<![CDATA[All About Parenting Teenagers]]>

ksi:
Where to get help?


Samaritans of Singapore (SOS)
A non-profit, non-religious organisation that provides emotional support to those who are in despair or distressed.

Contact: 1800-221-4444, 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

Youthline
Run by Youth Challenge, a non-governmental organisation that champions youth causes.

Contact: 6336-3434, Monday to Friday, 9am to 6pm.

Touchline
Run by Touch Community Services, a non-profit charitable organisation.

Contact: 1800-377-2252, Monday to Friday, 9am to 6pm.

Teen Challenge
A voluntary welfare organisation that provides faith-based and community-based programmes and services.

Contact: 1800-829-2222, Monday to Friday, 10am to 5pm.

Pregnancy Crisis Service
Run by the Family Life Society, a non-profit counselling and educational organisation. Unwed teenagers who face unplanned, unwanted pregnancies can call for help.

Contact: 6339-9770, 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

Tinkle Friend
Run by the Singapore Children's Society. For those aged 12 and below.

Contact: 1800-274-4788, Monday to Friday, 9.30am to 11.30am, and 2.30pm to 5pm.

Audible Hearts
An online service run by the Health Promotion Board. Troubled youths who are too shy to talk over the phone can pour out their woes via e-mail to trained youth volunteers.

Website: audiblehearts.yah.sg

http://www.asiaone.com/News/Education/Story/A1Story20090825-163340.html

All credits of compiling this list are ksi's

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]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/49880/all-about-parenting-teenagersRSS for NodeMon, 04 May 2026 04:46:29 GMTFri, 20 Aug 2010 14:48:14 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to All About Parenting Teenagers on Sun, 06 Oct 2024 21:19:59 GMT]]>The biggest challenge is to keep them away from the mobile phones. I try to engage them in physical activities so they can spend time doing those activities rather than spending time in front of screens.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2142046https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2142046Sun, 06 Oct 2024 21:19:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to All About Parenting Teenagers on Sat, 15 Jun 2024 03:22:07 GMT]]>“Social workers say the fight for autonomy is strongest between the age of 14 and 16. That is usually the stage where parents find a sudden change in their child's temperament, or that they become more distant and harder to understand.


“If the parent-child relationship is strained during this phase, parents may face difficulty even having a cordial conversation as the child gets older,” says Ms Lam.”

Full article here:
https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/parenting-education/better-tutors-better-schools-do-parents-all-out-efforts-help-teens-thrive

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tankee\" post_id=\"245595\" time=\"1282315694\" user_id=\"6927:

All credits of compiling this list are ksi's

😄
:thankyou: It is so helpful!

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liwei12\" post_id=\"2118293\" time=\"1693826873\" user_id=\"202739:

You're absolutely right! It's important to be clear and explicit about rules and norms, especially with kids. Sometimes, what seems obvious to us may not be so clear to them. Communication is key in helping them understand and follow these guidelines. 😊👍
Yes, agree. Might take a few explaining for them to completely understand something that's why its important that we have extra patience for our kids. Better if we also show that we do/practice what we teach them.

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swortionery\" post_id=\"2098548\" time=\"1676989016\" user_id=\"153719:

Yeah. I think we take for granted that our kids will understand certain rules or norms, but many times we have to be explicit about them.

You're absolutely right! It's important to be clear and explicit about rules and norms, especially with kids. Sometimes, what seems obvious to us may not be so clear to them. Communication is key in helping them understand and follow these guidelines. 😊👍

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2118293https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2118293Mon, 04 Sep 2023 11:27:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to All About Parenting Teenagers on Mon, 03 Apr 2023 00:03:58 GMT]]>7 Habits to Strengthen Your Parent-Child Relationship


https://www.sassymamasg.com/parenting-tips-improve-parent-child-relationship/?fbclid=IwAR12gg6h8EMxQREh9NX5Ij1UbnuJZSstFMsFFrXwNdR2UvmR7xwbY_fziPg

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2103997https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2103997Mon, 03 Apr 2023 00:03:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to All About Parenting Teenagers on Tue, 21 Feb 2023 14:16:56 GMT]]>Yeah. I think we take for granted that our kids will understand certain rules or norms, but many times we have to be explicit about them.

