All About Full-Time Maids
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Good maids do exist.
I have a very good maid now, she is Indonesian. She is honest, reliable, humble, soft-spoken, and she absolutely adores my kids. My kids are very fond of her. She is also very respectful towards my parents. She keeps the house very clean, and she cooks reasonably well. I sent back 7 maids before I found her. So good maids are really very difficult to find.
Even though she is very good, I still will not trust her to be alone with my kids. I still want my mother to stay with me to look after the kids. If my mother has to go out, I will take leave to stay at home.
My hubby has a few web cams, and he can easily install them. But I never used them. Personally I think that these are useless. By the time we find out that something bad has happened, the damage is already done.
Mommies should try their best to prevent bad things from happening to their kids. Mommies who leave their kids alone with maids, are actually putting the kids in a dangerous situation, waiting for tragedies to happen. Read the horror stories in my blog http://singaporemaidcomments.blogspot.com/.
Even if the maid never harms the child, how can a maid take over the role of the mommy ? I think it is very wrong of people to say things like \"you are wasting your education staying home to look after your kids\". Children who are raised by such mommies at home, are the luckiest children in the world. Because their mommies are capable of finding the best possible ways to teach their kids, like what Sunflower is doing
My hubby once told me, that he wished that I were his mommy
He said that his mommy left him at home with the servant since he was born. Even when she came home, she did not pay attention to him at all. Well I am also a full time working mom, but I try to spend as much time as possible to teach the kids. I don't want them to grow up and say the same thing as what my hubby said : \"I was raised by servants.\" -
tamarind:
Thanks for your encouraging words. Frankly, I didn't \"teach\" my DD2 like what I did to DD1 but DD2 seems to strive in this free play environment. Something I did was I talk to her A LOT (and this is where my DD1 missed out) and I think she learnt thru daily observations and daily activities such as during meal times, bathing times etc...
Children who are raised by such mommies at home, are the luckiest children in the world. Because their mommies are capable of finding the best possible ways to teach their kids, like what Sunflower is doing
DD2 loves to go round the house digging for stuff such as empty toilet rolls and tissue boxes (which I put aside for recycling). She'll also take scissors, glue, tape, stickers or whatever she needs from the stationary box and start creating things like binoculars, musical instruments such as guitar etc. Once, she made a washing sink from protective foams taken out of the box of a newly bought computer, and she started role playing all by herself. :shock: Ha, ha, maybe in homeschool term, this is called Unschooling.
Sensing that DD2 might be a bright child, I always feel that I should spend more time teaching her systematically. However, being maidless and having loads of things to do makes me feel that time is always not on my side...
tamarind is really inspiring and reading her posts on teaching her children always reminds me that I should be more hardworking and consistent (not my nature) in teaching my children... -
I do agree with sunflower that with no maid, very limited time to teach kids also. without maid, a mum staying at home is like working, except that, she is doing housework instead of working in office. :lol:
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smurf:
without maid, a mum staying at home is like working, except that, she is doing housework instead of working in office. :lol:
Totally agree!!
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sunflower:
Teaching does not only mean A,B,Cs and 1,2,3,s. A child benefits just simply having her educated mommy around. She learns to speak good English. An educated mommy is likely to spend her free time reading, writing or using the computer. Her child will copy all her good habits
Thanks for your encouraging words. Frankly, I didn't \"teach\" my DD2 like what I did to DD1 but DD2 seems to strive in this free play environment. Something I did was I talk to her A LOT (and this is where my DD1 missed out) and I think she learnt thru daily observations and daily activities such as during meal times, bathing times etc...tamarind:
Children who are raised by such mommies at home, are the luckiest children in the world. Because their mommies are capable of finding the best possible ways to teach their kids, like what Sunflower is doing
What can kids learn from maids ? Maids will probably sms or chat on their phone all day. Or they will just turn on the TV all the day. I have heard of kids who learn to speak English with a filipino accent from their filipino maid ! Their horrified parents have to send them for speech therapy. No offense to filipinos, but we are Singaporeans and we do not appreciate our kids speaking any other accent, right ? Of course British accent is the best lah.
My Indonesian maid is very good. She has been working in Singapore for more than 8 years, so she speaks English with a Singaporean accent. She is a very hardworking maid, does not chat on the phone at all, she is always wiping and cleaning all day long. Guess what my kids learn from her ? They find it fun to wipe and clean ! Fortunately they got bored of it very quickly.
I just read the front page news on the New Paper today, about a maid who slept with lover at home, when the kids were around. The girl then mimicked the acts of the maid and her boyfriend :shock: -
New updates !
I received an email from an employer whose maid tried to seduce the tenant ! Check out the story here.
http://singaporemaidcomments.blogspot.com/2009/04/nuryati-indonesian.html -
tamarind:
Indeed very shocking news. Thanks for sharing.New updates !
I received an email from an employer whose maid tried to seduce the tenant ! Check out the story here.
http://singaporemaidcomments.blogspot.com/2009/04/nuryati-indonesian.html -
Argh! :x
My maid for 1year starting to create problem for me…
Before we get her, told her no handphone will be allowed and she agreed.
Now, almost every other day she’ll complaint to my elder son 7yo that she’s not happy because all she can’t have handphone!!
I talked to her (not scolding). I said that is what we agreed upon and how can you now request to own a handphone? I let her called home say once a month because she missed her child but like what other says she doesn’t appreciate but want More!
I hate to deal with ppl that don’t keep their promised. I guess I have to be in a lookout again for maids…
I am one of the lucky one who got my previous maid worked for me for 7 years! With the new maid just 1 year, perform not better than my previous but request for things…
Can I check if anyone of you hire ex-hkg maid before? Any problem so far?
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KS_me:
Your ex maid of 7 years believe was from philippine and were new when you took her right.Argh! :x
I am one of the lucky one who got my previous maid worked for me for 7 years! With the new maid just 1 year, perform not better than my previous but request for things...
Can I check if anyone of you hire ex-hkg maid before? Any problem so far?
Appreciate your feedback.
This current one must be very experience. If she is not happy and you are not happy… if there is no solution… I really suggest that you let her go and find her 'greener pasture'. No point keeping her and yet cannot keep her heart. -
I have the same problem and my maid is already 3 years - she dont smile, dont talk to us unless it is necessary. She can go out once a month and has mobile phone. Actually there is not much to do in my house except to cook dinner, clean my apartment (very small one) and most imptly take bus to my child's school daily and take a bus back with her. My child stayed in school for lunch due to ECA and extra classes.
There is not much communication between us. Of cos I wish to fire her as her behaviour is really bad sometimes - however this is easy to say then done. My hubby travels due to work alot and I am working full time. It is difficult to train a new maid to take bus, look after my child.
Also, I feel that she is also bore at home most of the time and I can see that she is really looking after my child well.
Hands are tight and it is really frustating - my hubby is not willing to risk changing a maid without us at home most of the time. My only hope is one day she wants to go back to Indo.
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