<![CDATA[Share your labour experience]]>Thought of starting this thread as I believe all the mummies and daddies will be able to contribute. How many of the the mummies here delivered your babies with hubbies by your side? What was your re-action on the arrival of your new born? What was the re-action of your hubby? Any one fainted on seeing blood? Any one cried? hahaha…


My first pregnancy was a difficult one. I had bleeding for abt one month towards the end of the first trimester and I was confined to bed rest. It was the most terrible moment as I was so afraid of losing my baby. I began to get paranoid easily, always asking the question, what if this happen… what if that happen… ? Finally, when it was time to deliver, I chose to be on epidural (too kiasi lor). As I had no strength to push, my gynae had to vacuum my baby out as his heartbeat was weakening and the umblical cord was round his neck. Before I knew it, my gynae informed me that my baby was out. I was totally not prepared! I closed my eyes tightly as I was afraid of seeing too much blood on the baby’s body. I got so worried that I asked my hubby whether baby got two eyes, two ears, one mouth, one nose, ten fingers etc etc! (I think I have been the worst mummy on earth!) My hubby was very excited, he cuddled our baby and kissed him on the cheek. He kept saying that our baby was soooooo CUTE and asked me to open my eyes and see. I took a peek and was relieved. However, as I was not in the right frame of mind (vomitting and trembling due to the side effects of epidural), I did not cuddle my darling. I was probably the most heartless mum! I regretted immediately when my senses returned. I kept saying sorry to my darling and promised I will love him with all my heart! I was glad that my hubby was by my side and gave all the support that I needed and tolerating all the nonsense during my pregnancy.

When it was time for my second one, delivery was very much smoother. However, at the point when I heard him cry, "woooah…woooah!" (you know, the cry of a new born is very different from the cry of a toddler), the first thing that came to my mind was "Oops! we have to start all over again!" Nevertheless, this time round I remembered to cuddle and give his a kiss.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/3868/share-your-labour-experienceRSS for NodeThu, 07 May 2026 21:48:42 GMTThu, 25 Jun 2009 07:14:35 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Fri, 06 Aug 2010 13:43:14 GMT]]>I was in labour for about 10 hours since DS being the first baby. I had epidural so was so relaxed I wasn't even pushing much, the nurses got to really squeeze my tummy for me!


When baby came out, the first thing they did was to put him on top of me ie. on my stomach. I remember I was a bit terrified at the sensation and wondering \"arhhhh.....what is this slimy and limp thing on top of me!\" :!:

So terrible hor?

After that terrified even to hold the baby and terrified even when the nurse wheel him into my room and left me to attend to the baby. Terrified when we first got discharged and got to bring the baby home ourselves without nurses to help anymore....

The agony of being a first-time mother!
😉

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/234239https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/234239Fri, 06 Aug 2010 13:43:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Fri, 06 Aug 2010 10:19:14 GMT]]>

LKVM:


Yeah I tried staying but docs didnt allow due to space constraint :stupid: so came to hospital in the morning then went back in the night imagine 3 days after c-section i am just just there.. but worth every moment... luckily he could go back then 2nd day :love: :love:
SHI SHAN ZHI YOU MA MA HAO :love:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/234113https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/234113Fri, 06 Aug 2010 10:19:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Fri, 06 Aug 2010 10:17:51 GMT]]>

Funz:


Surprisingly, I find the pain from the c-sect wound bearable. Did not even need any painkillers after the epi wore off. But I could feel my uterus contracting and I think cos I did not go through labour, it felt a lot more intense then when I had DD. All in all, I find my recovery from the c-sect a breeze. Much faster and better then when I had DD which was assisted natural with epi.

If I am blessed with a #3, wonder what it will be like, but I will definitely go for c-sect again.
Same here, I did not take any painkillers as I nursed DD from Day 1. I could feel my scar and my uterus contracting from Day 1 as well. If you're blessed with #3, then it would most lovely :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/234111https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/234111Fri, 06 Aug 2010 10:17:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Fri, 06 Aug 2010 10:15:45 GMT]]>

cherrygal:

:udawoman: I salute your great sacrifice
Thank you cherrygal
All mommies should love and care for their little ones :love:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/234109https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/234109Fri, 06 Aug 2010 10:15:45 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Fri, 06 Aug 2010 10:14:33 GMT]]>

RRMummy:

Yours also very shiong... And so nice to have such a supportive hubby.. :celebrate:
:love: :love: :love:
Thank you RRMummy
All mommies should love and care for their little ones :love:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/234108https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/234108Fri, 06 Aug 2010 10:14:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Fri, 06 Aug 2010 10:08:45 GMT]]>DS Birth Story.


