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    • RE: Mummy Imami's Idiosyncrasies

      starlight1968sg:
      Serene and Serena sure have a good laugh 🙂

      Yup, they sure do.

      I have another case of wrong identity with watsapp messages. This time it involves a Cindy and a Cindi.

      One day I worked late with Cindi. Cindi said she wanted lobsters for a treat. I said ok, I would buy her lobster… rolls (ha!)

      After work, I happened to notice some advertisements and one of them was about a café near our office and they were having lobster roll promotion. So I watsapp Cindi the picture of the promotion.

      Guess what, I sent wrongly to Cindy. The best part is, Cindy replied wor! And Cindy said dunno where it was. No realisation from me yet, so I replied it’s at the basement of our neighbouring building.

      Cindy replied,”ok ok. Ask Neo to go!” That’s when I realised something was wrong cos we didn’t have a “Neo” in our circle.

      Haha.

      ** All names have been changed to something similar so you get the idea.

      posted in Newbies & Clubs
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    • RE: Mummy Imami's Idiosyncrasies

      Share with you a joke.


      I have an ex-colleague called Serene and a current colleague called Serena. One day, Serena (current colleague) sent me a watsapp message – Hi hi, can go lunch next Monday or Tuesday? Cos I no garmen!

      I read it and almost burst out laughing. I was thinking – hello Serena, you just sent a message to your “garmen” telling her you no “garmen” next week. Haha

      However, the profile picture made me did a double look. Alas, it was my ex-colleague Serene telling me that she had no garmen the following week.

      I told both Serene and Serena about this and had a good laugh.

      posted in Newbies & Clubs
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    • RE: Me Time!

      ammonite:
      starlight1968sg:

      Another week to begin with; closer to the end of 2017 and the start of 2018


      Too fast! I feel like I will be face-slammed against the door of 2018 soon.

      Watched Jumanji with my boys while DH was away. To my surprise there were more young adults and not so young adults than kids. The audience lapped up all the adolescent humour and there was much more laughter than a hall with many kids would have. In hindsight I realise younger kids may not get the body humour.

      Jumanji is one of my hubby's favourite book. I read it as a parent, when tofu boy read it. Perhaps it was one of those books which was more popular during our years (than the current generation). I mean, we are planning to watch it because we loved the book. But we know, the movie was only based loosely on the book.

      posted in Recess Time
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    • RE: Mummy Imami's Idiosyncrasies

      On the face of it, MOE teachers seem to have it good. Rookie teachers enjoy a fairly high starting salary, and just last year their salaries rose by 4% to 9% across the board.




      Yet everyone has that ex-teacher friend who quit to give tuition full-time. And if you’ve got Facebook friends who teach, it’s likely you’ve heard countless rants about the unreasonable workload and frustrating bureaucracy they face.

      And while the authorities are tight-lipped about the attrition rate of teachers and MOE scholarship bond breakers, many in the industry harbour dreams of leaving for good.

      We spoke to two current MOE teachers to find out just why so many of their colleagues fantasise about giving up that iron rice bowl.



      Poor work-life balance is a major concern

      Almost every teacher I’ve spoken with has complained about poor work-life balance and the fact that they’re ridiculously overloaded with administrative tasks. I don’t think I know a single MOE teacher who doesn’t bring work home in the evenings and on weekends.

      Teachers are usually at school by 7am, but just because they start earlier than office workers doesn’t mean they end earlier. Most leave no earlier than 5pm (some even stay till 8pm when they have responsibilities like guard duty), and many continue to work late into the night at home, marking homework and tests. Then there are the weekly CCA duties which take place in the afternoons and evenings after school, or even on weekends.

      Penelope, a 32-year-old teacher in a government school, sounds disgruntled when she says, “The reason so many MOE teachers are leaving is so obvious that I don’t understand why MOE doesn’t address this once and for all. We are bogged down by so many tasks that we are unable to focus on teaching.”

      “I remember a teacher’s wife wrote in to the papers some years back listing her husband’s crazy schedule (re-blogged here if you’re interested). IT IS TRUE. Yet sadly, MOE responded with an insensitive note that we teachers just have to learn to manage our time better,” she adds. “Many of us chalk up 12/13 hours of work every day, and sometimes we work on weekends.”

