<![CDATA[Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid]]>I have a problem with my 8yr old girl. She has a lazy trait and cannot focus her attention (except play!) on her work that is given to her. Despite these 2 negative traits, she is actually quite a bright girl. And occasional mistakes she made were obvious that they were careless ones because 2 of the same type of sums, she could get one right and another wrong.


When it comes to showering or even brushing her teeth, she would either take her shower very very late or forgets about brushing her teeth! I had to chase and remind her almost all the time! I really don't know what to do with her now as recently, I have also blew my top more often because of these. Tell me what I should do parents, I am at my end wits. :stupid:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/31044/lazy-amp-low-attention-span-kidRSS for NodeMon, 04 May 2026 02:15:38 GMTTue, 17 Jan 2012 02:45:03 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Wed, 06 Feb 2013 17:48:15 GMT]]>maybe you need to change or reshuffle some of her daily routine.. 🙂 or motivates her by giving a price/surprise when she does things.. kids love surprises

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/953459https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/953459Wed, 06 Feb 2013 17:48:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Thu, 31 Jan 2013 07:45:14 GMT]]>Hmm.. makes sense! 🙂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/950101https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/950101Thu, 31 Jan 2013 07:45:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Thu, 31 Jan 2013 05:05:07 GMT]]>There is a counsellor in the primary school where my DS used to get his education. Many school counsellors have connections to other professionals such as child psychiatrists, education specialists, and so on.


You might want to check with your respective schools to get counselling from the school counsellors and perhaps also get proper recommendations. It might be a better route than going to a polyclinic where most doctors are general practitioners and interns who will probably refer you to counsellors based in GH anyway.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/949948https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/949948Thu, 31 Jan 2013 05:05:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Thu, 31 Jan 2013 02:36:10 GMT]]>

chic_savvy:
Actually if I want to take her for such diagnostics tests or profiling, where do I take her to? Poly clinics? Children specialist?

Actually I wanted to do that also.. But then still thinking still haven't action.If I decide to go I will bring her to Polyclinic get a referral letter. It must be a very long way to go.

I heard some extreme case that parents need to attend certain course so they can manage or deal with the kid.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/949798https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/949798Thu, 31 Jan 2013 02:36:10 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Wed, 30 Jan 2013 17:00:34 GMT]]>Actually if I want to take her for such diagnostics tests or profiling, where do I take her to? Poly clinics? Children specialist?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/949598https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/949598Wed, 30 Jan 2013 17:00:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Wed, 30 Jan 2013 16:56:28 GMT]]>One of my kids is like that and we do some role-plays about social situations when he is dumbfounded or does not know what to say, what will be a temporary answer he can give people. I know of introverted adults who have learnt how to let people know that they are thinking by saying \"I'm still listening to what you're saying but I\"m thinking about my own response.\"[/quote]

We've also done that, and it works somewhat for one-on-one conversations and with people who are more familiar with her. But in groups and with people who aren't used to her, they just find her very hard to talk to! Oh well, that's just something she has to deal with. Actually, I don't think she cares if no-one talks to her, but we are concerned how she is going to manage in things like oral exams (are there oral exams at 'A' levels and higher?) and job interviews.[/quote]

Yes, my concern is on the latter. Just days before she was one of the selected to become a prefect but her interview (nowadays they have INTERVIEWS??) didn't get her through. 😞

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/949594https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/949594Wed, 30 Jan 2013 16:56:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Wed, 30 Jan 2013 16:51:58 GMT]]>

Vez:
Hi chic_savvy ,

May I know did u bring your DD to any diagnostic test? Have a DD who is the same age as your who loves to read, loves art, creative and draws. The way you describe your DD is exactly like mine.

Really don't what to do already. Hopefully she can wake up soon
Hahaha so cute you! *hope she can wake up soon*

I have not take her to any tests (yet). My daughter she gives me confuse feelings. Just the other day, she told me she was praised in class and her teacher also emailed me on her good performance and behavior. But at home, she likes to show me her laziness leh. Or is it becos she's already too tired from school and just wants to chillax and play since she's done her \"work hard and play hard\" part? :stupid:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/949589https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/949589Wed, 30 Jan 2013 16:51:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Wed, 30 Jan 2013 16:41:43 GMT]]>

ChiefKiasu:
slmkhoo:

I have a 16yo daughter like that too. The problem is that many people are very impatient and will not give her time to plan her answer then speak. It means that she is usually left out of conversations as it moves on before she has a chance to take part. It's OK at home as we will give her the time she needs, but with other people, they think she is unwilling to speak, or just too dumb to answer. Any suggestions?