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Funz\" post_id=\"2097616\" time=\"1676422413\" user_id=\"6230:

There has to be some hard rules that children have to be made aware of and expected to follow especially when they are young. That is for their safety. Then there are values that we explicitly tell them and model for them, those will be their guiding poles as they navigate their way through their various stages of growth and development.
I agree with Funz and slmkhoo.

It is indeed a balancing act with teens especially when opinions are valued and explicit/implicit rules need to be followed. We try our best.

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Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2097580\" time=\"1676379162\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2097580 time=1676379162 user_id=195250]
Why need the dog to obey or follow a cue? The dog is a live animal, it has its own feeling, needs and thinking.[/quote]
1st on the list, safety
2nd so that they do not become a menace/nuisance to others.

Would a puppy know how to navigate a busy road? If you are out with your puppy and it does not know how to obey the wait rule, you will have a puppy at risk of being run over or causing a traffic incident. Even if you have a leash, it will be pulling and straining against it and dashing left and right, here and there on the leash if not taught to walk properly on leash. Am sure you have seen people with a dog on leash and you wonder if it is the person walking the dog or the dog walking the person. Puppies are curious and like to explore and the way they explore is by sniffing and even chewing on the item. There are many things that are poisonous to them, they can also choke, so we have to teach them to obey rules and boundaries and to drop things that they pick up if they are dangerous to them.

If you are out with your dog and it is does not obey the sit stay command, it will be off after any other animal, kid, whatever, because that is what it feels like doing, and because there is no one to divert his attention away from the object of his focus, he needs to act and he thinks he is being a good doggy by doing that.

I had a very protective and possessive silky terrier, if I did not train it, it will attack anyone who comes near me. But a 'down' command from me and it will back off. A 'stay' command will allow the person to get nearer to it for it to get a sniff and get familiar with a person who is considered 'safe'.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2097619https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2097619Wed, 15 Feb 2023 01:15:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to All About Parenting Teenagers on Wed, 15 Feb 2023 00:53:33 GMT]]>There has to be some hard rules that children have to be made aware of and expected to follow especially when they are young. That is for their safety. Then there are values that we explicitly tell them and model for them, those will be their guiding poles as they navigate their way through their various stages of growth and development.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2097616https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2097616Wed, 15 Feb 2023 00:53:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to All About Parenting Teenagers on Wed, 15 Feb 2023 00:14:21 GMT]]>

sky minecrafter\" post_id=\"2097581\" time=\"1676379770\" user_id=\"130531:[quote=\"sky minecrafter\" post_id=2097581 time=1676379770 user_id=130531]
Lol. In fact, I prefer my kids to Always have their own opinions, bear the consequences of their actions, & only come to me when they need advice or support ;-)[/quote]
Same for me, but this has to adjust depending on age of the child and the potential downsides. Some risks may be too great (non-recoverable with permanent/severe consequences) depending on age or ability. It's a balancing act for the parent.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2097612https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2097612Wed, 15 Feb 2023 00:14:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to All About Parenting Teenagers on Tue, 14 Feb 2023 14:35:13 GMT]]>My DH always said parents is the mountain of the kids when DS was small. Kids learn from their parents and can always search help and support from parents when in need. I am not a good mother but DH is certainly a good father.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2097593https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2097593Tue, 14 Feb 2023 14:35:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to All About Parenting Teenagers on Tue, 14 Feb 2023 13:20:38 GMT]]>Since we are on the topic of puppies, let me share a dog versus cat joke which my teen showed me recently:


Dog’s point of view:
This person feeds me, shelters me, loves me, takes care of me every single day. Wow, he must be God!

Cat’s point of view:
This person feeds me, shelters me, loves me, takes care of me every single day. Wow, I must be God!

My prayer is that my teen never behaves like the latter (and he knows my opinion on that).

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Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2097580\" time=\"1676379162\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2097580 time=1676379162 user_id=195250]
Why need the dog to obey or follow a cue? The dog is a live animal, it has its own feeling, needs and thinking.[/quote]
Just a child, obedience is partly for safety. It will be safer for the dog (and child) if they have learned basic rules, and they will come or stop on command. A sensitive and caring master (or parent) will also take cues from the dog (or child) and understand when it/he is tired, unwell, not in the mood, etc.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2097584https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2097584Tue, 14 Feb 2023 13:19:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to All About Parenting Teenagers on Tue, 14 Feb 2023 13:15:17 GMT]]>Lol. When I bump into the neighbourhood canines with my dd, their owners will often issue some commands, & I would always exclaim, "Omg, the doggies are more obedient than you!!" then she glares at me & we have a good laugh

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2097583https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2097583Tue, 14 Feb 2023 13:15:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to All About Parenting Teenagers on Tue, 14 Feb 2023 13:10:04 GMT]]>

Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2097580\" time=\"1676379162\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2097580 time=1676379162 user_id=195250]
Why need the dog to obey or follow a cue? The dog is a live animal, it has its own feeling, needs and thinking.[/quote]
Owners need to train their dogs to obey simple basic commands, so that they do not run amok and start biting people who walk past.