This time round, the pregnancy was not as symptomless as with DD. I will feel nauseous at about 10am and it will last till about 12 noon and thereafter, I will be fine. That lasted for about 3 mths. I will also feel super duper sleepy in the late afternoon. The a yawn a minute kind of drowsiness. And had a scare with DS cos I was bleeding from 2nd mth till about close to 5th mth. Doc said low lying placenta, it was actually lying across my cervix. But as the pregnancy progressed, the placenta moved up. Then starting from about 6th month, I had terrible rashes. Could not sleep at night because of that, and to avoid tearing my skin from excessive scratching, I resorted to hitting myself. Ended up with bruises all over. Found out it's PUPPP, suffered through it up until 1 mth after birth of DS.

Due to my experience with DD, I opted for C-sect this time with epi. We scheduled the C-sect at 38 weeks cos the rashes were really bothering me and DS was not growing much in my womb anymore.

Reported at the hospital early in the morning as the procedure was scheduled for 11am. Was prepped for the surgery and DH went to get himself ready to join us in the op theatre. Coincidentally had the same anesthesiologist and he actually remembered me. Was a bit drowsy from the epi and the moment DH stepped in, the show began. I did not feel any pain but did get a funny sensation when the doc cut into me. Then the anesthesiologist helped to push the top of my abdomen while my gynae pulled DS out. Though DS was not a big baby, he had really chubby cheeks, exactly like what we saw during the scan, Doc had a 3D scan so we managed to see what DS looked like even b4 he was born. In the middle of it all, I heard my Doc asking the nurse to standby 3 pints of 0+ blood and the nurse came to look at me then told the doc I still look ok, not pale. B4 DH went with the nurse to see DS get settled, my Doc arranged for have lunch with him while, all the while stitching me up. Then he said DS actually turned from the head down position from our last scan. He was actually lying diagonal when the Doc removed him from my womb. From the time that I was wheeled to the OR to the time that I was wheeled back to my room, less then 1hr. And DH abandoned me to lunch with my Gynae 😛 irritating.

It was after lunch with my gynae that DH told me that there was a slight complication during the op, apparently the Doc cut into a large blood vessel which is not suppose to be there which resulted in a fairly large loss of blood. That explains why the Doc suddenly ordered blood on standby. But all's well that ends well as the doc managed to stop the bleed and I was perfectly fine.

Surprisingly, I find the pain from the c-sect wound bearable. Did not even need any painkillers after the epi wore off. But I could feel my uterus contracting and I think cos I did not go through labour, it felt a lot more intense then when I had DD. All in all, I find my recovery from the c-sect a breeze. Much faster and better then when I had DD which was assisted natural with epi.

2 different pregnancy experience, 2 different birth experience, 2 wonderful beautiful kids.

If I am blessed with a #3, wonder what it will be like, but I will definitely go for c-sect again.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/234104https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/234104Fri, 06 Aug 2010 10:08:45 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Fri, 06 Aug 2010 10:02:44 GMT]]>

duriz:
DD had jaundice and stayed an extra 2 days.

For those 2 days, during the days, I sat outside the nursery waiting to nurse her every 3 hours. Throughout the night, DH and I slept two hours or so, then drove to the hospital and have me nurse her. By the 3rd day, we were or bak kak but it's all worth it. When you see that beautiful face looking up at you whilst wheeling her in her little plastic cot to the BF room, what's not to love? :love:
:udawoman: I salute your great sacrifice... my dd was discharged without jaundice but it came on 3rd day and by 7th day, it was quite bad. So she went back to hospital for 2 days of phototherapy. I just expressed my milk and brought it there for her but nothing like you... Me and my confinement woman didn't know what else to do at home... Paed said it was better to keep her in hospital than rent that UV kit at home coz she won't get treatment properly.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/234099https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/234099Fri, 06 Aug 2010 10:02:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Fri, 06 Aug 2010 08:41:54 GMT]]>

duriz:
DD had jaundice and stayed an extra 2 days.

