<![CDATA[Your daughter's hair, long or short?]]>My daughter has got short hair due to the recent hot weather but would like her to have longer hair when she turns 3.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/2799/your-daughter-s-hair-long-or-shortRSS for NodeWed, 09 Sep 2026 11:22:14 GMTMon, 20 Apr 2009 15:55:28 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Sat, 03 Apr 2010 09:28:15 GMT]]>mathsparks


I sent my girl to rebonding last year.

Its so easy to maintain now.No worri about tangle, curly and untidy hair.


mathsparks:
Poonie:

My elder daughter has naturally curly brown hair that puffs up if not tied up. She used to be teased at P1 until her classmates got used to her. Seeing that she was bothered about her puffy hair we allowed her to grow it till below the armpit so that we could braid it to tame it. But the long hair took up too much of everyone's time with all the oil, deep-conditioning, curl-enhancer cream etc. I finally persuaded her to have it cut to above chin length and just use a hair band.

This year she is in P3 and have different classmates. The teasing and name-calling started again. She came home yesterday and cried. Blaming me for cutting her hair. She said that if she still had the long hair at least she could braid it. It was heart-wrenching to see her going through what she is going through as I have naturally wavy hair too except they are not so curly. She wanted to rebond her hair but I told her she's too young for that. I really don't know what to say to make her feel better and not be bothered by her hair. Any parents out there in similar situations can advise?

Perhaps you can try taming her hair with a hair straightener. But I'm not sure if P3's too young for that.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/153045https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/153045Sat, 03 Apr 2010 09:28:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Sat, 03 Apr 2010 09:25:31 GMT]]>my elder DD told me she wants to trim her hair yestrday. since it been 3 mths since she cut her long hair to a bob and i can see the back is getting frizzy, i said ok. She said she will cut it somewhere nearby.


when she come back, i was shock!! she had cut her hair so short, literally like a boy. other than the fringe thats way too long and cover her right eye, the side and back are clippered short to the scalpe. even the top are trimmed to an inch and standing straight.

I was so upset and angry. blaming myself for not following along. she told she "suddenly" feel like cutting it really short since the weather is hot. anyway her classmate do sport such haircut and no problem with her teacher. I do not believe

when i ask her where she cut it, she told me at Malay Barber round the corner. I was furious, she had it planned, not just suddenly want to cut it short as she had claimed.

I told her firmly i disapporved of what she had done and I forbid her to cut her hair again. she is to grow it long.

my hubby just said that its ok, she just being "playful", nothing to worry about. But i feel it is not right for girls to cut their hair short like a boy, not in a barbershop. I am not sure if the school teacher will have any comment or not.


How short would you allow your DD to cut her hair?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/153042https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/153042Sat, 03 Apr 2010 09:25:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Sun, 24 Jan 2010 02:53:57 GMT]]>

all.in.one:

skunk, thanks for being so frank. you speak our mind on certain things that we are afraid to verbalise. 😎
I'm not afraid of offending people...and i already sense i offended some...but i don't care because i did not make those comments with malicious intent.

I'm more interested in how subtle choices we make, influence our children in profound ways. Maybe because i'm no psychologist/sociologist and have no concrete evidence to back up my views, that's why my arguments are not very clear.....argh....forgeddit LOL

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/112032https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/112032Sun, 24 Jan 2010 02:53:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Sat, 23 Jan 2010 16:47:39 GMT]]>

Poonie:
My elder daughter has naturally curly brown hair that puffs up if not tied up. She used to be teased at P1 until her classmates got used to her. Seeing that she was bothered about her puffy hair we allowed her to grow it till below the armpit so that we could braid it to tame it. But the long hair took up too much of everyone's time with all the oil, deep-conditioning, curl-enhancer cream etc. I finally persuaded her to have it cut to above chin length and just use a hair band.


