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[phtthp]

If you say your son keep losing wallet, water bottle, pencil case, etc -

Perhaps prepare a check list reminder for him,
That is, before end of day lessons end in school, ask him to tick against those list of common items that he often lose, check to make sure that they are still intact, in his school bag.

Paste this check list somewhere convenient for him, perhaps the moment he open up his school bag, he can see the check list.

After sometime, he will learn not to be forgetful anymore, bec the checklist habit has helped him, to be disciplined.

[mashy]

phtthp:

If you say your son keep losing wallet, water bottle, pencil case, etc -

Perhaps prepare a check list reminder for him,
That is, before end of day lessons end in school, ask him to tick against those list of common items that he often lose, check to make sure that they are still intact, in his school bag.

Paste this check list somewhere convenient for him, perhaps the moment he open up his school bag, he can see the check list.

After sometime, he will learn not to be forgetful anymore, bec the checklist habit has helped him, to be disciplined.

Thanks for your suggestion. I will try that out. Hopefully he doesn't lose it. Sometimes he did realise that he lost his water bottle but he has no idea where he left it.

[sharonkhoo]

mashy:

phtthp:

If you say your son keep losing wallet, water bottle, pencil case, etc -

Perhaps prepare a check list reminder for him,
That is, before end of day lessons end in school, ask him to tick against those list of common items that he often lose, check to make sure that they are still intact, in his school bag.

Paste this check list somewhere convenient for him, perhaps the moment he open up his school bag, he can see the check list.

After sometime, he will learn not to be forgetful anymore, bec the checklist habit has helped him, to be disciplined.

Thanks for your suggestion. I will try that out. Hopefully he doesn't lose it. Sometimes he did realise that he lost his water bottle but he has no idea where he left it.

I used to put the list in my daughter's pencil case, written on a card (not so easy to lose!). I told her to check through it while she packs at the end of the day and put her pencil case away last. Also, does your son know where the lost and found items are placed in his school? You can ask him to check there a day after he loses something. You probably already do this, but it's good if everything is clearly labelled with his name.

[mashy]

slmkhoo:

mashy:

[quote=\"phtthp\"]If you say your son keep losing wallet, water bottle, pencil case, etc -

Perhaps prepare a check list reminder for him,
That is, before end of day lessons end in school, ask him to tick against those list of common items that he often lose, check to make sure that they are still intact, in his school bag.

Paste this check list somewhere convenient for him, perhaps the moment he open up his school bag, he can see the check list.

After sometime, he will learn not to be forgetful anymore, bec the checklist habit has helped him, to be disciplined.

Thanks for your suggestion. I will try that out. Hopefully he doesn't lose it. Sometimes he did realise that he lost his water bottle but he has no idea where he left it.

I used to put the list in my daughter's pencil case, written on a card (not so easy to lose!). I told her to check through it while she packs at the end of the day and put her pencil case away last. Also, does your son know where the lost and found items are placed in his school? You can ask him to check there a day after he loses something. You probably already do this, but it's good if everything is clearly labelled with his name.[/quote]It doesn't matter even when his name are on them. He still lost them on a regular basis. Also lost his pencil case before! I told him to check the lost and found but usually it's only his water bottle that will be found there. The rest are lost permanently.

[sharonkhoo]

mashy:

It doesn't matter even when his name are on them. He still lost them on a regular basis. Also lost his pencil case before! I told him to check the lost and found but usually it's only his water bottle that will be found there. The rest are lost permanently.

Oh well, he will learn eventually. Just give him cheap stuff until he learns. I used to buy the cheapest stuff and give my daughter the minimum of stationery etc - less to replace!

[Liyuan]

If you say your son keep losing wallet, water bottle, pencil case, etc -

Perhaps prepare a check list reminder for him,
That is, before end of day lessons end in school, ask him to tick against those list of common items that he often lose, check to make sure that they are still intact, in his school bag.

