jetsetter:

I agree with some of you that kids just don't bother with such bday celebrations once they enter pri school...Perhaps one-quarter of their classmates might continue to throw parties at KidsAmaze, LaserTag, condo function halls or poolsides, pte houses, MD's, country clubs, SAFRA clubs or posh venues up to P3.


I'm glad mine didn't request for those 3D / cartoon cakes after leaving preschool. Only requested for a tart with 1 candle last year. I guess kids will outgrow 3kg fattening cakes some day.

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No need to pack goodie bags for pri sch kids also...

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FYI, we'd never held a full fledged birthday bash outside the CC before. The \"parties\" were always done within an hr at the FTCC. As such, I was very grateful that the CC teachers permitted working parents like us to have their schedule disrupted for the cake cutting and photo-taking ceremony.

mathtuition88:

Ernest Hemingway — 'There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.'

ilovelaksa:

ashana:

[quote=\"ilovelaksa\"] My younger dd brought 3 of her fav sweets to school and shared them with her 3 bff.

Wow! She is such a lovely kid! Please do remind her through out her growing up phase!

ashana:

ilovelaksa:

My younger dd brought 3 of her fav sweets to school and shared them with her 3 bff.

Wow! She is such a lovely kid! Please do remind her through out her growing up phase!

ilovelaksa:

My younger dd brought 3 of her fav sweets to school and shared them with her 3 bff.

limlim:

ashana:

Many parents look simply from the angle of what they can give their children but have forgotten others' children in the class. I feel it is the school that needs to set things right.

The other children stands to benefit from the cake and goodie bags and funz too mah.. :evil:

Guess kids are too young to understand what is \"show off\" and haolian.. maybe it's the parents that worry too much?

alng:

Both kids are grown up. The girl is still in a girls' school and the girls often celebrate birthdays with good friends in school. I often see her buying gifts, making cards and buying cakes to celebrate her friends' birthdays. On her recent birthday, she has a few small celebrations with her different groups of friends over 2-3 days and brought back bags of little gifts and cards. For the boy, it is nothing. So I think gender makes a difference in such celebration.

ashana:

Many parents look simply from the angle of what they can give their children but have forgotten others' children in the class. I feel it is the school that needs to set things right.

mothernancy:

larkspur:

I just to say that when they were young, i wish to give them everything i could afford but i always told them once they were in primary school no more celebrations and they are ok with it cos they feel there is nothing special abt celebrations and they feel on their birthday people get goodie bags, not them.


But when my girl was in p1, some classmates give little things for birthdays like one pair of socks or 1 pencil or 1 eraser for each classmate. One classmate from not well to do background whinned and cried cos she wants her classmates a little thing too on her birthday. Her parents relented and a $1 coin banks for 29 children. They told the teacher and the teacher lectured her in class abt that incident and the whole class knew abt. When i heard from my girl, i feel bad even though my girl never give anything on her bdayin p1.

Those new stationery i bought from Thailand rather than give anything on in p1, i gave them away to the orphanage in cambodia

Aiyoh the poor child... Why the teacher address it in front of everyone? Instead of helping the child understand she just feel ashamed. The opportunity could be used to educate the entire class and not point to the one cild.

larkspur:

I just to say that when they were young, i wish to give them everything i could afford but i always told them once they were in primary school no more celebrations and they are ok with it cos they feel there is nothing special abt celebrations and they feel on their birthday people get goodie bags, not them.


But when my girl was in p1, some classmates give little things for birthdays like one pair of socks or 1 pencil or 1 eraser for each classmate. One classmate from not well to do background whinned and cried cos she wants her classmates a little thing too on her birthday. Her parents relented and a $1 coin banks for 29 children. They told the teacher and the teacher lectured her in class abt that incident and the whole class knew abt. When i heard from my girl, i feel bad even though my girl never give anything on her bdayin p1.

Those new stationery i bought from Thailand rather than give anything on in p1, i gave them away to the orphanage in cambodia

hercules:

Hi Ashana,


Thanks for sharing about your mum.

My late mum is someone similar - selfless and thrifty yet generous towards those poorer/weaker than her despite not well to do. People used to call her 'stupid' but from young, I adored her as my life's greatest idol. She was illiterate but lived a life of righteousness based on what her mum (my grand mum) had demonstrated to her no matter what others said.

My late mum left behind about $5,000 for her children and grandchildren, but the priceless thing is the legacy of altruism that we inherited that I do want to pass on to my kids.

Cheers to great mothers!

littleprince:

Hi Ashana,


You have a very lovely mum and in turn you have benefited from her teachings (indirectly).
I am sure that as long as you remain positive and pass on these teachings to your child, she will also pick up these positive traits.

I always tell my hubby that it is no coincidence that our friends' kids all turn up to be mini people of their parents. It is what you teach and show by example on a daily basis that they become influenced without themselves even noticing. Don't worry, just stay positive and continue to do what you do.