Oh wow. I am spooked. But could it be the things that the kids were doing before they sleep? Like caught a glimpse of a horror movie that you all were watching? I remember I used to be unable to differentiate dreams from reality. I remember watching Terminator and seeing Arnold cut off his hand to show his robot skeleton freaked the hell out of me. That night I dreamt that my brother did the same thing and I ran into my mom’s telling her what my brother did. (My brother sleeps in the same room as me at that time) After that, for a week I didn’t dare go near my brother.


The huge eye might be from Lord of the rings where Sauron always looks for the ring. Hahahah! Just a stupid thought. But who knows right? You never know what would scare a child.

Actually, if you all think about it, fighting is indeed wrong but at times, if you put yourself into their shoes, you would want to fight back. In fact, I would say that the bullied should get together and "fight" back against the bullies. Who knows, it teaches them courage, teamwork and perhaps justice. Bullies always target those who are alone and weak. So if the bullied banded together, I doubt they will be easily targeted anymore.

Wah so long never come here liaow. hahah! Anyways, recently, it seems my brother has started to make me run errands like he is the parent at home. I am like feeling so angry at this. I mean, even now my sibling take me as nothing. Angry much,.

Wah! Projects are piling up and I am soooooo stressed! I am about to go BOOOMZ! LOL~


Been a long time since I have been here. I think I need some sort of incentive to come back here. And to solve that, I am open to any questions from you daddy and mommies out there! If you need an opinion of a young adult or someone closer to the generation of your kids, please feel free to ask.

Though I request that you be open minded about my opinions. You are free to retort in anyway you like, just don’t be offended by it. I am just being honest and straightforward. I am just like that. Hate beating around the bush. Haha.

So what are you waiting for? Start asking!

I don’t know about it. But my parents didn’t really talk to me about sex and stuff. Or rather they never have. I find that if parents take the trouble to go and talk about it to their kids, they would find it redundant. I think there will be a chance for the situation for the parents to talk about it. For instance like when you are watching news together and news mentioned about certain issues, you can tell them about it and how they shouldn’t do it. Though I believe this would not end up in a serious discussion.


Yet if parents have the intention before hand to talk about it, it would kind of not have any effect at all.

i am glad I took time to read this forum. Haha! I really learn a lot. Now I will know what to expect when I have kids in future. And I realised its true. Now no one uses the yao lan. I think I will have one for my kids. Just to relfect back. Hahaha!

I believe that there are a few kinds of interest.


1. Nurtured interest
2. Influenced interest
3. Natural interest

Nurtured interest develops when the parents expose to the child or the child is exposed to a hobby or activity long enough that they slowly start to show an interest in it. If I were to give an analogy, it would be like eating bitter gourd. It is very much like an acquired taste. You might not like it at the start but the more you eat it, slowly you will be able to appreciate and savor the bitterness and find that within that bitterness, there is sweetness in it.

Influenced interest is somewhat the same as nurtured but with the exception that this influence is strongly based on what the parents want or feels that is beneficial to the kids. This can somehow end in child being forced to partake in the parents whims. There can also be external influences, such as friends or the media. However such interest are usually a short term interest. They will lose interest if the hobby or activity is not trending.

As for natural interest, need I say more? Haha. This is the best kind of interest and if any mommy or daddy sees this in a child, do take the opportunity to expose her more to it in adequate dosages cos even the most interested kid will be bored if you give her too much of the same things.

I hope this helps. And I didn't quote this from any books although it sounds like it. I merely analysed this.

2ppaamm:

My girls are never allowed to go shopping with friends, even now that they are 15 and 13. I get worried that they might mix with the wrong crowd, hang out for the wrong reasons, or pick up wrong habits from the wrong kids.


Now, my girls are a little bit more 'sua-ku' than your average kids, even compared to their brother. Kor-kor had been going out without me ferrying him around since 14, but not the girls, because I am a little bit more protective with the girls.

I think there are advantages and disadvantages. Advantages is that you have full control of their situations and you know they are not exposed to any potential problem. The disadvantage is that you get very naive and 'innocent' girls, which could potentially be gullible.

My older girl is now in the uni and so I taught her to take the public transport. She manages to get around and to the shopping mall to buy stuff (normally craft and hobby supplies, and groceries for the family) once a week. But my rule is that you can go buy stuff, but not hang out in the shopping areas. Max in a shopping centre is 30 minutes for my girls.

If you reign tightly like I did, I guess the kids are a bit 'reserved' compared to girls who are allowed to do and go out with friends. We then need to teach them wisdom and explain the rationale behind what we do. I think we ought to be even more careful not to ruin a relationship when we forbid our kids going out with friends, lest they hide information or go out without permission.

I guess each kid is different, so do what you think is right, and explain your action carefully and clearly so she is always on your side.

Hope this helps!

Wah mummy. You are hardcore. I feel that you are pulling too tight on the leash though. Though they might be all agreeable at home and stuff like that, you would never know what they are doing behind your back. Cos I believe that the more you restrain a kid from doing something they want to do, all the more they will do it behind your back.

After all, what's worse than finding out later that they already did things without you knowing? Perhaps allow them to go out but give them a curfew? I am sure they have often been asked out by their friends countless of times and if they are turning them down because you do not allow them to go out, very soon they might find themselves with no friends. Children at that age are very pragmatic. If they constantly ask someone to hang out but gets rejected everytime, they will stop being friends with them.

You might very well be destroying their social circle. And I strongly believe that later in life, its better to know how to handle and behave in front of people cos those are the things that school does not teach you. If you keep them at home all the time, the only people they know how to behave to is only you. When they go out to work, they will suffer. I know this cos when I was in poly, I met this girl who was really great in academics and always top the class for tests and such. But in poly, there are job attachments. So I was sent to the same attachment centre as her, and to make things worse for her, it was a call centre where we are required to pick up calls and think fast.

Needless to say, she broke down and cried after a week cos the stress was too much for her to handle and she never bothered to try to make friends in the workplace because she was just too shy.

Hope this would give you an insight that you should not control them too much. Give them a little breathing space.

You know what is worse than this whole MCS thing?


Its why your siblings also start doing what your parents do to you. Anything in the house that goes wrong, they would also point to me first. Or like errands that my mom asks my older brother to do, he would palm it off to me. My younger sister would then make use of her position to always do the wrong things and then blame it on me.

It is really sad when everyone in the family is really against you. As do what all youngsters like to say these days, FML. Zzz.

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