Paste this check list somewhere convenient for him, perhaps the moment he open up his school bag, he can see the check list.

After sometime, he will learn not to be forgetful anymore, bec the checklist habit has helped him, to be disciplined.

This is a great idea as it is a visual prompt. Visual prompts are always easier to fade as compared to verbal prompts. That is to say that the chances of the child remembering to check on his items by himself after you remove the list is higher as compared to him checking his items automatically if you were to remind him to check verbally. You can also try adding in a token system such that if he doesn't lose the items, he will/may get a token and ultimately after a certain number of tokens, he get to get the reward he chose for. This provides him with a some motivation to not lose his things.

Hope this helps

Liyuan
http://www.autismstep.com

[snowyqueen]

optrex80:

My boy is 5 and was previously diagnosed with very mild ASD.

Wish to know if any parents here can share with me their experiences on how ASD child enrolling into mainstream primary school adapt well in there.

Hi there,
My girl was diagnosed with ASD at K2. For her case, child psychologist certified she was fit for MS. In P1, she hardly knew language or maths because she was a loner doing her things in school. Hard for me to coach her as well since she couldn't concentrate. In first half of P1, she was complained by Teachers she sometimes walked around, did her own things and didn't talk much. Her results was average. So during parents meet teachers session, her form teacher asked me if I should consider transferring her which I refused. I couldn't accept n didnt think her condition was so bad. Then I thought I should pull up her results n correct her behaviour slowly. I was determined n through harsh approach, surprisingly she reacted n ended doing well for SA2. Then, I began to see hope. I also realized with good results n lots of encouragement, it helped to bring up her self-esteem.
In her 6 years of Primary school MS education, we had lots of up and down. Her condition became \"normalized\" as years went by but needed a lot of counselling to correct her wrong doings. By the time she graduated last year, she only managed to make one good friend who was very understanding towards her. She also attended regular dialogue sessions with counsellor till P6. Academic wise, she was in top class since P4. But although she has very good memory and processing skills as discovered during an IQ test in K2 but she was poor in Oral communication, a ASD trait. She was always in the near bottom of class for oral exam.
She is in Sec 1 now and she is doing IP in a girls school. We are very lucky because she adapted very well and she also made a lot of new friends there. Now, one almost could not differentiate her from a normal teenage. She is even being nominated for this year ECHA although we do not know if she can get it. Whatever the outcome, we are already very proud of her. We never expect a child like her could progress to this stage.
I wish to encourage all the parents with ASD kids, it is possible to conquer the difficulties in MS school and it is also highly possible they will become \"normalized\" though retaining some ASD traits which they need to carry with them for life. We need to give a lot of encouragement and support and be sensitive towards their feelings when dealing with this type of children. At times when I felt like giving up, I always tell myself, we can do it and we shall conquer the problems and issues one by one, patiently and with great determination. Lastly, because of the fact that they have this ASD traits in them, they also possess some talent which you need to identify and develop them on the bright side.

[phtthp]

Dear snowy queen,


Although you have gone through a lot in raising your dd these past years, it is indeed heartening to hear that she is doing very well, in an IP all Girls Secondary school.

It is an admirable feat, that she had come thus far.

Through your testimony, you have given hope and encouragement, uplifted lots of parents here.

Thank you so much, for touching sharing.
We pray your dd will grow up healthy, happy, blessed.

May she always continue to shine a beacon of hope, a source of blessings to her family, friends and others around her.

[Couragemom]

Hi Snowy Queen,


Thank you so much for sharing. It brings tears to my eyes thinking in my heart that with the parents’ love and determination, we can bring out the best in our special needs child. I must be strong like you and don’t lost hope in the darkest moments. Thank you and all the best in this journey.

[Couragemom]

Hi Double E, Mashy and Liyuan,


Thank you for sharing tips on how to get my son to spit out the water after rinsing his mouth, I will try them out.