      Taylor, a 32-year-old teacher in a government-aided school, concurs. “I only spend about 40% of my time at work teaching. I think they should ease the admin load to ensure more teachers remain in the profession. Teachers are so tired out from all the admin and miscellaneous duties that it’s hard to enjoy the core of our work.”

      Incidentally, both Penelope and Taylor, who are married with kids, took close to a year of no-pay leave to look after their children. Both thought they would not be able to cope with the demands of looking after a newborn and teaching at the same time.



      Better money in tuition

      While the salaries teachers earn are largely considered to be decent, the general consensus is that they may not be worth the long hours.

      Taylor says, “The market rate for tuition is $70 per hour if you’re an MOE teacher. But I’ve friends who are charging $80 to $90 per hour. That’s very, very good money. Some famous teachers conduct group tuition sessions and earn at least $10,000 a month.”

      Penelope says, “Some of the advantages of tuition are the flexibility of time, being able to focus on teaching without being bogged down by other duties and tasks, especially class management, and being able to exercise control over which students I want to help. I have a soft spot for the weaker students. And of course, you earn an hourly rate that’s much higher than an MOE teacher’s.”

      Even so, there are some downsides to tuition that keep teachers in the profession.

      “Tutoring hours are mostly on weekday evenings or weekends. If you have a family, this is when your kids are home, yet you are out teaching,” says Taylor.

      Penelope has similar concerns. “As with any other job, there is a downside to being a full-time private tutor. You sacrifice weekday evenings and weekends if you want to maintain a decent income, and you also lack interaction with adults.”



      To stay or go?

      Penelope has made up her mind to quit her job and become a full-time tutor some time in the next few years. She is merely biding her time.

      For someone who became a teacher because she thought it would be a meaningful job, it was a tough decision for her to make.

      She says, “I think MOE really has to reconsider our workload. It really is too much. They can keep upping our salary and dishing out bonuses, but when teachers are not happy and healthy, they will leave.”

      “It disappoints me that people who work in MOE HQ used to be teachers themselves, but when they get to HQ, they come up with policies which are so demanding and sometimes unachievable. They seem to have forgotten what it is like on the ground,” she adds.

      “Those people up there better wake up soon.”

      For Taylor, things look a little rosier.

      “It sounds cheesy but I think I know that I am making a difference in the lives of my students, not just academically but holistically, and I get opportunities to do so in school where I see the students for the whole day, and even for CCAs, unlike at tuition where I see them only for 2 hours a week and the parent hires me simply to see their grades improve,” she says.

      In addition, she admits the stability and perks are a draw. “Unlike tuition where students can cancel on you and your income varies, you get a fixed pay every month. We get bonuses in March, June and December, medical and dental benefits, as well as allowances depending on our appointment in school.”

      “At the end of the day, I simply enjoy teaching,” she admits.

      “But if I continue with MOE, I will probably take long-term leave again depending on which season of my life I am in, such as during the child-bearing years.”

      (Names have been changed to protect the identity of respondents.)

      https://blog.moneysmart.sg/education/why-do-so-many-moe-teachers-quit-to-become-private-tutors/?utm_source=outbrain&utm_medium=article

      posted in Newbies & Clubs
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    • RE: Me Time!

      schweppes:
      Imami:


      Asked if he would like to read Agatha Christie's books, he said ok get one for him to try. AC is one of my fav authors.

      Get him to read Norse Mythology by Neil Gaiman. It's a fun read for boys (and girls too, esp if they enjoy reading stories on myths and mythology). Each chapter is a short story in itself. The other book that Gaiman wrote is The Graveyard Book, about a young boy being raised by supernaturals. Not a horror book about ghosts and ghouls. Quite a heartwarming read as the boy was protected and raised by ghosts growing up. This might be more suitable for older readers (secondary school age?). My girls read The Graveyard Book when they were in sec school.

      I think toufu boy will enjoy Norse Mythology.