There's nothing wrong with thinking before you speak. It's better than shooting off and then regretting the moment. I see it more as a virtue than a fault.


lol! Indeed! But it's true about children and especially adults, they don't really have the patience to listen (some teachers too) thus, the kid at school may become outcast 😞

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/949576https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/949576Wed, 30 Jan 2013 16:41:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Thu, 24 Jan 2013 04:00:30 GMT]]>Have you try to send your kid(S) for a profiling test? I been to one that is pretty detail and they even offer therapy session for kids to correct their behavours.


And another that they actually can profile the child without a test and I would say its 90% correct.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/945097https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/945097Thu, 24 Jan 2013 04:00:30 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Thu, 17 Jan 2013 15:17:01 GMT]]>

yuanyuan mama:
Hi,


My dd is in P3. She is not lazy but low attention span. Her tuition teacher would complaint to me that she sort of losing her focus in the mid till the end of the lesson. Her school teacher told me exactly the same thing last year.

Also, my gal is very forgetful. I don't know how many times I had replaced the erasers, water bottle, rulers.......as she either forgot where she placed it or \"lost to no where\" as she claimed. I scolded, reminded and threatened with cane, no use. Still the same, to the extend that I suspect something wrong with her.

Any advice for me, please feel free to share. I am at my wits' end too :slapshead:

Hi ,
You could get the tuition teacher to play games with her to increase her attention span for learning . Making the lesson more interesting will make your girl remember the things she required to learn easily.
For the second issues, i was once like this when i am young. There is nothing to worry about . I think we have to be patience , kids are learning responsibility and sometimes it takes time to learn that. Gradually as i get older, i understand and handle my things with care and not lose it.
Perhaps you have to teach her how to be responsible to her items, and let her understand the consequences of losing it like if she lose an item , deduct a portion from her pocket money or smth ? just a suggestion 🙂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/940597https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/940597Thu, 17 Jan 2013 15:17:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Sun, 13 Jan 2013 01:14:51 GMT]]>Sharing a motivational news :-


Asperger's syndrome, so what? http://www.edvantage.com.sg/edvantage/features/people/1535536/Asperger_s_syndrome_so_what_.html

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/936606https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/936606Sun, 13 Jan 2013 01:14:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Sat, 12 Jan 2013 04:44:46 GMT]]>

ChiefKiasu:


I'm in the middle of an experiment with my Sec 2 son. Essentially, we will spend about 15 minutes each day reading the Opinions page on Straits Times and then discuss the key points that the editor is trying to express, and then do critical analysis on those points or even add on to the points. This is done verbally to reduce the time taken. The nice thing about choosing the Opinions page is that it spans a spectrum of contemporary issues which are likely what people talk about, anyway.

I believe this can help to train critical thinking overtime, allowing us to rapidly process information and formulate decisions that can be communicated effectively.

Maybe you can try that too with your daughter.
What if I am also lazy and gave low attention span? :scratchhead:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/936179https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/936179Sat, 12 Jan 2013 04:44:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Sat, 12 Jan 2013 04:28:44 GMT]]>

slmkhoo:

We've also done that, and it works somewhat for one-on-one conversations and with people who are more familiar with her. But in groups and with people who aren't used to her, they just find her very hard to talk to! Oh well, that's just something she has to deal with. Actually, I don't think she cares if no-one talks to her, but we are concerned how she is going to manage in things like oral exams (are there oral exams at 'A' levels and higher?) and job interviews.
I'm in the middle of an experiment with my Sec 2 son. Essentially, we will spend about 15 minutes each day reading the Opinions page on Straits Times and then discuss the key points that the editor is trying to express, and then do critical analysis on those points or even add on to the points. This is done verbally to reduce the time taken. The nice thing about choosing the Opinions page is that it spans a spectrum of contemporary issues which are likely what people talk about, anyway.

I believe this can help to train critical thinking overtime, allowing us to rapidly process information and formulate decisions that can be communicated effectively.

Maybe you can try that too with your daughter.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/936173https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/936173Sat, 12 Jan 2013 04:28:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Fri, 11 Jan 2013 08:41:19 GMT]]>

ChiefKiasu:
slmkhoo:

I have a 16yo daughter like that too. The problem is that many people are very impatient and will not give her time to plan her answer then speak. It means that she is usually left out of conversations as it moves on before she has a chance to take part. It's OK at home as we will give her the time she needs, but with other people, they think she is unwilling to speak, or just too dumb to answer. Any suggestions?


There's nothing wrong with thinking before you speak. It's better than shooting off and then regretting the moment. I see it more as a virtue than a fault.