This year she is in P3 and have different classmates. The teasing and name-calling started again. She came home yesterday and cried. Blaming me for cutting her hair. She said that if she still had the long hair at least she could braid it. It was heart-wrenching to see her going through what she is going through as I have naturally wavy hair too except they are not so curly. She wanted to rebond her hair but I told her she's too young for that. I really don't know what to say to make her feel better and not be bothered by her hair. Any parents out there in similar situations can advise?
Perhaps you can try taming her hair with a hair straightener. But I'm not sure if P3's too young for that.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111968https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111968Sat, 23 Jan 2010 16:47:39 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Sat, 23 Jan 2010 16:25:33 GMT]]>ks2me,

Wow! Thanks for answering all the long hair and ballet stuff. Your words are exactly what I was thinking and you've put it across so accurately that I am speechless! :salute:

skunk, thanks for being so frank. you speak our mind on certain things that we are afraid to verbalise. 😎

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111966https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111966Sat, 23 Jan 2010 16:25:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Sat, 23 Jan 2010 08:42:07 GMT]]>

ks2me:
No need to spend money....there are heaps of these on youtubes. Just do a search on hair braiding.


http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=hair+braiding&search_type=&aq=f

I did not learn from youtube, but I figured out all the hairstyles myself through experimentation.
Thanks ya! I go check them out! :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111857https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111857Sat, 23 Jan 2010 08:42:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Sat, 23 Jan 2010 07:36:57 GMT]]>

skunk:

there's nothing to dispute. There are young girls with long hair who definitely are not overtly vain or unintelligent.

I'm more concerned about general trends.

Just like saying \"Fat people are generally lazier\", will make alot of fat but hardworking people angry. It still doesn't dispute the fact that a recent study has found that fat people are indeed perceived by most as being lazy, not withstanding the fact that \"lazy\" itself is subjective.
If health is considered wealth, then a head of healthy, shiny long hair is some people's wealth.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111845https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111845Sat, 23 Jan 2010 07:36:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Sat, 23 Jan 2010 04:20:03 GMT]]>

ks2me:

Skunk I don't wish to dispute you but here's the definition for you...
there's nothing to dispute. There are young girls with long hair who definitely are not overtly vain or unintelligent.

I'm more concerned about general trends.

Just like saying \"Fat people are generally lazier\", will make alot of fat but hardworking people angry. It still doesn't dispute the fact that a recent study has found that fat people are indeed perceived by most as being lazy, not withstanding the fact that \"lazy\" itself is subjective.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111802https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111802Sat, 23 Jan 2010 04:20:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Sat, 23 Jan 2010 04:10:21 GMT]]>

ks2me:

Skunk I don't wish to dispute you but here's the definition for you...

Definition
bimbo noun
/ˈbɪm.bəʊ//-boʊ/ n [C] (plural bimboes or bimbos) slang
disapproving a young woman considered to be attractive but not intelligent

He went out with a succession of blonde bimbos.

(Definition of bimbo noun from the Cambridge Advanced Learner's Dictionary)

Have a good weekend and chill.... :celebrate:
ok then, I shouldn't have used the word \"bimbo\".

Maybe I should be phrasing it in another way:

\"Will allowing young girls to have long hair, encourage them to be overtly vain and focus on external beauty to the detriment of other more important things in life?\"

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111799https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111799Sat, 23 Jan 2010 04:10:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Sat, 23 Jan 2010 03:55:36 GMT]]>

skunk:


It's not to say that bimbos are unintelligent....
Skunk I don't wish to dispute you but here's the definition for you...

Definition
bimbo noun
/ˈbɪm.bəʊ//-boʊ/ n [C] (plural bimboes or bimbos) slang
disapproving a young woman considered to be attractive but not intelligent

He went out with a succession of blonde bimbos.

(Definition of bimbo noun from the Cambridge Advanced Learner's Dictionary)

Have a good weekend and chill.... :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111792https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111792Sat, 23 Jan 2010 03:55:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Sat, 23 Jan 2010 00:31:46 GMT]]>

ks2me:
If you are trying to suggest that keeping long hair can turn one bimbotic and further alluding that brain quality changes with one's hair length, then you are offending millions of women in the world, bad move.

yes, that is what i'm trying to suggest, if it offends, too bad. I'm just trying to see if there are others who think likewise.

A person's behaviour and characteristics do not TOTALLY come from the inside. Humans are all externally directed to some degree.

I've ever seen a hyperactive and noisy little boy totally transform his behaviour the moment he puts on a tuxedo. It's just some cloth, why does it have the power to alter his behaviour, even if it's just for a short while?

I've seen reserved and quiet little kids become playful and yelling tots the moment they're put inside an inflatable castle. How come the environment they are in has such a great impact on behaviour?

I believe subtle things like hair and clothes can have great impact, because they're semi-permanent, unlike the tuxedo which can be taken off.