For those 2 days, during the days, I sat outside the nursery waiting to nurse her every 3 hours. Throughout the night, DH and I slept two hours or so, then drove to the hospital and have me nurse her. By the 3rd day, we were or bak kak but it's all worth it. When you see that beautiful face looking up at you whilst wheeling her in her little plastic cot to the BF room, what's not to love? :love:
Yours also very shiong... And so nice to have such a supportive hubby.. :celebrate:

:love: :love: :love:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/234010https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/234010Fri, 06 Aug 2010 08:41:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Fri, 06 Aug 2010 08:31:32 GMT]]>

LKVM:
docs didnt allow due to space constraint :stupid:

That's tough
LKVM:
came to hospital in the morning then went back in the night imagine 3 days after c-section i am just just there.. but worth every moment... luckily he could go back then 2nd day :love: :love:
And thru it all, I'm sure there was not a moment of hesitation not to do it... mother-baby bond :love: :love: :love:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/234004https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/234004Fri, 06 Aug 2010 08:31:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Fri, 06 Aug 2010 07:45:25 GMT]]>

RRMummy:


I can imagine that it must have been a very tough time.. being separated..I know of a few cases whereby baby had to stay back due to jaundice.. so stressful..but at least they are in good hands.. so I had a friend who purposely extend stay in hospital just to be with baby!
DD had jaundice and stayed an extra 2 days.
For those 2 days, during the days, I sat outside the nursery waiting to nurse her every 3 hours. Throughout the night, DH and I slept two hours or so, then drove to the hospital and have me nurse her. By the 3rd day, we were or bak kak but it's all worth it. When you see that beautiful face looking up at you whilst wheeling her in her little plastic cot to the BF room, what's not to love? :love:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/233945https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/233945Fri, 06 Aug 2010 07:45:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Fri, 06 Aug 2010 07:23:21 GMT]]>

MMM:
cherrygal:

I was a crazy woman for 24 hours - and the nurse even came in to tell me not to scream so loud as I was scaring those outside.


Cherrygal... I can't help but comment on this. Wonder if we gave birth on the same day :lol:

It was my 3rd but most complicated delivery and I heard someone screaming next door in the middle of a delivery that \"Wo bu yao sheng le !!!!!!!!!\". That was my 1st experience without epidural (gynae's advice since I have HELLP) and my platecount was too low (had to undergo transfusion at the same time). They are worried my blood cannot clot properly and will have further implications so he said no epidural.

Hearing someone next door screamed like that really scares me even though it's my 3rd 😐

hmm, I hope I'm not the one. gave birth to my 2nd without epidural (DH was adamant). Dunno how but in the midst of the labour pains, I managed to squeeze out a joke to the midwife that lucky they gave me the room furthest away from the entrance of the delivery ward (the entrance faces the IVF clinic); if they have given me one nearest to the entrance, IVF will suddenly lose a lot of customers. 😛

She must have thought I was :siao:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/233922https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/233922Fri, 06 Aug 2010 07:23:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Fri, 06 Aug 2010 07:10:13 GMT]]>

LKVM:

Yes dear and suddenly I too had high fever though my whole pregnancy was very nice and normal... but then my DS1 head was almost coming out phew we both have high fever they could give me panadol but wat bout baby so they did emergency C-section... and had to keep baby in special care for 3 days but then all was fine later on...

Only problem was I was discharged and he still have to kept for another 2 days extra that was like horrible time
I can imagine that it must have been a very tough time.. being separated..I know of a few cases whereby baby had to stay back due to jaundice.. so stressful..but at least they are in good hands.. so I had a friend who purposely extend stay in hospital just to be with baby!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/233911https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/233911Fri, 06 Aug 2010 07:10:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Thu, 05 Aug 2010 10:10:43 GMT]]>

RRMummy:
:hi5:

ehh.. I learnt something new today - baby in tummy can have high fever? Scary leh...
I guess it's due to infection... the ICU case I mentioned in my post was due to meconium in the amniotic fluid. As the labor was long, the baby got distressed and passed meconium (baby's first motion) inside the water bag. So, the baby got infection and both mother and baby can have fever. This usually happens to overdue babies or big-sized babies. The gynae detected meconium in the fluid but the mother was adamant on natural birth (coz she wanted the experience) despite being warned. So he regret not forcing her to c-section.

Gals, just listen to doctors next time... dun be heroine at the expense of your own life or child's life. Better to be kiasi and kiasu.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/233244https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/233244Thu, 05 Aug 2010 10:10:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Thu, 05 Aug 2010 09:59:46 GMT]]>

MMM:
cherrygal:

I was a crazy woman for 24 hours - and the nurse even came in to tell me not to scream so loud as I was scaring those outside.


