janet88:friend was worried child couldn't do well enough to enter RI and felt o level would be more stressful...so brought the son for this and that interview to secure a place. honestly, this boy is really very intelligent and hardworking. if my friend had not pushed him so hard, he would have done very well for o levels.
when the psle results were released, she tried to 'unlock' him from the school which gave him a vacancy.
after entering the IP school, the poor boy was really very unhappy with the workload and 3rd language...there was simply no breathing space. he snapped.
From the way you described, it seems that your friend is doing all the decision making regarding DSA and her boy just went along with it. He
did not own the decision in choosing the IP school where he accepted the CO. From the sounds of it, his dream school is RI.
As it is, he was 'so-so' in accepting the DSA offer. When the PSLE results were released, he began regretting accepting the DSA offer as it prevented him from entering his dream school. The resentment had already started since the release of PSLE results. It just grew increasingly when the workload becomes heavy in Yr 1 in the DSA school because his heart was not there in the first place. So instead of being motivated to overcome the challenge, he becomes even more resentful about it. Things just come to a boiling point and he snapped.
So, parents, please give due consideration to your child's well-being by having an open and honest conversation with him on the school of choice.
Being motivated to go the particular school is a critical factor for
he is the one going to it daily, NOT you.