      Thanks for the recommendation! I am running out of ideas on books for him. Most time, we find ourselves going shelf to shelf and looking at each book :slapshead: The good thing is knowing new authors (new to us).

      posted in Recess Time
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    • RE: Mummy Imami's Idiosyncrasies

      Was speaking to a school teacher and the topic of learning ahead pop up. In her view, she disagrees with the idea of learning ahead during the school holidays. Don’t think too much, she just disagree with learning ahead. Nothing mentioned about how school holiday should be. As a teacher, she feels that school syllabus should be left to the school teachers and they would be in a better position to do a good job, compared to tutors or parents.


      A few years ago, in my circle of friends and acquaintances, learning ahead is almost unheard of. Even revising/re-doing the past or current year’s syllabus is restricted to perhaps June or September holidays and only the few who really flunk their exams. These days, I hear more about learning ahead. Especially in Upper primary and upper secondary.

      I am not against learning ahead. In fact, I think it is a good idea but it is like eating raw horse meat, you know; Not for everyone. Only beneficial for some (competent and savvy) parents and kids with a good foundation already set. I am even more supportive of revising and fortifying the foundation during the holidays if the child has not grasp the syllabus previously.

      I sought Tofu boy’s opinion on this topic and his reply was pretty matured for his age. He said learning in advance is necessary in this age because a child’s life is not just about school work, and despite the school load getting heavier, the child should continue to pursue his/her interests and other commitments. I think what he is saying is to ‘spread the load’ over 12 months instead of cramping it into 40 weeks of school (actually lesser if you exclude after exam/test weeks). We have seen an extreme case of this girl whose mum cut all her other activities and totally concentrating on PSLE. Extreme to us, but maybe not so for some. There must be some leisure reading, chillax sessions etc but from what we know her swimming and violin lessons were all chopped off. Each day, the child did at least 3 hours of revision on top of school hours, homework and supp classes. If your school ends at 4pm, your homework takes around 2 hrs, give and take 2 hours to commute home/dinner/shower/pack bag etc, and then another 3 hours of revision. God, I want to faint liao. And the mother ensured that the girl persisted for 10 long months (from P5 December all the way till PSLE). Bravo, give that mother and daughter a Tiger!

      Now, we are seeing yet another girl following the same pattern. These girls are tofu boy’s music mates. The first girl did PSLE this year and what her mom and her did sort of set the example for the rest of us. The second girl taking PSLE next year, so her marathon starts this Dec.

      I didn’t want tofu boy to be like that. I feel that life needs to go on, PSLE or not. I am all for putting in the extra effort, giving up some things all for PSLE but not to the extreme end of having no life. So I think tofu boy has sort of work it out – balancing may mean it is necessary to distributing the work load to holiday period too.

      I also feel that teaching should be left to the teachers (but this cannot be taken to mean independent learning cannot take place). Tofu boy shared the same opinion but he added an important point – provided the teacher is effective. That’s so true. Not all teachers can teach effectively. Not all teachers “speak” to your child.

      So I am not any wiser than before speaking to the school teacher. However, I think we can let the child drive the process if the child has an opinion and is able to steer his/her own course.

      posted in Newbies & Clubs
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    • RE: Me Time!

      Murder on the Orient Express is good. Two thumbs up. Even if you don't like the cast, the plot or cinematography, the scenery is great.


      In my opinion, one of the best made movie in the recent years. We totally enjoyed it. Best, we watched it in a brand new movie hall. I read the story, so I wasn't so keen about who did it. It was interesting watching tofu boy guessing 😆

      Asked if he would like to read Agatha Christie's books, he said ok get one for him to try. AC is one of my fav authors.

      posted in Recess Time
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    • RE: Mummy Imami's Idiosyncrasies

      Imami:
      I was walking out of the toilet when I saw our floor’s cleaner sitting near the pool. My office is located on the same floor as the pool. I thought she was taking a breather and had playfully teased her by pointing a figure to mean,”hey, hey, gotcha!” She gestured to her knee cap and then I saw a pool guard peering out at my direction. I walked towards them and the pool guard told me that the cleaner had not one but two consecutive falls within 5 minutes. Oh man…


      The cleaner pulled up her pants to show me her red and angry knee cap. The pool guard filled me in the details. Cleaner had wanted to go scrap the water off the area around the pool area after the rain stopped. She first slipped at a step but was saved by her own hands breaking her fall. Thinking nothing of it, she moved on and that’s when she really fell and her knee cap hit hard on the edge of the step. The part where the horizonal step folds downwards to the lower step. Ouch.