One of my kids is like that and we do some role-plays about social situations when he is dumbfounded or does not know what to say, what will be a temporary answer he can give people. I know of introverted adults who have learnt how to let people know that they are thinking by saying \"I'm still listening to what you're saying but I\"m thinking about my own response.\"

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/935673https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/935673Fri, 11 Jan 2013 08:41:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Fri, 11 Jan 2013 08:22:23 GMT]]>Hi chic_savvy ,

May I know did u bring your DD to any diagnostic test? Have a DD who is the same age as your who loves to read, loves art, creative and draws. The way you describe your DD is exactly like mine.

Really don’t what to do already. Hopefully she can wake up soon

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/935653https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/935653Fri, 11 Jan 2013 08:22:23 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Thu, 10 Jan 2013 09:15:18 GMT]]>

slmkhoo:
I have a 16yo daughter like that too. The problem is that many people are very impatient and will not give her time to plan her answer then speak. It means that she is usually left out of conversations as it moves on before she has a chance to take part. It's OK at home as we will give her the time she needs, but with other people, they think she is unwilling to speak, or just too dumb to answer. Any suggestions?

There's nothing wrong with thinking before you speak. It's better than shooting off and then regretting the moment. I see it more as a virtue than a fault.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/934873https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/934873Thu, 10 Jan 2013 09:15:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Wed, 09 Jan 2013 06:01:53 GMT]]>

chic_savvy:
Hey parents, I'm back! Geez.. so busy with stuffs. An update on my girl's progress (who is turning 9 this year at primary 3).


As she grows, she begins to remember things slightly better now. BUT, her tendency of forgetfulness is still high. Recently, I've started to notice that she also has some speech problem. When she tries to explain things or on some encounters, she will be like \"mummy, (start off with) it's so funny. you know errr.. that day.. I erm.. very funny.. I ermm....\"

The way she tries to explain or relates things, it takes so long to the main point that it could make people lose interest in listening. And when she does that, she would fiddle her fingers greatly. I do think that it is a form of anxiety that she is trying to cope, like focusing her nervousness elsewhere. Since young, she is very shy in greeting people or takes the initiative to talk to people, unless asked to.

Now I always stop her from fiddling her fingers whenever I catch her doing so, I also tell her to speak slowly and plan what she wants to say first before saying out to improve her confidence. I told her if she is not going to speak properly and clearly, no one is going to listen to her eventually. It doesn't matter if she speaks slowly but as long as she gets to the point clearly.

Ironically, her knowledge of words are very good. Those very \"chim\" words and their meanings. She loves to read a lot, loves art, creative and draws very well, not to mention playing app games is her forte! :slapshead: She just has difficulties in expressing herself well, oh and the forgetfulness!
Hey chic_savvy! Welcome back. Your girl so big oredi ah.

Does your daughter write much better than she talk? If so, then you should not be worried. It could be because she is too conscious of trying to speak well then on the actual topic of discussion.

I have the same problem. When I try to be conscious of the way I talk, ie. remove the \"fillers\" such as \"um... er...\" and \"ok\" and \"alright\", I lose track of what I'm trying to say and become a blubbering idiot. So it is much easier for me to focus more on getting my point across than on how I speak. After all, that's the main point of communications, right?

Here are some of what I do:
1. Visualise and formulate what I want to say in my mind before I speak.
2. Speak slower. It gives you time to digest what you say, and plan on the next sentences.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/933800https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/933800Wed, 09 Jan 2013 06:01:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Wed, 09 Jan 2013 05:33:23 GMT]]>Hey parents, I'm back! Geez.. so busy with stuffs. An update on my girl's progress (who is turning 9 this year at primary 3).


As she grows, she begins to remember things slightly better now. BUT, her tendency of forgetfulness is still high. Recently, I've started to notice that she also has some speech problem. When she tries to explain things or on some encounters, she will be like \"mummy, (start off with) it's so funny. you know errr.. that day.. I erm.. very funny.. I ermm....\"

The way she tries to explain or relates things, it takes so long to the main point that it could make people lose interest in listening. And when she does that, she would fiddle her fingers greatly. I do think that it is a form of anxiety that she is trying to cope, like focusing her nervousness elsewhere. Since young, she is very shy in greeting people or takes the initiative to talk to people, unless asked to.

Now I always stop her from fiddling her fingers whenever I catch her doing so, I also tell her to speak slowly and plan what she wants to say first before saying out to improve her confidence. I told her if she is not going to speak properly and clearly, no one is going to listen to her eventually. It doesn't matter if she speaks slowly but as long as she gets to the point clearly.

