All About Bullying

[icy_mama]

Monster Mummy:

Udon:

[quote=\"icy_mama\"]your girl really can make her mummy don't push her too much. i think she knows what she really wants. just be there for her. hang on, udon. :hugs:

Thank you so much, icy-mama.
May God bless...:)

So in today situation, it seem that girls can get jealously easily. Even my girl also the same situation, as a student councillor, those classmates unable to have a chance to become councillor. They form a group to boycott her. My girl is much better after we try to trigger to think by telling her like qualities of friend and life still goes even left with no friends.[/quote]good for her. she'll find someone more deserving of her friendship.

[sembgal]

http://www.stopbullying.gov/kids/what-you-can-do/index.html#bullied


How to help our young children to understand what is bullying. I heard it is more prevalent in girls' school. Parents have to learn to listen to the children speak out their feelings everyday to find out the child's emotional feelings in school. When I went for Pri 1 Orientation, the principal mentioned that parents should never confront another parents or students directly. I only begun to understand what the principal meant by not confronting other parents and children directly after finding out from other parents with children from other levels that in any particular girls' schools, there is at least 1 big bully in the class with her followers. Always alert the teachers to bullying if parents are aware of. Strangely, I heard those bullies are often sent to tuition frequently, parents neglect them emotionally, only care about their grades and expect them to do extremely well academically. These children go to school to say my parents don't love me, only care about my grades, only work and work, always send me to tuition all the time. When children do not get enough attention at home from the parents, the child will go to school to bully to get that attention they need. And to add, girls' schools are not as peaceful as you think. Bullying can begin in Pri 1, usually from Term 3 onwards based on my experienced parents friends with children in Pri school.

[bmch]

Sometimes it can be very upsetting for the parents when our children are being bullied especially so when the teachers are prejudiced, and the children have no one to turn to for help.

[Enbin]

bmch:

Sometimes it can be very upsetting for the parents when our children are being bullied especially so when the teachers are prejudiced, and the children have no one to turn to for help.

I totally agreed.. We have to note our children behaviour. Are they be happy when we pick them up from the sch or they are afraid of certain teachers.

[NigelTKM]

sembgal:

http://www.stopbullying.gov/kids/what-you-can-do/index.html#bullied


How to help our young children to understand what is bullying. I heard it is more prevalent in girls' school. Parents have to learn to listen to the children speak out their feelings everyday to find out the child's emotional feelings in school. When I went for Pri 1 Orientation, the principal mentioned that parents should never confront another parents or students directly. I only begun to understand what the principal meant by not confronting other parents and children directly after finding out from other parents with children from other levels that in any particular girls' schools, there is at least 1 big bully in the class with her followers. Always alert the teachers to bullying if parents are aware of. Strangely, I heard those bullies are often sent to tuition frequently, parents neglect them emotionally, only care about their grades and expect them to do extremely well academically. These children go to school to say my parents don't love me, only care about my grades, only work and work, always send me to tuition all the time. When children do not get enough attention at home from the parents, the child will go to school to bully to get that attention they need. And to add, girls' schools are not as peaceful as you think. Bullying can begin in Pri 1, usually from Term 3 onwards based on my experienced parents friends with children in Pri school.

I agree, the underlying issue with the bully, is usually because they do not have power outside of school or have someone to really care for them. Being constantly under pressure. Then they will bring it to school and will try to overwhelm whoever they can.

I heard that usually they will gang up on one of them, however if the one being bullied can stand strong and not show that he/she is not affected they will eventually leave the child alone. Though that is just what a couple of my friends told me. As the bullies usually look for someone to overwhelm as mentioned above.

[LarryG67]

Bullying (on a victim) can have very long-term effects on the child psychology. In a way, a parent approaching another student can be considered bullying as well because the parent or teacher has a much higher authority than the kid. Incidents like this can really affect the victim’s self-esteem in the long-term. And we won’t be able to see the psychological effects on the child till many many years later

[savvytechgirl]

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Hi parents!

This is posted in the parents support group portal and thought it might be something that you can join if you are keen to find out how to protect your children from threats in cybercrimes and understand the impact of cyber-bullying/and how the new anti harassment law can protect you and your children. There is also an interesting dialogue panel that covers different expertise including of how to use technology to safeguard your children.

This is in collaboration with the Coalition against bullying for children and youth with Microsoft Singapore and is happening on 31st May from 10am - 12pm.