Cherrygal... I can't help but comment on this. Wonder if we gave birth on the same day :lol:

It was my 3rd but most complicated delivery and I heard someone screaming next door in the middle of a delivery that \"Wo bu yao sheng le !!!!!!!!!\". That was my 1st experience without epidural (gynae's advice since I have HELLP) and my platecount was too low (had to undergo transfusion at the same time). They are worried my blood cannot clot properly and will have further implications so he said no epidural.

Hearing someone next door screamed like that really scares me even though it's my 3rd 😐

My sec school teacher once described the experience to us. I fully understand what she meant at my 3rd pregnancy. It's so pain that when they cut you, you don't feel it anymore. Yes... you can feel someone sewing you up or cutting you but the pain is no longer incremental.

:lol: hahaha, I don't think tatz me coz I didn't scream in Chinese. It was more of \"ouch ouch ouch\". Near the final stage, I told my gynae to just get ds out of me! He was \"huh\" (coz nearly 3am) and he came in slippers and shorts, half awake.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/233236https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/233236Thu, 05 Aug 2010 09:59:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Thu, 05 Aug 2010 07:54:04 GMT]]>

cherrygal:
I was a crazy woman for 24 hours - and the nurse even came in to tell me not to scream so loud as I was scaring those outside.

Cherrygal... I can't help but comment on this. Wonder if we gave birth on the same day :lol:

It was my 3rd but most complicated delivery and I heard someone screaming next door in the middle of a delivery that \"Wo bu yao sheng le !!!!!!!!!\". That was my 1st experience without epidural (gynae's advice since I have HELLP) and my platecount was too low (had to undergo transfusion at the same time). They are worried my blood cannot clot properly and will have further implications so he said no epidural.

Hearing someone next door screamed like that really scares me even though it's my 3rd 😐

My sec school teacher once described the experience to us. I fully understand what she meant at my 3rd pregnancy. It's so pain that when they cut you, you don't feel it anymore. Yes... you can feel someone sewing you up or cutting you but the pain is no longer incremental.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/233071https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/233071Thu, 05 Aug 2010 07:54:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Thu, 05 Aug 2010 07:48:16 GMT]]>For all the mummies here, congratulations to all of you. You are very strong in giving birth to your little precious one. Either, normal or not, the important is you overcome it all, from pregnancy period until giving birth. And I admire all the mothers whom they make everything for their kids, especially to my mom of course.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/233065https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/233065Thu, 05 Aug 2010 07:48:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Thu, 05 Aug 2010 07:47:08 GMT]]>

cherrygal:
you need to be aware that c-section is a major abdominal surgery, going through many layers of fat and tissue. The incision will cause a lot of scarring internally, not just that small pretty scar on your bikini line. This is the reason why some have rupturing if they try VBAC.

Correct. I could smell my burnt fats, muscles and flesh during my second c-sect. :roll: The recovery for C-sect is also longer and the pain and care also last longer compared to VBAC.

Some think I'm crazy but sad to say I have 2 gals but have not tasted any pain of contractions before.. 😞

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/233064https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/233064Thu, 05 Aug 2010 07:47:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Thu, 05 Aug 2010 07:39:19 GMT]]>

LKVM:

Same here RRMummy... 😉 I too thought different scars for different pregnancy... hahahaha

I had to go for emergency C-section during DS1 due to his high fever and after 12 hrs only his head could come out :stupid:

DS2 had c-section too....
:hi5:

ehh.. I learnt something new today - baby in tummy can have high fever? Scary leh...

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/233056https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/233056Thu, 05 Aug 2010 07:39:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Thu, 05 Aug 2010 06:52:01 GMT]]>I have 2 buds - 1 ds and 1 dd, both Vac assisted.


First birth no epidural thanks to sadistic doc’s advice. I was a crazy woman for 24 hours - and the nurse even came in to tell me not to scream so loud as I was scaring those outside. It was middle of the night already so even if I wanted epidural, it was too late. So I took massive amounts of gas and had a pethidine injection to the hip. All useless.

Second birth - now I am smart - I got my epidural the moment I felt contractions. Happiness… I could chitchat, watch HBO etc but they didn’t allow me to eat coz the after effects were vomiting and chills. I was shaking so much after they removed the epidural but it was worth it coz I had no pain even as they stuck their finger in to measure the dilation. I was just asked to push when the time came. DD came in 6 hours of contractions.

If people ask me, I will definitely recommend epidural but make sure you take it early.

