peapot:

Sometimes I find friends are even better than siblings! My husband's brother for example never ever contact him unless he needs to borrow my husband's car. His son getting married or he needs the car for don't know what reason. After that you don't hear from him again. With close friends this will never happen. Even it does happen, they will at least say thanks.


Pinky, people says when we marry we need to accept his family too but looking at the relationship between them, can we really accept it all???

Busymom:

pinky:

[quote=\"buds\"]Hi pinky, hope your new year will be more peaceful n blissful with major hurdles out of the way. :hugs:


Don't understand why some hubbies allow themselves to be sponged. :scratchhead: Yeh.. I bet mine would say he doesnt mind cos its his money too. To think all this time I try to be an understanding n tolerant wife which includes not having to spend $ unnecessarily. Most times also $ usually spent on the children. Mebbe I should start learning how to sponge.. :idea:

your poor husband will be a super dry sponge if both sides do the same :evil: :rotflmao: just joking
anyway, same as you even I have supp cards from him, sometimes I dont even use them for the entire month. Recently, to help cut down
unnecessary expenses, I forbid him to inform that SIL whenever he goes on overseas trips bec she will ask him to buy cosmetic at the duty free shops then again, never pay him. :mad: Mind you, the perfume that she buys are not cheap either and even have the cheek to buy for her 2 kids too :stompfeet:

Busymom:

Funz:

Which is why I spend my own money and not DH's money. I want to refresh my money's qi.


:rotflmao: :rotflmao:

Ok a bit :siao: today.

You should also help to refresh your DH's money's qi... :rotflmao:

Funz:

Which is why I spend my own money and not DH's money. I want to refresh my money's qi.


:rotflmao: :rotflmao:

Ok a bit :siao: today.

insider:

buds:

Dry sponge, pinky?


I still haven't learnt yet leh..
After learn oso still need time and experience to apply. :evil:
My fault for being too understanding bah. :politebleah:

buds,

wonder have you ever read one of my writings on 'money bowl' (don't remember which thread it is now).

Basically it’s about the size of a person’s ‘money bowl’ is more or less fixed in his lifetime (no matter how hard or how lazy he is). He brings along this ‘size’ from his past karma.

So, if one’s bowl is already full, then the money will find ways to go out (whether to pay for medical, repairs, for relatives’ ‘sponging’ or whatever).

So, do your hubby a ‘favour’ by helping him to spend, meaning buying things only max with a second thought and not keep thinking and thinking. Well, if you don’t buy / spend, someone will (coz the money needs to go out for new money to come in. The ‘qi’ of money needs to move.)!

So, it’s OK to be a SPONGE!!

Gong Xi Fa Cai!

PS:
How many times have we heard of wives grieving about how well they had managed the family’s finances by being thoughtful and thrifty, only at the end to know that husbands splurging shamelessly on other women…

BeContented:

Busymom:

[quote=\"buds\"]Hi pinky, hope your new year will be more peaceful n blissful with major hurdles out of the way. :hugs:


Don't understand why some hubbies allow themselves to be sponged. :scratchhead: Yeh.. I bet mine would say he doesnt mind cos its his money too. To think all this time I try to be an understanding n tolerant wife which includes not having to spend $ unnecessarily. Most times also $ usually spent on the children. Mebbe I should start learning how to sponge.. :idea:

Mine too... :gloomy: Old debts from FIL and BIL never get repaid...

One way to reduce the incidence of :moneyflies: you be in charge of savings for the household...

pinky:

buds:

Hi pinky, hope your new year will be more peaceful n blissful with major hurdles out of the way. :hugs:


Don't understand why some hubbies allow themselves to be sponged. :scratchhead: Yeh.. I bet mine would say he doesnt mind cos its his money too. To think all this time I try to be an understanding n tolerant wife which includes not having to spend $ unnecessarily. Most times also $ usually spent on the children. Mebbe I should start learning how to sponge.. :idea:

your poor husband will be a super dry sponge if both sides do the same :evil: :rotflmao: just joking
anyway, same as you even I have supp cards from him, sometimes I dont even use them for the entire month. Recently, to help cut down
unnecessary expenses, I forbid him to inform that SIL whenever he goes on overseas trips bec she will ask him to buy cosmetic at the duty free shops then again, never pay him. :mad: Mind you, the perfume that she buys are not cheap either and even have the cheek to buy for her 2 kids too :stompfeet:

Busymom:

buds:

Hi pinky, hope your new year will be more peaceful n blissful with major hurdles out of the way. :hugs:


Don't understand why some hubbies allow themselves to be sponged. :scratchhead: Yeh.. I bet mine would say he doesnt mind cos its his money too. To think all this time I try to be an understanding n tolerant wife which includes not having to spend $ unnecessarily. Most times also $ usually spent on the children. Mebbe I should start learning how to sponge.. :idea:

Mine too... :gloomy: Old debts from FIL and BIL never get repaid...

One way to reduce the incidence of :moneyflies: you be in charge of savings for the household...

buds:

Hi pinky, hope your new year will be more peaceful n blissful with major hurdles out of the way. :hugs:


Don't understand why some hubbies allow themselves to be sponged. :scratchhead: Yeh.. I bet mine would say he doesnt mind cos its his money too. To think all this time I try to be an understanding n tolerant wife which includes not having to spend $ unnecessarily. Most times also $ usually spent on the children. Mebbe I should start learning how to sponge.. :idea:

insider:

buds:

Now back to sponging business... :rubhands:

pinky has to 'reflect' on her 'money management system'...

is she holding the purse string too tight that the bowl is full and therefore will inevitably 'attract' this mozzie to come sponging to make the money move?

pinky, pls don't be offended coz am into such 'cosmic energy study' as well and so I see things from 'tangible' and 'intangible' angles...

just read my input from 'extraordinary' angle... (in life, many things happen that are beyond our comprehension / logic / etc. Your hubby is definitely not a dumb person and so in him, there's also struggle for sure.).

pinky:

Need your advice on this dilemma:

My husband's sister recently divorced with 2 teenage kids and she is working full time. Recently, he told me that his sister wants to send her daughter to stay with me bec :
1. I am a SAHM so I have more time to supervise her
2. We have an extra room (actually used for games/lounging around)
The teenage daughter is frankly out of control and ill disciplined ah lian who is currently repeating JC1 and lives in a world of her own.
I told my husband no way I am letting her come bec being a SAHM doesnt mean I am free and obliged to take on such a responsibility where I feel strongly the mother should be the one to be there for her and not just pass her to me :mad:
My husband is the type who never says no to his family and he told me she will be be ONLY until end of the year and if she pass her exam, till end of 2012 :stupid: :stupid: My son will be taking his O level next year so I dun want to freak out and carry such unnecessary burden. So far no confirmation from the girl yet but I know the decision is more or less final and no amount of quarrelling will change the situation.
I need your advice and what is the best solution to get out of this sticky problem.
I did consider renting a room in my estate for the girl and I am willing to pay for the rental as long as she doesnt step into my house.

insider:

PS:

Keep this theory in mind and recall it sometimes when you are tempted to buy things for yourself. ‘Experiment’ it a few times and you may get to see after you dig a hole, your husband may tell you later that he receives some extra-ordinary income from somewhere somehow to fill up that hole…

insider:

Best of all, there maybe lesser money that needs to be spent on unnecessary / unfortunate / ‘mozzie’ things…

insider:

PS:How many times have we heard of wives grieving about how well they had managed the family’s finances by being thoughtful and thrifty, only at the end to know that husbands splurging shamelessly on other women…

sall:

Pinky, this sil of yours is really a mozzie with a huge insatiable appetite. But the problem is your hubby is willing to give her so much.

buds:

Hi pinky, hope your new year will be more peaceful n blissful with major hurdles out of the way. :hugs:


Don't understand why some hubbies allow themselves to be sponged. :scratchhead: Yeh.. I bet mine would say he doesnt mind cos its his money too. To think all this time I try to be an understanding n tolerant wife which includes not having to spend $ unnecessarily. Most times also $ usually spent on the children. Mebbe I should start learning how to sponge.. :idea: