<![CDATA[Ang Pow Issues...]]>All about ang pows for CNY, giving and receiving. What is the 'market' rates now?

Cheers 😉

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/8602/ang-pow-issuesRSS for NodeSun, 10 May 2026 07:58:55 GMTThu, 28 Jan 2010 06:02:46 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Wed, 08 Apr 2015 06:28:29 GMT]]>I usually check the respective hotel’s wedding packages and decide the angpow$

I think M hotel weekend wedding dinner price is about $918++ (10 pax). Also depends on relationship with the bride/bridegroom. If close relative/friend, tends to give more so that they can cover the costs too.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1486877https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1486877Wed, 08 Apr 2015 06:28:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Wed, 08 Apr 2015 02:18:27 GMT]]>Please advise how much angbao to give for 1 adult & 2 kids(4 & 6yrs) for wedding lunch at M hotel ?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1486779https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1486779Wed, 08 Apr 2015 02:18:27 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Fri, 20 Jun 2014 13:45:56 GMT]]>With friends, I would give red packet. But immediate relatives, jewelry.

Last time I got married, SIL gave me a bracelet. I think I gave her a bracelet too.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1315949https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1315949Fri, 20 Jun 2014 13:45:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Fri, 20 Jun 2014 13:34:29 GMT]]>Gold necklace easily cost $2k for a nicer piece. Got to buy for groom too.


Can’t help with sibling’s wedding but as a guide, we bought a gold necklace n pendant for niece n her hubby, abt $3k. Didn’t give ang pow.

But also depend on your relationship with sil n her family as well as your own pocket. If on good terms and can afford, then give more. Otherwise a nice figure ending with 88 is good enough in my opinion.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1315944https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1315944Fri, 20 Jun 2014 13:34:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Fri, 20 Jun 2014 12:43:29 GMT]]>Paiseh didn’t realise the typo error it’s hubby’s sis! Oops

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1315924https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1315924Fri, 20 Jun 2014 12:43:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Sat, 08 Feb 2014 08:03:20 GMT]]>I agree with st2… always let the host know how much you are giving…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1209317https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1209317Sat, 08 Feb 2014 08:03:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Sat, 08 Feb 2014 04:20:19 GMT]]>

magicpiglet:
Hi all just to check as this will be my 1st encounter, hubby's wife getting married, as family side do we give ang bao to her for e banquet? We were told me, hubby n daughter cannot be present during tea ceremony as they checked e date will \"chiong\" with us( all pig zodiac), fil said we can save on ang bao for that bt banquet wise what's e usual practice? Is getting jewellery ok w/o ang bao for this case? Thsnks

?? :scratchhead:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1209189https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1209189Sat, 08 Feb 2014 04:20:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Sat, 08 Feb 2014 00:09:50 GMT]]>Hi all just to check as this will be my 1st encounter, hubby’s wife getting married, as family side do we give ang bao to her for e banquet? We were told me, hubby n daughter cannot be present during tea ceremony as they checked e date will "chiong" with us( all pig zodiac), fil said we can save on ang bao for that bt banquet wise what’s e usual practice? Is getting jewellery ok w/o ang bao for this case? Thsnks

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1208960https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1208960Sat, 08 Feb 2014 00:09:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Fri, 07 Feb 2014 17:38:06 GMT]]>

TheAnswer:
starlight1968sg:

[quote=\"路人甲\"] I believe your friend is secretly more upset and angry for giving the wrong ang pow. 😄


Can't help but laughed.
Maybe it is the right ang pow for the maid to get ready to pack up :evil:

Helpers will compare the Ang pows given by their employers and the Ang Pows given by your relatives and friends.. Like it or not..[/quote]Precisely.............it's all easy to waltz in give a big ang pow, feel good about himself.

It causes all sorts of problems for employer because now the maid thinks that this stranger who does not know me, whom I've not done anything for him gave me so much money............head getting big and falling over already!!!


\"Do you know him? Do you know his name? Did you serve him drinks? Did he touch you?\" Answer was No, no, no and no.

\"If he is not Sir's friend, would he come to this house, would he see you and give you ang pow?\"
\"If you are not working in this house, would you meet him and receive this ang pow?
Answer was......of course it is a No and no.

When I return a visit to his house, I have to return an ang pow to his maid because he gave this ang pow to you. In other words, this ang pow money is actually coming from me!

I give ang pow to maids that have been good help to their employers and I always ask the host and make sure that they approve and know. It's is basic courtesy and respect as I am a guest in their home.

Maids can steal and just say it's ang pow money. I don't give ang pow to feel good about myself/luck etc and then to cause problems to my relatives or friends.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1208925https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1208925Fri, 07 Feb 2014 17:38:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Wed, 05 Feb 2014 03:09:41 GMT]]>

janet_lee88:
I gave my maid more because it is a form of gratitude...not my maid then of course lesser.

One of my friend's helper I gave her $20 because she took care of my friend's bedridden sister very well..