For those who are thinking of VBAC or elect c-section to remain "tight" down there, you need to be aware that c-section is a major abdominal surgery, going through many layers of fat and tissue. The incision will cause a lot of scarring internally, not just that small pretty scar on your bikini line. This is the reason why some have rupturing if they try VBAC.

Also, as you have never given birth via the vagina before, the labor will be long (like most first-timers). This adds extra stress on the baby and mom. My gynae had a case like that (VBAC) and he said he regretted not forcing the mother to do c-section for her 2nd baby. She had complications during birth and the baby had to spend a month in neonatal ICU.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/233001https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/233001Thu, 05 Aug 2010 06:52:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Thu, 05 Aug 2010 06:13:06 GMT]]>

TimmyOwner:
Thanks for all your replies.


I am thinking of having 3 or more children but be'cos my first was via c-sect for medical reasons, my gynea strongly encouraged me for c-section for my future children too.

We are blessed to have children whether natural or c-section. :lol:
Actually, for my 2nd pregnancy, my gynae say can still go for natural if I want. If not for the high risk of trauma for tiny DD2, we would have tried to go natural...

My sis was also encouraged by her gynae to go C-sect for 2nd preggie after 1st preggie c-sect. Gynae say high risk of rupture at site of 1st c-sect. After we discussed, we supported her to go natural. She successfully delivered her DD via natural w/o epidural a mth ago. :love:

My Gynae said if 1st one c-sect, subsequent can be natural. If first 2 births by c-sect then 3rd and last preggie must be via c-sect. The biggest risk is the rupture at the c-section operation site.

During my parents generation, c-sect max 2 births. C-sect right across the lower abdomen. Now, small nice cut along the lower end of our big buldging tummy. And 2nd cut will be done on the same spot of the first cut. So nice, neat and tidy.

p/s. Silly me thought that will be different cut line for each c-sect I have. I was joking with my hubs, next time ppl ask me got how many kids, I will lift up my t-shirt and ask them to count the scars. 😉 Only found out when I had a chat with Gynae after 2nd delivery. :lol:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/232944https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/232944Thu, 05 Aug 2010 06:13:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Thu, 05 Aug 2010 05:56:07 GMT]]>Thanks for all your replies.


I am thinking of having 3 or more children but be'cos my first was via c-sect for medical reasons, my gynea strongly encouraged me for c-section for my future children too.

We are blessed to have children whether natural or c-section. :lol:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/232914https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/232914Thu, 05 Aug 2010 05:56:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Thu, 05 Aug 2010 05:15:22 GMT]]>My friend told me giving birth is very fast as she delivered dd1 in 3 hours and dd2 in half an hour without epidural. As easy as 母鸡下蛋. A few days before my due date, I saw some spotting and told dh. Kiasu dh, quickly drove us to the hospital. I wanted to wait till 7am for McDonald’s breakfast (that time not 24 hours yet) but dh said NO. Gynae and nurses asked me, “Epidural?” I, yaya papaya, replied, “No need” 😛 . One nurse told me, “Now not peak period, if not we will wheel you outside to wait 😐 .” 3 hours passed and I was still zai zai. Out of sudden there was a sharp pain and it became more and more unbearable. I tried the gas and after sometime I really begged the nurses for epidural :faint: . I was so relieved when the nurse said, “Doctor on the way, you very lucky, you think suka suka call can have doctor immediately. Must make appointment one. You are lucky, doctor is coming out from another ot, very fast already.” Even the nurse suan me also never mind 🙏 . I took a nap after I had the epidural, 睡午觉 :snooze: . The pain was gone when I woke up. Finally, ds was delivered by vac :love: . After all the cleaning up and bonding time, I was wheeled out of the delivery suite as a proud mummy :celebrate: . A nurse said loudly, “ Whoa :!: , girl ah, you took so long ah. You came in before I left. Now I report to work and you are still here.” :x

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/232850https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/232850Thu, 05 Aug 2010 05:15:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Thu, 05 Aug 2010 05:03:51 GMT]]>Thanks for the wishes and the words of comfort. :snuggles:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/232840https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/232840Thu, 05 Aug 2010 05:03:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Share your labour experience on Thu, 05 Aug 2010 05:01:15 GMT]]>

buds:
Your dd is INDEED perfect, duriz. :hugs:


I mean... look at her chubby self lying
there in there as your avatar ever so
sweetly.. :love:
Thanks buds :hugs:

Don't be shy, a child is love. I would love to have more. We shall wait and see if I'm blessed to have another 🙏

BTW, I keep forgetting to say CONGRATULATIONS to you on your #3 buds :celebrate:

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