All About Bullying

[Udon]

Hi Monster mummy, how u console your girl? Do your girl come home and cried because of her classmates?


My girl die die must clink to the group, she has 39 girls in class but she doesn’t want to friend-others! End up making herself unhappy and cried at home!

I am lost ! Keep telling her to stay away from them if they do not want to talk to her! But did not work!

How, how!!

(My girl is in P6)

[icy_mama]

Udon:

Hi Monster mummy, how u console your girl? Do your girl come home and cried because of her classmates?


My girl die die must clink to the group, she has 39 girls in class but she doesn't want to friend-others! End up making herself unhappy and cried at home!

I am lost ! Keep telling her to stay away from them if they do not want to talk to her! But did not work!

How, how!!

(My girl is in P6)

udon, as a mother, i can feel your frustration.... esp with psle just around the corner. i shared your story with my p6 dd and she suggested getting your dd to just join another group la, why be so difficult on herself? that's from a fellow p6 point of view. easier said than done.

on the other hand, her primary school journey is coming to an end. in a few month's time, she'll have a whole new school of friends to make. encourage her to reflect on what makes that group reject her and learn from that. as a mother, i'd also want to know what attracts her to this group of girls that she so badly wants to be part of.

as they grow, friends play a big part in a teenage girl's life, even more than parents at times. choosing them wisely is a skill she has to learn and u have to inculcate.

[Udon]

icy_mama:

Udon:

Hi Monster mummy, how u console your girl? Do your girl come home and cried because of her classmates?


My girl die die must clink to the group, she has 39 girls in class but she doesn't want to friend-others! End up making herself unhappy and cried at home!

I am lost ! Keep telling her to stay away from them if they do not want to talk to her! But did not work!

How, how!!

(My girl is in P6)

udon, as a mother, i can feel your frustration.... esp with psle just around the corner. i shared your story with my p6 dd and she suggested getting your dd to just join another group la, why be so difficult on herself? that's from a fellow p6 point of view. easier said than done.

on the other hand, her primary school journey is coming to an end. in a few month's time, she'll have a whole new school of friends to make. encourage her to reflect on what makes that group reject her and learn from that. as a mother, i'd also want to know what attracts her to this group of girls that she so badly wants to be part of.

as they grow, friends play a big part in a teenage girl's life, even more than parents at times. choosing them wisely is a skill she has to learn and u have to inculcate.

Thanks, icy_mama

The reason that the group has rejected her because lately teachers praised her of improving in her study and they started to stay away from my girl!!

After she reading this message, I asked her; is she still going to stick to them, she said 'yes'!
I will try to talk to her again.....
Hopefully, she 可以想通！

[icy_mama]

your girl really can make her mummy don't push her too much. i think she knows what she really wants. just be there for her. hang on, udon. :hugs:

[Udon]

icy_mama:

your girl really can make her mummy don't push her too much. i think she knows what she really wants. just be there for her. hang on, udon. :hugs:

Thank you so much, icy-mama.
May God bless...:)

[Monster Mummy]

Udon:

icy_mama:

your girl really can make her mummy don't push her too much. i think she knows what she really wants. just be there for her. hang on, udon. :hugs:

Thank you so much, icy-mama.
May God bless...:)

So in today situation, it seem that girls can get jealously easily. Even my girl also the same situation, as a student councillor, those classmates unable to have a chance to become councillor. They form a group to boycott her. My girl is much better after we try to trigger to think by telling her like qualities of friend and life still goes even left with no friends.

[icy_mama]

Monster Mummy:

Udon:

[quote=\"icy_mama\"]your girl really can make her mummy don't push her too much. i think she knows what she really wants. just be there for her. hang on, udon. :hugs:

Thank you so much, icy-mama.
May God bless...:)

So in today situation, it seem that girls can get jealously easily. Even my girl also the same situation, as a student councillor, those classmates unable to have a chance to become councillor. They form a group to boycott her. My girl is much better after we try to trigger to think by telling her like qualities of friend and life still goes even left with no friends.[/quote]good for her. she'll find someone more deserving of her friendship.

[sembgal]

http://www.stopbullying.gov/kids/what-you-can-do/index.html#bullied


How to help our young children to understand what is bullying. I heard it is more prevalent in girls' school. Parents have to learn to listen to the children speak out their feelings everyday to find out the child's emotional feelings in school. When I went for Pri 1 Orientation, the principal mentioned that parents should never confront another parents or students directly. I only begun to understand what the principal meant by not confronting other parents and children directly after finding out from other parents with children from other levels that in any particular girls' schools, there is at least 1 big bully in the class with her followers. Always alert the teachers to bullying if parents are aware of. Strangely, I heard those bullies are often sent to tuition frequently, parents neglect them emotionally, only care about their grades and expect them to do extremely well academically. These children go to school to say my parents don't love me, only care about my grades, only work and work, always send me to tuition all the time. When children do not get enough attention at home from the parents, the child will go to school to bully to get that attention they need. And to add, girls' schools are not as peaceful as you think. Bullying can begin in Pri 1, usually from Term 3 onwards based on my experienced parents friends with children in Pri school.

[bmch]

Sometimes it can be very upsetting for the parents when our children are being bullied especially so when the teachers are prejudiced, and the children have no one to turn to for help.

[Enbin]

bmch:

Sometimes it can be very upsetting for the parents when our children are being bullied especially so when the teachers are prejudiced, and the children have no one to turn to for help.

I totally agreed.. We have to note our children behaviour. Are they be happy when we pick them up from the sch or they are afraid of certain teachers.