My cousin is quite an intelligent person, from RGS and is now an accountant, but absolutely bimbotic....her conversation totally revolves around her shoes, clothes and handbag. It's not to say that bimbos are unintelligent....I'm sure there are some more like her.....but eeeewwww if my daughter is everyday only concerned about hair, clothes and handbag, I will kill her, then kill myself LOL kidding....I will just kill myself haha

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111750https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111750Sat, 23 Jan 2010 00:31:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Fri, 22 Jan 2010 15:48:57 GMT]]>

Yerdua:
Like to check if there's any lessons for braiding, bunning or tying hair in diff styles for girls... I'm never girly by nature. All i know is to tying a pony tail.


But now with a baby girl, would really like to braid up my girl's hair for different occasions.... 😄
No need to spend money....there are heaps of these on youtubes. Just do a search on hair braiding.

http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=hair+braiding&search_type=&aq=f

I did not learn from youtube, but I figured out all the hairstyles myself through experimentation.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111690https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111690Fri, 22 Jan 2010 15:48:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Fri, 22 Jan 2010 14:49:56 GMT]]>Like to check if there's any lessons for braiding, bunning or tying hair in diff styles for girls... I'm never girly by nature. All i know is to tying a pony tail.


But now with a baby girl, would really like to braid up my girl's hair for different occasions.... 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111663https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111663Fri, 22 Jan 2010 14:49:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Fri, 22 Jan 2010 14:25:53 GMT]]>

skunk:

Anyway, there's no point in discussing exceptions, like i've said, there will always be exceptions. Top students, as well as MPs, are exceptions.

Even you yourself agree, most bimbos will have long hair, but not all with long hair are bimbos....the question is, what is their relationship? Have other parents noticed any trends?
Top students and MPs are exceptions. And therefore they will not be considered bimbotic even if they spot long hair? Why? because you endorse their brains first.

So if you understand your own logic. Then you should understand that the bimbotic condition is fulfilled first, then you see the trend is long hair. So the relationship is simply ONE way...and it all starts with the Brain, stop thinking about the hair. If you are trying to suggest that keeping long hair can turn one bimbotic and further alluding that brain quality changes with one's hair length, then you are offending millions of women in the world, bad move.

And for your question about ballet relating to hair.
In ballet, for discipline purposes, to look neat and tidy, everything can be combed up, leaving a clean look on the face, even fringe or bangs not allowed for exams, strictly speaking. If group performance required, to look uniform, having long hair can achieve this better. If short hair, no choice, gotta use headband to push hair back and this can come off during dancing, anyone wants to take the risk, especially during exams?

This is not just for ballet, for gym, for any kind of dance for that matter. Long hair can also achieve many various hairstyles that suit the dance theme.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111651https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111651Fri, 22 Jan 2010 14:25:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Fri, 22 Jan 2010 08:22:43 GMT]]>

ks2me:

just a reminder, top psle n top 'o' level girls both have pony tails.
I'm not really talking about that kind of long...I'm talking about that kind that reaches down to the waist.

Anyway, there's no point in discussing exceptions, like i've said, there will always be exceptions. Top students, as well as MPs, are exceptions.

Even you yourself agree, most bimbos will have long hair, but not all with long hair are bimbos....the question is, what is their relationship? Have other parents noticed any trends?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111538https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111538Fri, 22 Jan 2010 08:22:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Fri, 22 Jan 2010 08:12:15 GMT]]>

skunk:


I'm sure there are exceptionally smart girls with long hair, but i'm not the only one to observe the general trend. (not exceptions lah lol)

I wonder whether bimbotic girls pester to have long hair, or long hair encourages bimbotism LOL
just a reminder, top psle n top 'o' level girls both have pony tails.

Bimbotic girls have long hair is true BUT long hair girls are not bimbiotic nor less clever la.

Successful career women like to keep short hair to have that iron look so as to compete with their male counterpart. Too ladylike looking, people will gossip about her success. Successful business women reporting to herself keep hair long like Claire chiang but as they age, long hair does not go well with aging face so most will end up with short hair. If long hair is insisted then gotta bun up.

Bottomline, if long hair has expiry date, then I would say keep it long for as long as your face can take you.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111531https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111531Fri, 22 Jan 2010 08:12:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Fri, 22 Jan 2010 07:39:44 GMT]]>

all.in.one:
Si liao! 😢

My girl's into ballet, no choice but have long hair.
I do not want her to be less smart than her mummy cos mummy has short hair during her hay days in school and did well!!!
Nevermind, after ballet exam, cut to back length, no so bad right, skunk? 😉
how come learn ballet must have long hair? What has dancing got to do with hair?

