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A lot of more serious ailments masks itself in common symptoms. Similar issue with Dad.
He experienced some chest discomfort that is like gastric or heartburn. He went to the doctors a few times and each time they sent him home with antacids and told him indigestion and heartburn cos due to age the lower esophageal sphincter has weakened so gastric juices are flowing into his esophagus causing his symptoms. I guess because Dad did not have other major issues like the 三高, the doctors did not think to investigate further. After a couple of months of this, my dad knowing heartburn symptoms could be heart issues went to the doctor and insisted on a full work up. At that point the doctor was still advising him no need for that and it will be costly. Dad told the doc that he is a pensioner so cost is covered.
Well, good thing Dad insisted. The work up showed that Dad's arteries were all over 75% blocked and the heart shows signs of mild heart attacks. He basically had a ticking timebomb in his chest. He was immediately referred to the heart specialist and a stent op was arranged and done. He was put on heart medications and blood thinners. All these were emergency stop gap measures while they scheduled him for further checks and tests for bypass.
Imagine if Dad had not gotten pushy with the doctors, he may not be around today. We could have lost over 10yrs with my Dad, countless memories and he may not have been around to see his 2 youngest grandchildren.
Actually the heartburn, indigestion issues can really mask the real underlying issues. My sil always had indigestion issues and the GP would send her with those medication to fix it. So it was kind of late when she discovered she had stage 3b ovarian cancer. She left us last year at the age of 52.
While we need to plan for retirement, I also learnt that sometimes we should not over plan. We need to be responsible with our finances and yes planning is required. However, more importantly, we should live in the moment as we never know how much time we have.
I used to worry if I still have 7-8 years more of job security as I am hoping to retire at 55. But after this, I probably worry less. I told dh that i think we are blessed with property investment. The worst case scenario is to sell one of them. He also came to a conclusion that what you spent on is what truly belongs to you. Otherwise it will probably be sitting in the bank and yes.... most likely it will go to the kids instead. Seeing my FIL (late 80s) with dementia, everyday is like passing time since the quality of life is no longer there. While he is financially sound, he don't get to enjoy what he built.
So yes folks.... live in the moment!