All About GEP

[MMM]

Hi Zack,


I understand what you mean.

For me, I actually prefer my kids to be self-motivated rather than being pushed by us to study. I know this is too idealistic and how many kids are self-motivated. I feel that a self-motivated person can do a lot more. I am just praying that my son to "kai (1) qiao (4)" faster. It’s like once the switch is turn on, you will know what you want and the rest will follow.

On the other hand, I always tell them that what they are doing is for themselves and not us. We are not the ones who is going to sweep the singapore road or throw the spore rubbish should we choose not to study. They are the ones who have to face it themselves.

Haha unlike you, i am not so relaxed mum as I send them for enrichment classes. I actually give them "vision". eg. if you do well, you can go to this school,etc… I think this is what my parents fail to give me when I was young. They are happy if I get married, have 2 kids, get a bank teller job (haha that explains why my 1st job is in a bank), stay in a 5 room flat and drive a 1000 cc car. I didn’t know what I was aiming for in life.

On the other hand, on a long term basis, I would strongly encourage you to pursue a degree or some prof qualifications. There are too many grads nowadays, though there is nothing special but without paper, you will find yourself "handicapped" at some stage. Eg. companies who insist that the certain role must be filled by degree holder,etc… when you are on the lookout.

[jedamum]

MMM:

there is never a guarantee that if you are a top student, you will definitely have a brighter future.

I was a top student. And now I'm a sahm. Is that a bright future?

[tamarind]

jedamum:

MMM:

there is never a guarantee that if you are a top student, you will definitely have a brighter future.

I was a top student. And now I'm a sahm. Is that a bright future?

Getting a good hubby who can earn enough so that you can have the luxury to stay at home, is also a very bright future :lol:

[ZacK]

MMM:

Haha unlike you, i am not so relaxed mum as I send them for enrichment classes. I actually give them \"vision\". eg. if you do well, you can go to this school,etc... I think this is what my parents fail to give me when I was young. They are happy if I get married, have 2 kids, get a bank teller job (haha that explains why my 1st job is in a bank), stay in a 5 room flat and drive a 1000 cc car. I didn't know what I was aiming for in life.

One thing I do not want to do is to be a slave to my son... I do what is enough to keep him in the race, spend my own time wif him to inculcate the right values. So I make sure my wife and I have our own individual space to breathe to pursue our own hobbies/interests... I read of so many parents doing so much ... yes out of love for their kids... But if we(parents) cant even take care of ourselves and ensure that we are not burnt out... How can we expect our kids to be any different and to cope... By having my own space, I also wont feel that having kids is a burden then.

MMM:

On the other hand, on a long term basis, I would strongly encourage you to pursue a degree or some prof qualifications. There are too many grads nowadays, though there is nothing special but without paper, you will find yourself \"handicapped\" at some stage. Eg. companies who insist that the certain role must be filled by degree holder,etc... when you are on the lookout.

I know what you mean... But I'm not really that young anymore... So cant compete wif the grads with qualifications... At my level, I have to go in based on experienced. And that is why track record and good reference is impt. Anyway, my next career check pt is 4 yrs later... For me to decide what/where I wanna do/go

[ZacK]

jedamum:

MMM:

there is never a guarantee that if you are a top student, you will definitely have a brighter future.

I was a top student. And now I'm a sahm. Is that a bright future?

I'm sure for many having a bright future equates to success.

For me, success is subjective and has a different meaning for different people... My success is measured in terms of:
- The level of happiness with my life.
- The level of love that is reciprocated by the people who means a lot to me.
- The ability to maintain the lifestyle that I have envisaged for my family and I.

So even if I cant stay in a 10,000 sq ft bungalow and drive a fancy Ferrari car... I know I can be successful becos that is not what I'm after

[ZacK]

tamarind:

jedamum:

[quote=\"MMM\"] there is never a guarantee that if you are a top student, you will definitely have a brighter future.

I was a top student. And now I'm a sahm. Is that a bright future?

Getting a good hubby who can earn enough so that you can have the luxury to stay at home, is also a very bright future :lol:[/quote]Hmmm if that is your definition... Then my wife will never have a \"bright future\"!!! :oops:

[MMM]

Just something to share, when I did my part time degree, there was at least 2 guys in the room who are 50 yrs & above. All very established in their career : ) But yes, it's not easy and a huge challenge.


Next year, my co can sponsor me for MBA but I am still having thots if I really want to do that. It's like I could have use that time to guide my own kids in their studies esp with 2 in pri school..... Sometimes it's a personal choice and knowing what you want and what works best.

ZacK:

MMM:

But I'm not really that young anymore... So cant compete wif the grads with qualifications... )

[ZacK]

MMM:

Just something to share, when I did my part time degree, there was at least 2 guys in the room who are 50 yrs & above. All very established in their career : ) But yes, it's not easy and a huge challenge.


Next year, my co can sponsor me for MBA but I am still having thots if I really want to do that. It's like I could have use that time to guide my own kids in their studies esp with 2 in pri school..... Sometimes it's a personal choice and knowing what you want and what works best.

No worries... For me learning is a continuous process regardless of our age... If we do not learn new things/skills... We would be regressing because requirements are not stagnant thus possibility of being made redundant.

I do not preclude the possibility of pursuing tertiary qualifications later... Just thot that the professional papers would give me more mileage at the moment ... My next class starts from Sep 08 till Mar 09

So to go back to the main topic... I wont be overly particular abt my son's grades when he is schooling... I'll probably follow CKS and let my son decide (part of empowerment) should he be nominated to try for the GEP. Because the journey/learning process is continuous... As long as he continues to keep learning new things/skills... I'm sure he'll be successful

[corneyAmber]

ZacK:

should he be nominated to try for the GEP.

Is GEP test based on nomination? i have the impression that all kids will be given a chance to opt for taking or not taking. can anyone confim?[/i] cos everyone i know with a P3 kid all taking exam on 23 aug.

[ZacK]

ks2me:

ZacK:

should he be nominated to try for the GEP.

Is GEP test based on nomination? i have the impression that all kids will be given a chance to opt for taking or not taking. can anyone confim?[/i] cos everyone i know with a P3 kid all taking exam on 23 aug.

Oops... I stand corrected on the nomination... I simply assumed it to be so. However unlikely that all kids will be given a chance to take the GEP testing IMO.