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1206541https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1206541Wed, 05 Feb 2014 03:09:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Wed, 05 Feb 2014 03:08:16 GMT]]>I gave my maid more because it is a form of gratitude…not my maid then of course lesser.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1206539https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1206539Wed, 05 Feb 2014 03:08:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Wed, 05 Feb 2014 03:04:04 GMT]]>For wedding dinners, we give at least $200 for close friends even if the hotel is not the super expensive type… Relatives wise will be much more… We give what we can afford… Not calculative over the Ang Pows… Usually I decide… Hubby doesn’t care how much I give… I get to decide freely…


Usually in terms of allowance to our parents and in laws, hubby doesn’t care either… At times, he signs on blank cheques and I fill in the amount…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1206534https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1206534Wed, 05 Feb 2014 03:04:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Wed, 05 Feb 2014 02:59:59 GMT]]>

starlight1968sg:
路人甲:

I believe your friend is secretly more upset and angry for giving the wrong ang pow. 😄


Can't help but laughed.
Maybe it is the right ang pow for the maid to get ready to pack up :evil:

Helpers will compare the Ang pows given by their employers and the Ang Pows given by your relatives and friends.. Like it or not..

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1206526https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1206526Wed, 05 Feb 2014 02:59:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Wed, 05 Feb 2014 02:58:01 GMT]]>

janet_lee88:
weddings are getting more expensive...the amount of ang pao given is also dependent on level of closeness. a table at a hotel like Shangri-La or ritz is about $1k + but can't possibly expect a couple to give $500 to cover host's cost.


as for cny, i give $4 red packet to maids only.
My Ang Pows to helpers varies from helper to helper.. Good ones I dun mind giving $20.. If they do not give my relatives and friends problems all year round.. Not so good ones.. $8..

Sometimes if we are too stingy with our helpers, you can't expect them to treat you well.. Treat others how you want to be treated..

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1206525https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1206525Wed, 05 Feb 2014 02:58:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Wed, 05 Feb 2014 02:01:55 GMT]]>

路人甲:
st2:

One of my husband's friend CNY visit us gave my maid $50 Ang Pow. :mad: :mad: I am so angry!!!!! this maid cause me so much problem. In Nov last year, I already plan to send her home after her loan paid off and she also wanted to go home. Waiting for CNY 15th day.


Why these people so kay kiang? This is his first time visiting us and he's never met my maid before, my maid also did not serve him drinks. :mad:


I believe your friend is secretly more upset and angry for giving the wrong ang pow. 😄

I was thinking along similar line. :rotflmao:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1206481https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1206481Wed, 05 Feb 2014 02:01:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Wed, 05 Feb 2014 01:04:11 GMT]]>

路人甲:
I believe your friend is secretly more upset and angry for giving the wrong ang pow. 😄

Can't help but laughed.
Maybe it is the right ang pow for the maid to get ready to pack up :evil:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1206398https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1206398Wed, 05 Feb 2014 01:04:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Wed, 05 Feb 2014 01:02:16 GMT]]>weddings are getting more expensive…the amount of ang pao given is also dependent on level of closeness. a table at a hotel like Shangri-La or ritz is about $1k + but can’t possibly expect a couple to give $500 to cover host’s cost.


as for cny, i give $4 red packet to maids only.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1206394https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1206394Wed, 05 Feb 2014 01:02:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Tue, 04 Feb 2014 23:36:54 GMT]]>

st2:
One of my husband's friend CNY visit us gave my maid $50 Ang Pow. :mad: :mad: I am so angry!!!!! this maid cause me so much problem. In Nov last year, I already plan to send her home after her loan paid off and she also wanted to go home. Waiting for CNY 15th day.


Why these people so kay kiang? This is his first time visiting us and he's never met my maid before, my maid also did not serve him drinks. :mad:

I believe your friend is secretly more upset and angry for giving the wrong ang pow. 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1206331https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1206331Tue, 04 Feb 2014 23:36:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Tue, 04 Feb 2014 17:08:25 GMT]]>One of my husband's friend CNY visit us gave my maid $50 Ang Pow. :mad: :mad: I am so angry!!!!! this maid cause me so much problem. In Nov last year, I already plan to send her home after her loan paid off and she also wanted to go home. Waiting for CNY 15th day.


Why these people so kay kiang? This is his first time visiting us and he's never met my maid before, my maid also did not serve him drinks. :mad:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1206276https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1206276Tue, 04 Feb 2014 17:08:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Mon, 11 Feb 2013 16:20:28 GMT]]>My two-cents worth…for your male cousin who is getting married in a year’s time, just give MONEY. Wah…ha…ha!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/954999https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/954999Mon, 11 Feb 2013 16:20:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Mon, 11 Feb 2013 15:59:32 GMT]]>Thanks Imami and DesertWind,

The reason I shared here was I have been wondering whether is it she or me? DesertWind, I thought maybe it really wasn't enough just to give the jewelry and it's my fault after all.