Ironically, her knowledge of words are very good. Those very \"chim\" words and their meanings. She loves to read a lot, loves art, creative and draws very well, not to mention playing app games is her forte! :slapshead: She just has difficulties in expressing herself well, oh and the forgetfulness!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/933778https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/933778Wed, 09 Jan 2013 05:33:23 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Wed, 01 Aug 2012 09:49:10 GMT]]>My P1 girl is also the same. A slower worker & she does not like to do homework. She will take lots of break in between & gets distracted easily. She studies in the afternoon session & she reaches home at 7.30pm. I have stop chasing after her & just tell her to complete her homework before she could sleep. No matter how tired she is, she has to finish her homework before she goes to bed. I have to stay up late with her. We usually sleep at 11.30pm & sometimes even till 12.30am.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/811038https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/811038Wed, 01 Aug 2012 09:49:10 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Wed, 04 Apr 2012 08:26:19 GMT]]>Hi Leoleo 18,


Thanks for this.

Will bring him for a check.
Meanwhile, may i know after the doctor tested your boy, does the doc advise you on how to help him concentrate? Or just provide the diagnostic forms for the teachers to fill in 2-3 months’ time?

Many thanks.
Appreciate that.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/740773https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/740773Wed, 04 Apr 2012 08:26:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Wed, 04 Apr 2012 00:39:54 GMT]]>Hi Dino_Mummy


I went to the polyclinic and get a referral letter to see a specialist.
As my boy was 7 yrs old at the point of time, I was referred to NUH @ BoonLay to see the doctor as they handle children from 7yrs on onward. For your case they will referred to either to NUH along Clementi or KK.
The doctor will do a few diagnostic tests and monitor for a period of time. They won’t put the child on mediciation unless they are sure that the child needs one. For my boy, he isn’t on mediciation at all. On our first visit, the doctor will test his learning capabilities and to test if he is learning well at his age. The doctor says he scored above average and his learning capabilities is fine. His problem is attention span. Then she will provide diagnostic forms for the teachers to filled in 2-3 months time and she will monitor his behaviour from there. I went to see her quarterly for 2-3 times. Beginning of this year, his interest level is high and his behavior changes in school, diagnostic form teacher is good so we are seeing her only in Oct 12.
Hope it help.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/740458https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/740458Wed, 04 Apr 2012 00:39:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Tue, 03 Apr 2012 09:55:40 GMT]]>Hi,


Reading through the above, i suspect my 5-yr old may have ADD.
May i know where do you send your kids for ADD test / assessment?

After assessment, what sort of treatment is provided / advised?
I have a colleague who told me her son goes for consultation and was given pills to help him (he is 13) concentrate in class. At home, he doesnt take the pills.

I am not into putting my son on pills at this young age; anyone with experience post ADD assessment / consultation and currently undergoing treatment, can share?

Does any mummies here think those Cognitive Development or Thinkerbox courses help in correcting this? Any sharing also most welcome.

Many thanks.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/740203https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/740203Tue, 03 Apr 2012 09:55:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Thu, 29 Mar 2012 14:44:41 GMT]]>Hi


I am facing the same problems as you. My 8 years old boy is also like this and I did send him for ADD test. Yes indeed his attention span on school work / home work is very short, even the school teachers / tutors complain but comes to play, his attention span is 100%.
His problem may comes from too much TV and computer games which I agreed. From young, he is allowed to watch & play as much as he wants. Thus he is not interested in school work as he will find it boring compared to interactive games & TV. This is also what the doctor says. So we stopped him from TV and games, limit to no more than 30mins per day. It does help slightly. Now we are trying hard to get his interest in school work in order to increase his focus on school work. We realised if he is interested, his attention span will increase even his behavior during lessons will be better.
He is not the kinda who is Afraid of Teachers... if he is not interested or convince, he don't really bothers about the teachers. <This is a real headache for the teachers to control him or get him to co-operate.>
So maybe you can try to figure out if your child is getting too much TV/Computer games time......
One thing for sure, motivation strategy does proves to be a long time solutions than scolding.
I had lose my temper and scolded him like a Mad Woman :stompfeet: . It's only able to control him for a couple of days, after that he is back to 'Square One....... U know what I mean.
I ,myself is also trying to figure out how to manage him and get his result to be consistent. He can failed his school spelling / test if he had no interest / not motivated in studies...... Sad to say our education system really SUCKS.... difficult to create interest.........

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/737836https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/737836Thu, 29 Mar 2012 14:44:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Lazy &amp; Low Attention Span Kid on Mon, 26 Mar 2012 08:03:10 GMT]]>Chic-savv, how? How is your girl doing? I think my coming 6 year old kid is also the same and the list you put on sysmptoms , my kid has some of it also. Don pay attention, likes to play and is disogranised, always cannot remember where things are, forgets what she learns almost immediately and doesnt listen to instructions … wah my low BP become high BP!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/735279https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/735279Mon, 26 Mar 2012 08:03:10 GMT