Bukit Timah Primary

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No one? I understand one of the girls almost cried.

[Maple leaf]

Hideminc,


Which class is yr DS in? Did he tell you whar vulgar language was used? Last week, DS was upset with the phrase" Cut Q, BBQ."
He find it vulgar but I dun find anything bad but DS was upset the whole day. (He didnlt cut queue but find it offensive). I tried so hard to take that off his mind…
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Other than that, havenlt heard anything yet.

[xiaoming17]

ya - didn’t hear my DD (at 1 Adapability) mentioned anything abt it. What class is your DS in?

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Thanks Maple Leaf and Xiaoming for the feedback. The vulgar language is not in class, it is in the school bus and it is the f-word. My son wasn’t upset at all! He didn’t know it was a bad word and tried it out at home and my jaws just dropped. It took me a while to find out what was going on and by then, he has even learnt how to spell it. I have resolved the situation with him and have asked the class teacher to reinforce my message with a reminder in class.


The chase-and-kiss thing is usually during recess time. I understand children from two classes were at it - Resilience and Charity. I told him to just stay out of it and hopefully they will tire of the game soon. I just didn’t it to spiral to a point when parents of girls complain, or when he gets into trouble for fending kissers off his friends.

Sigh, I’m just not very happy with the school environment now. A couple of his things have gone missing and I suspect his lost wallet is a case of petty theft. It’s so disappointing to hear of this happening in school and in primary one as well.

[huaywenandkenneth]

Oh dear, I’d better check with my DS about the kissing thing since he is in 1 Resilience.

But he can be quite blur sometimes so it may just fly by his head completely.
Do you think the form teacher should be alerted to these episodes so that the school can investigate?

I have heard about the school buses (in fact, these things already start in the kindergarten school bus). My DS was bullied in his school bus and when my mother spoke to the bus driver one of the afternoon he was dropped off, the driver just casually mentioned "oh your grandson wants to sit at the back!(?!)"

About the lost items - my son comes back with many colour pencils changed, as 3 of his group members have the same sets (and he always comes back with the shorter and broken ones), so I got him a set that looks distintively different and the matter was resolved. There was also a need to stress to DS to look after his things and not to leave things lying around, and to report to teacher immediately if he lost or found something. So far he is fine with it. You wanna check the lost wallet in the school office? Apparently, my DS tells me there are many lost items in the school office in one of our conversations

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Well, I posted because I was not sure how seriously we should take the kissing thing. A couple of other (young) adults whom my son spoke to was shocked and came to talk to me about it. I was surprised because they are younger than me! Personally I thought it was just harmless playing, just that I do not want my son to have any part in it - be it the kisser, getting kissed, or trying to stop them all. If none of you heard it then it should be all right. I didnt tell the teacher, because I want my son to continue being open to me about what is happening in school. I will only speak to the teacher discretely if I know someone is in distress.


I have raised the issues of vulgarities and theft with the school - and it's definitely theft - and I am satisfied that they addressed these to the children. That's really all we can expect from the school. The bus driver can't do anything - he has to drive! In fact I pity the poor man having to concentrate on the road with a bunch of screaming fighting kids just behind him. For us at least, the bus situation has already improved from the start of the year when things were really bad - we are talking about hitting, ear-pulling and filming on the handphone. Now that I know who is who, and they know who I am :evil: things have improved a lot. I think the children can be reasonable as well, as long as they know someone is keeping tabs.

[huaywenandkenneth]

I probed my DS about the kissing thing and is convinced that he is not part of the group. He says he is part of a big recess group that plays "catch" (I also asked what happens during "catch" and it sounds pretty normal) and the group runs around the open area OR he will be part of a group that runs around during recess (yes, he is that deprived, and he LOVES to run!)


I was recalling the days when I had to take the school bus. Back then, the bus drivers were fierce, and the children had to be cooperative! I think this is really an attitude problem. If the bus drivers don’t see this as part of their job, it is very difficult to concentrate driving with a busload of screaming kids. Maybe I am wrong and too old-fashion.

[preciousDK]

Hi,


My son came back with the word "f***" last week!!..which he got to know it from upper pri student from the same sch bus.
He even checked the meaning by using his papa iphone dictionary, but of course he does not understand so keep asking us what does it mean.

We told him its a very very bad word and warned him not to say it and if he do so, he will get punishment from us and also teacher. Earlier on, he also came back with "idiot" and used it on his brother n my helper…sigh

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huaywenandkenneth:

I think this is really an attitude problem. If the bus drivers don't see this as part of their job, it is very difficult to concentrate driving with a busload of screaming kids. Maybe I am wrong and too old-fashion.

I don't know how full the bus is by the time your son gets home, but it is still quite full when mine gets home and it is a RIOT in the bus. There is no way the driver can be louder than them and I think the only way he can drive is to totally tune it all out. I can hear all the kids in the bus from my unit on the third floor. I know it is all in the name of fun, and my son is as mischievious as any other boy, but I really feel very alarmed sometimes at the amount of activity in a moving bus. I have told ds to sit away from the door etc (once the poor driver was so distracted he forgot to pull up the brake when he stepped out for a while and the entire van began to move slowly down the (very gentle) slope.)

preciousDK,
only last week ah?! Mine picked it up weeks ago! Now he and his younger brother whisper about the \"naughty f-word\". Yesterday he came home with stories from a P2 boy who said he would show the middle finger to his classmates during swimming class under the water. The same P2 boy also told them how he worked all the bad words into his show and tell segment in class (but I think he is telling tall tales to \"impress\" the younger ones). I can only and remind him that doing the same will reflect badly on him.

Also yesterday, he came back and asked me what \"molest\" mean. grrrr... Apparently they have stopped the chase and kiss, but some of the boys were \"tapping\" a girl all over and she used the word.

[latte]

Did anyone went to the sports day at Clementi station last month , wonder why the school holding sports day which starts from 12.30pm to 4.30pm . Most schools held sports day in morning to avoid afternoon sun . Wonder who is the organizer of this event , expecting the kids to run in hot sun , does he know what is heatstroke ?