Honestly when my other aunt questioned me yesterday and told me that I have to give ang pow also on top of the gift, I acted blur like \"oh I didn't give? guess I must have forgotten? aiyo not sure lei.\" :lightrod: Though in my heart I wanted to :nunchuk: :nunchuk: what double standard :mad: :mad: Also it so happened that my friend kept asking for my support in her jewelry venture that I let her to do the jewelry for me. I thought that my cousin would get a special gift and I might as well kill 2 birds with one stone.
Another of my cousins is also getting married in this year. As I am closer to him than the other, I will play it safe and ask him what he wants. His mother didn't give me anything when they attended my wedding dinner hor. 😢
Not that I'm calculative but having relatives like my aunts and uncles is really :slapshead: :faint: When my cousins were young and I was still single, e.g. I used to buy everyone of them new year's clothes for CNY every year while their parents never bought me anything not to mention buying things for my sons. That's why I felt so hurt when my aunt told me that my uncle's DW had in mind to call me to :rant: :rant: for not giving that ang pow which they expected. :sick: My aunt told me that she pacified her by playing down the issue. To think of it, probably my uncle's wife expects more from me cos I'm always generous lor. 🙏 🙏 My aunt didn't tell her that I've been giving her mother gifts every CNY or my uncle's DW will lagi :mad: that she didn't get the same treatment. This aunt of mine is very straightforward :xedfingers:
Now that I see their true colours, I :siam: :siam: :siam:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/954993https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/954993Mon, 11 Feb 2013 15:59:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Mon, 11 Feb 2013 14:35:45 GMT]]>Hi tutormom, your that uncle’s wife too much. Usually from relatives, especially for daughters, don’t expect to recover back the cost of the wedding dinner. This was told to me by my mum because she said relatives of a Boy will give more because they will help to recover the cost of the banquet. But for a Girl married out, relatives simply just will not give so much. A little bit of "free ride" actually to give to the bride’s parents that’s all. Actually it is a little "strange" because I presume your uncle’s wife would be given "free tables" by the lawas son-in-law, no? Then whatever she receive from her relatives should be more than enough for her own pocket?


For you, you have already given a box of jewelry to her daughter to me it is enough.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/954970https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/954970Mon, 11 Feb 2013 14:35:45 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Mon, 11 Feb 2013 13:54:11 GMT]]>Tutormum, some people are just like that.they fail to remember how they treat other people, only remember how other people treat them.


Move on, don't think about it anymore :hugs:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/954954https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/954954Mon, 11 Feb 2013 13:54:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ang Pow Issues... on Mon, 11 Feb 2013 10:27:40 GMT]]>

tutormum:
My uncles and aunts were so stingy that the married ones gave me a very small gift each for my wedding. The gifts were so tiny that can't cover my fingertip though it's made of gold. The unmarried ones didn't give anything. Their logic was as family there's no need to give anything cos it's considered family dinner. Married ones gave as a gesture only. :mad: I was the eldest niece in the family to get married and they were about 3 to 12 years older. I was so embarrassed that I didn't dare to let DH know and thankfully, he never bothered. We came up with an agreement that he'll take care of his family side while I take care of mine when it comes to such occasions. So when it was my uncles' and aunts' children turn to get married, I didn't give much but definitely much more than what they gave me. :pokeeye: I gave one of my cousins a specially made set of silver necklace, bracelet and earrings for her wedding. It's not valuable but priceless as I got my friend to design and made them for her. Definitely more presentable than the miserable tiny gold studded earrings her parents' gave me. :boogie: Worst, her mother grumbled to me during the wedding about the cost of the wedding dinner and I just :heresmyfish: Anyway, I understand that the standard procedure is to record what you have received from your relatives and give the same in return. :razz:

Yesterday, during CNY visit at an aunt's place, she told me that my other uncle's DW, was very upset with me cos I gave her daughter a set of jewelry for her wedding without an ang pow. She was :stompfeet: :stompfeet: :mad: :mad: cos she said that even though I gave a gift - in fact there were 2 gifts as DS1 also bought a gift for her daughter - I should also gave an ang pow to cover the cost of the dinner. My mother also attended the dinner with my brother and gave an ang pow. My mother gave an ang pow which covered my DB1 who didn't attend while my DB2's ang pow included his DW and 2 children's share though they also didn't attend. So, from my 'side' of the family, they received 2 ang pows and 2 gifts.

She :stompfeet: :stompfeet: :stompfeet: that what she received was not enough to cover for the cost of the whole dinner. :sad: :sad: the way she thinks. I understand that she wanted that lavish dinner cos her son-in-law's family very lawah and she didn't want to lose face. :siao: :siao:

Worse, my uncle met with a car accident last year and his DW blamed me for the bad luck cos I didn't give her daughter an ang pow for her wedding which took place in 2011!! :slapshead: :slapshead:

Besides, they simply forgot what they had given me for my wedding. Putting a gold studded pair of earrings in an ang pow is better than a set of jewelry meh? The box of jewelry is too big to put in an ang pow packet mah. :razz:

Sad hor, got such relatives.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/954929https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/954929Mon, 11 Feb 2013 10:27:40 GMT