I'm sure there are exceptionally smart girls with long hair, but i'm not the only one to observe the general trend. (not exceptions lah lol)

I wonder whether bimbotic girls pester to have long hair, or long hair encourages bimbotism LOL

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111521https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111521Fri, 22 Jan 2010 07:39:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Fri, 22 Jan 2010 04:27:15 GMT]]>My elder daughter has naturally curly brown hair that puffs up if not tied up. She used to be teased at P1 until her classmates got used to her. Seeing that she was bothered about her puffy hair we allowed her to grow it till below the armpit so that we could braid it to tame it. But the long hair took up too much of everyone’s time with all the oil, deep-conditioning, curl-enhancer cream etc. I finally persuaded her to have it cut to above chin length and just use a hair band.


This year she is in P3 and have different classmates. The teasing and name-calling started again. She came home yesterday and cried. Blaming me for cutting her hair. She said that if she still had the long hair at least she could braid it. It was heart-wrenching to see her going through what she is going through as I have naturally wavy hair too except they are not so curly. She wanted to rebond her hair but I told her she’s too young for that. I really don’t know what to say to make her feel better and not be bothered by her hair. Any parents out there in similar situations can advise?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111335https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111335Fri, 22 Jan 2010 04:27:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Fri, 22 Jan 2010 04:11:35 GMT]]>

all.in.one:
I've finally figured out how to do my girl's ballet bun over the internet.

No need claws, just use \"U-shape\" pins and net. But I still hate to do her bun because her hair is so thick and hard to hold tight! Also tiring to blow dry after every shower :rant:
Luckily, my MIL does the hair for DD1 for ballet. She uses a net and U-shaped pins too but she braids the hair first. For us, it was a headache at first cos DD1's hair is very fine and not thick enough. Also very \"slippery\" so it was difficult to secure. I think her hair is thicker now so it's easier now.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111323https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111323Fri, 22 Jan 2010 04:11:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Fri, 22 Jan 2010 03:51:29 GMT]]>Si liao! 😢

My girl's into ballet, no choice but have long hair.
I do not want her to be less smart than her mummy cos mummy has short hair during her hay days in school and did well!!!
Nevermind, after ballet exam, cut to back length, no so bad right, skunk? 😉

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111310https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111310Fri, 22 Jan 2010 03:51:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Fri, 22 Jan 2010 03:38:59 GMT]]>When i was in primary school, there was this bunch of girls who always did badly in exams. Once, i returned to the classroom during recess to get something…saw the bunch of girls there combing each others long long hair, making remarks like:


"Your hair is so long and smooth, like Barbie doll!!"

and they would spend all day playing and combing their hair and comparing it, even during class…they all carried pink schoolbags and had Barbie waterbottles LOL

The girls who did well academically all had shorter hair, above the shoulder type.

In sec sch, I couldn’t comment as I was in a boy’s school.

In JC, the best performing girls also had short hair.

In my own extended family, the women with long hair all had less illustrous careers, while my aunts who are high fliers in their career all have short hair. Even looking at the female MPs, there is such a trend, with only one with long hair.

I wonder if scientifically, there’s any link? Maybe long hair promotes bimbotism?

My wife from a girl’s school, also remarked that she found it true…and thus our daughters are not to have hair past their shoulders until they are 18, then they can make their own choices.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111302https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111302Fri, 22 Jan 2010 03:38:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Fri, 22 Jan 2010 03:16:42 GMT]]>My DD has long hair. The only time she had short hair was when she was a botak baby.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111281https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111281Fri, 22 Jan 2010 03:16:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Fri, 22 Jan 2010 03:12:19 GMT]]>I've finally figured out how to do my girl's ballet bun over the internet.

No need claws, just use \"U-shape\" pins and net. But I still hate to do her bun because her hair is so thick and hard to hold tight! Also tiring to blow dry after every shower :rant:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111279https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/111279Fri, 22 Jan 2010 03:12:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Your daughter's hair, long or short? on Wed, 13 Jan 2010 13:35:57 GMT]]>Its been 3weeks not since my DDs had cut their thair short and I think it good. SInce school started, they need not spend so much time in the morning and can sleep a little more.


However, i realised that their hair grow a bit fast and their fringe about to reach their eyes. Anyone here actually trim their DD fringe for them?

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