You can find the agenda and register (Registration is free) via the link below and also have attached the e-invite. There is also a simple game at the end of the session, might stand a chance to win the Xbox 360 bundle worth $399.

http://bit.ly/1gmb8CY

[Laura02]

Here’s an interesting article I found on bullying:-



What Your Teens Want You to Know About Bullying


Posted: 08/05/2014 5:24 pm EDT Updated: 1 hour ago
Hello Parents,

Your teens are getting ready to head back to high school and some of them are just beginning as freshmen. All summer long, I have been working with focus groups of teens and they have been talking to me and to each other and have been quite candid about their thoughts about bullying. They have shared their most intimate experiences, their concerns and their very creative ideas about how to deal with bullies.

This is what your kids want you to know about the bullying experience, but might never tell you. You see, they don’t want to upset you, disappoint you, worry you and are even concerned that you might not be interested. They are wrong. I know that but they don’t. Here is what they are not telling you:

1. The majority of your teens report that while they may not have been bullied, they have witnessed a peer being bullied.

2. They have not always been sure how to intervene at these times, but they have ideas.

3. They frequently and in large numbers report that an adult should be told about bullying incidents, but feel that even when they tell adults the adults are NOT likely to intervene effectively. They report that adults look the other way, don’t take bullying seriously enough and even give meaningless consequences to the bully.

4. By and large, the well-spoken and passionate teens feel that the adults are letting them down in this arena. YIKES. I know that no adult in a position to help teens wants to be seen as ineffective and dismissive.

5. Your kids have some very creative ideas about how to handle bullies including:

a. attempting to befriend them in the hope that a bully can become an ally.

b. making the bully laugh so that the bully learns a different style of interacting.

c. letting the bully know the impact that they are having on others. Many teens feel that bullies are clueless about their painful impact on others.

d. asking them about their lives. Many teens feel that bullies are probably hurting. It’s amazing isn’t it that teens feel empathy for bullies?

AND

e. they have even expressed that you raise your kids to have empathy so that they are less likely to act in a socially aggressive and emotionally painful manner. These large groups of male and female teens have been telling me all summer long that they are concerned that some parents may inadvertently be raising bullies.

Your teens would also like you to know that:

1. They see many parents acting as bullying role models for their kids. They worry that you may be encouraging exclusivity, cliquey behavior and even physical aggression. Teens are and always have been watching the adults around them.

2. They think that adults should curtail gossiping because kids mimic them and gossiping is one of the worst and most hurtful forms of social bullying. They are on to something here; aren’t they?

3. They worry that you are bullying your kids in the privacy of your homes and that your kids are going to school upset, frustrated and looking for a place in which to practice what they have learned at home.

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4. They are concerned that you might not even have given consideration to the idea that your own kid may be the bully. They think that you should consider this idea and work with your teen to be a kinder and more empathic individual.

I do not want to leave you with the impression that teens all blame the adults in their lives for the bullying behaviors of teens. Many teens reported learning empathic and pro-social behaviors from their parents. Amen to the child-rearing style in those homes. We need more of that. We need parents to realize that you are your teens’ most important role models. I have been saying this for years. Take this important opportunity in your life to teach your kids that their words and behaviors can either soothe and comfort or destroy the hearts and souls of their peers. Do not ever rule out the thought that your own child may be the bully at times and if you suspect this then work with your child to change this behavior.

We all remember own experiences being both the bullies and the bullied. None of us flourished from these experiences. In fact, many of us became emotionally and physically sick during these times. Your kids and I are calling upon you to be aware of your role and power in helping to both raise good kids and to become even more aware of the terrible interactional cycle of bullying that continues to persist in high schools all over.

Good luck.

Own your power.

Help your kids.

XO

Dr. BG

[JustMummy]

We parents all try to be good samaritans but what happens if even the school cant help the victimised kid and the bullying continues. Shouldn’t the parents of the victims protect their kid by approaching the bullies themselves and try to stop the bullying?

[Clearsky]

Sometimes the school teachers know that there is bullying around in the class but they prefer to let the student to settle and defend for them self. Cyber bullying is so common, they will chose one victim and the whole group will attack this victim…sort of want recognition from the same group of friends. I think as parents we should always do our part to educate our child not to engage cyber bullying and always stick to their principle not to follow their friends just for recognition.