      I told her to go see the company doctor (so happened to be in the same building, how convenient right?) but she refused. Perhaps the fall wasn’t serious but I felt that having a medical record in the books would be good in case of something more serious develop in the future.
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      Remember this cleaner I spoke about?

      She came to see me yesterday and told me that she had yet another fall. This time, she fell and hit her shoulders. The right shoulder and the arm were in pain the following day. Gosh, that building management should really do something for the cleaner!

      It serves as a reminder to us too, that we should watch our steps and be extra mindful of slippery floor.

      posted in Newbies & Clubs
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    • RE: Mummy Imami's Idiosyncrasies

      Just a random conversation between tofu boy and myself.


      Son: mummy, why am I born good looking?

      I thought for a while. There can be many approaches and reasons. From a scientific angle, it could be the genes. From a religious perspective, it could be good karma earned. But I decided to be honest and make a bold guess.

      Me: Because God worries for you, knowing what a undomesticated mother I would be and what a superficial human that I am. Having a beautiful face and cheerful smile are probably your best bet again a superficial mum that I am.

      Son: Right. So why do you think I am born a fast learner? Because of God again?

      Actually again, it could be any one of those reasons that I have mentioned above. But I think there is a better reason.

      Me: Because of your survival instinct. It is in us, that we adapt to changes in life. You realised fast that if you remain slow, your mom might not have waited. (Indeed, I am very impatient. I got frustrated easily when I couldn’t figure out what baby tofu wanted. His cries made me even more frustrated because I love quiet and peace. Baby cries left me unsettled and agitated. It is like a problem that I needed to solve (or shut) immediately.) I think you decided to learn how to speak fast because you were not getting your needs met and your mom wasn’t exactly adapting fast enough to understand the baby you well enough. So you learned to speak soon. You learned to walk fast because you realised that your mom aint going to pick up your desired toy for you just because you cooed for it. And your mom was always zipping around, with no time to spare.

      I had to blink the tears away as I spoke because I spoke of truth. Of course, it could be genes and stimulation from the environment etc but I believe a certain extent was because of me being a lousy mom.

      posted in Newbies & Clubs
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    • RE: Mummy Imami's Idiosyncrasies

      starlight1968sg:
      Imami

      Not so gd health workers need the job and medical benefits even more
      I know right.... But sadly businesses are not there for needy workers all the time.

      I just received a case of a painter, going on surgery due to scoliosis. He had been suffering in pain since 3 years ago and the pain is getting worse. His latest screening showed that the last few discs were crushing and the upper spine is curving side way. Gosh, you cannot imagine how painkillers can help him.

      The first time I saw him, he shared with me about his medical history and a brief family background. Late thirties, 6 dependents including an ailing mom and a brother on dialysis. Three young kids. He was really concerned about his rice bowl. Tell me about people who are not happy about work location! :slapshead:

      The next time I saw him was two weeks ago. He was leaning against the reception counter, like pushing the counter, said he was in pain. An ambulance was called for him and the next we knew, he was on hospitalisation leave for 10 days.

      Saw him again just a few days back. He told me that his condition couldnt wait anymore and he had to go for surgery. I replied ya lah, told you to go already. He said he was worried about the cost and his career prospect. I will feel guilty if I promise him the sky and then cannot deliver, so I did an analysis with him. We calculate the HL coverage and if his pay will be docked (if HL over 60 days, then may have to NPL). I told him he could use annual leave to cover for next year and this year should be fine (HL can cover all the way till end of 2017). Next we analyse the cost of surgery and the incidentals. I told him the insurance will cover him for the first $10k and then we could activate another slate of coverage for his medical expenses. Come next year, he would have another trench of the same coverage.

      I was glad what we had could at least cover him for the time being. He left the office, I hope, feeling lighter.

      You know why he keep stalling the surgery? Not that he didn't know the problem wouldn't go away without invasive intervention. It is the thought of the livelihood of his family that kept him from going ahead. He is the sole breadwinner for the family of 7. His condition was complicated and he was worried that his mobility would be affected because doctors confirmed that it would be risky to operate. What if he couldn't work anymore?

      :sad:

      posted in Newbies & Clubs
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