Children however are not exactly wild animals and have the capacity to speak out their opinions lol.

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SG_KP1\" post_id=\"2097572\" time=\"1676375738\" user_id=\"188234:

I have been reading up about getting a dog. Seems like there's a lot of similarities with humans!
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Lol. In fact, I prefer my kids to Always have their own opinions, bear the consequences of their actions, & only come to me when they need advice or support 😉

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2097581https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2097581Tue, 14 Feb 2023 13:02:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to All About Parenting Teenagers on Tue, 14 Feb 2023 12:52:42 GMT]]>Why need the dog to obey or follow a cue? The dog is a live animal, it has its own feeling, needs and thinking.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2097580https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2097580Tue, 14 Feb 2023 12:52:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to All About Parenting Teenagers on Tue, 14 Feb 2023 12:44:43 GMT]]>Yes, do not need obedience, as they have a mind of their own and must live/die with the choices they make.


But watching from afar, seems like we are going backwards at times :siao: :siao:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2097579https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2097579Tue, 14 Feb 2023 12:44:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to All About Parenting Teenagers on Tue, 14 Feb 2023 12:19:34 GMT]]>I think the key (for humans) is to acknowledge that blind obedience out of sheer loyalty/respect goes out the window when puberty/hormones hits. Their opinion counts and is worth being open to.


I am learning to adapt my methods too. Let go some string, pull in when timing is right…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2097575https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2097575Tue, 14 Feb 2023 12:19:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to All About Parenting Teenagers on Tue, 14 Feb 2023 11:55:38 GMT]]>I have been reading up about getting a dog. Seems like there's a lot of similarities with humans!


The most challenging time of raising a puppy is the adolescent period. Dogs become “teenagers” and seem to forget everything they have ever been taught. This period is individual to each dog, but it may begin when he’s about eight months old and continue until he’s two years old.

Adolescence does not begin and end overnight. However, some noticeable changes include becoming larger and stronger, as well as exhibiting “stubborn” behavior and a desire to begin exploring outside a previous comfort zone.
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What if my puppy doesn’t obey?
Cues are not commands, and the expectation for a dog to “obey” is somewhat outdated. If your puppy doesn’t follow a cue, consider these possible causes:

• The puppy is distracted
• The puppy is confused
• The puppy does not understand how to respond to the cue in the current location or environment
• The puppy does not understand how to respond to the cue on this surface
• There is a competing motivation (something else has the puppy’s attention)
• The puppy is too tired or is over-excited

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slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2096374\" time=\"1675219735\" user_id=\"28674:

I think it's good to let the kids do boring work - they also need to learn that work isn't always going to be interesting all the time. Actually, admin work is still needed, but they often dress up the tasks and make the job scope sound more interesting as many students will be turned off by work that sounds too boring. Just read the job descriptions carefully, and between the lines! Or ask around friends and relatives to see if their offices might want a temp worker to take on a \"housekeeping\" project that no-one has time to do - my older girl once helped in a law firm to prepare paper documents and files for archiving, and in another organisation to check through and update their mailing list. Totally mind-numbing, but it suited her.
That is so true. They can learn what is it like in real life. Not everything is going to be fun and interesting but it helps them to mature and grow up responsibly 🙂

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Imp75\" post_id=\"2096446\" time=\"1675246801\" user_id=\"2358:

Be prepared to burn many weekends practising for ndp starting May.
Oh, that’s true. Thanks for the heads up!

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Zeal mummy\" post_id=\"2096410\" time=\"1675229021\" user_id=\"58173:[quote=\"Zeal mummy\" post_id=2096410 time=1675229021 user_id=58173]
Any feedbacks on teenagers marching in the NDP parade? It must be a great experience, anything we should look out for? Thanks![/quote]
Be prepared to burn many weekends practising for ndp starting May.

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