Apr 2017 03:51:36 GMT]]>

TheAnswer:

This is totally normal. I even have parents chat group that spams messages also. Most of the time I only browse. Hardly reply.
i like a 'clean' whatsapp page...ie only the ones i frequently whatsapp like immediate family members...same goes for SMS. for my email, i do frequent housekeeping to keep it to the minimum.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769733https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769733Mon, 24 Apr 2017 03:51:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Mon, 24 Apr 2017 03:32:59 GMT]]>Fix a time to switch on your Mobile Data/Wifi to read WAs? After HW and revision's done?

Fix a con call or video call time to discuss HW and CCAs?

Guess the schools want to train students to multitask and be work-ready? πŸ˜‚ Aren't we like that too? But the diff is we're paid to respond in a timely manner and be on standby at unearthly hours.

Not sure whether it's a good tool or not. My nephew in pri sch relies heavily on WA to get instant solutions for his HW as his parents are working and he doesn't have tuition. Anything he does not know, he asks his classmates and some smart guy will instantaneously WA the model drawing or solution over. Parents got to watch what data they transfer to one another. You want to ensure they don't rely on ghost writers to do their HW.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769723https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769723Mon, 24 Apr 2017 03:32:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Mon, 24 Apr 2017 02:41:56 GMT]]>

MyPillow:
All cca grp, academic, extra prog . extra roles have a grp , including youth grp, pri sch alumni, game alumni - All are Super active πŸ˜“ sometimes when i took away, the class mates were discussing work over wats app and video call , then i got to give him the phone again
Same. After hp being kept away, usu after 10-15mins, DS would come to me and said that he need his hp to \"check something with friends\"...that something could be details for homework, or advice on how to do some questions, or even checking with teachers on the instructions given before....pattern liao-liao one....After giving the hp and if I walk into the room after 15mins, I see him swiping Instagram or watching youtube. :frustrated: :mad:
In pri school, he was totally not like this, when we said stop, he would stop and go back to his work, now too much distractions from all these watsapp groups...Actually we had agreed with him before giving him the hp (he did not even carry a phone in pri school at all) that he needed to abide by our agreed time out/hands-off period....that time he agreed so readily, now is ζŠ›εˆ°δΉιœ„δΊ‘ε€– already. I even asked the form teachers if I can take away his phone, but teachers said that in sec school, one of the mediums of dispensing instructions and info is via hp......so indirectly, the teachers are telling me hp is very important...and somemore must smart phone bcos no using sms....all via watsapp. I am open for DS to be using his hp so long as he does not display addiction and is behaving responsibly towards school work and exams....that's the εΊ•ηΊΏ for me. Still monitoring him, maybe when my εΊ•ηΊΏ is being stepped, I hv to just ban his phone for a longer period?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769709https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769709Mon, 24 Apr 2017 02:41:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Time schedule &amp; life of Secondary School on Mon, 24 Apr 2017 02:20:41 GMT]]>ya, what is this generation called? the class rep/monitor wats app the class to remind hw, projects etc

Last yr my kid was not that wats app active but this yr in sec 2, he is totally into this thing .
All cca grp, academic, extra prog . extra roles have a grp , including youth grp, pri sch alumni, game alumni - All are Super active πŸ˜“ sometimes when i took away, the class mates were discussing work over wats app and video call , then i got to give him the phone again
Conf call for lower sec is common now, I \"faint\" :faint:

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