Me Time!
-
Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2072796\" time=\"1656679898\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2072796 time=1656679898 user_id=195250]
No lah it's probably nothing on your side. Most likely your friend is busy with something, or something came up in her life, and she has to attend to that first. She will most likely get back to you when she's more free.
I really don't know and I am still thinking why one of my friends has given me up recently, maybe it is my fault, (我做得不够好), I am trying to improve my way of talking and better control my emotions in future. Hope the friend will forgive me.
Glad that you have enjoyed a lunch at town today. We are all here to support each others.[/quote]
Going to see the renovations today. They just finished the demolition. A lot of debris, so not bringing the kids. Will take the little one for his final immunization later. Then a hike to work out the weekday stress for the hubby. -
Terrydad\" post_id=\"2072660\" time=\"1656636011\" user_id=\"193857:
:thankyou:
We are all educated to different extent in different fields. Given my specialisation, I would like to share an old African parable.
A young farmer moves next door to an old one. The old farmer, being richer and with more land, decides to go over to the young farmer's land and burn it so it cannot produce .
The young farmer goes over to the old farmer and kills the old farmer's family. Who has won?
This parable is a reminder to practise safety hygiene even online. In real life we have social distancing. Online we have to make sure we do not open ourselves up to potential huge liabilities by using inflammatory language that can be construed as meaning to invoke harm to another's children. In certain Chinese business families, just the mere mention of bankruptcy can evoke stress.
We are all here for our children. It would be a pity of huge liabilities resulting from careless negative language causes us to be unable to care for our children in social or financial ways -
MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2072816\" time=\"1656682932\" user_id=\"43981:
I suppose you really like the cooking and preparing food, even though it makes you tired. So maybe focus on the good feelings, not the negative? If you don't like the food prep, then maybe just do less, or don't do. Schools here have canteens!
1.63, 41kg :love:
My day starts fm 5.30am. Morning I cook breakfast, noodle/fried rice with a fried egg at min..sometimes add some leafy veg and ham.
Today's packed recess food is sandwiches of cheese, olives, cucumber, ham and tomato sauce. Simplest will be bread with jam or biscuits.
If hot food then use thermal flask but both not that keen anymore coz 1 wouldn't like to bring food to eat in canteen and another some days need do hw or have kinda recess meeting so drier food is preferred.
1 dd been asking for simpler food for breakfast and another one like hot food. Mafan hor.
Today coz got tuition and dd forgotten to bring something for CCA so I just shunbian bring lunch for her..else both will eat at canteen when need to stayback.
When we were living overseas, I had to prepare lunches for my kids every day because there was no canteen, but I don't really like cooking. So I simplified it a lot - very simple stuff, repeated every week, and often just cooked extra for dinner to serve as lunches the next day. If my girls said it was boring, I told them that it was the best I could do, and they were free to do more for themselves if they wanted to. That shut them up! For recess, they brought prepackaged snacks like muesli bars, crackers, etc. No prep needed on my part. But when we were in Singapore, I told them that canteens were there for a reason - so that mothers didn't need to pack lunches!
My rule is that if I don't like doing something, I will just do the minimum, or pass it on to the kids themselves if they are old enough. I will find a way so that I won't be constantly tired and stressed by it. If I really can't find a way out (e.g when the kids were really too young), then I try to look on the bright side that I'm doing something good for the family. It's better for myself and the atmosphere in the family overall, and the kids become more independent and thoughtful about others' needs. I think your kids are old enough now that you can cut back a bit (unless you really like doing all that you do). -
MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2072799\" time=\"1656680840\" user_id=\"43981:
In the end, we are just going for 2 weeks. I'm actually going at a busy period for my PT job - normally that is when we do quarterly reports, due before end-Nov. I will try to get as much done in advance as I can (will try to persuade the people submitting info to send me the stuff as early as possible!), and finish off when I get back. The other option was to \"work from anywhere\" but in the end we decided to just come home.
That is so nice, you are going to stay there for a longer period right..
One of my daughters is coming with us, but will return a few days earlier as she doesn't want to use up so much leave - the joys of regular, full-time working life! The other daughter is already using up a lot of leave this month to attend a wedding overseas, so she can't come with us. -
slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2072862\" time=\"1656724299\" user_id=\"28674:
That is true..we must focus more on the good feelings! I have been cooped for too long..that certainly affecting my thinking process in a way. I could feel both and and your dh are doing something you all like..and that's my my hope too, after the kids are more grown up.
I suppose you really like the cooking and preparing food, even though it makes you tired. So maybe focus on the good feelings, not the negative? If you don't like the food prep, then maybe just do less, or don't do. Schools here have canteens!
When we were living overseas, I had to prepare lunches for my kids every day because there was no canteen, but I don't really like cooking. So I simplified it a lot - very simple stuff, repeated every week, and often just cooked extra for dinner to serve as lunches the next day. If my girls said it was boring, I told them that it was the best I could do, and they were free to do more for themselves if they wanted to. That shut them up! For recess, they brought prepackaged snacks like muesli bars, crackers, etc. No prep needed on my part. But when we were in Singapore, I told them that canteens were there for a reason - so that mothers' didn't need to pack lunches!
My rule is that if I don't like doing something, I will just do the minimum, or pass it on to the kids themselves if they are old enough. I will find a way so that I won't be constantly tired and stressed by it. If I really can't find a way out (e.g when the kids were really too young), then I try to look on the bright side that I'm doing something good for the family. It's better for myself and the atmosphere in the family overall, and the kids become more independent and thoughtful about others' needs. I think your kids are old enough now that you can cut back a bit (unless you really like doing all that you do).
In boarding school all were prepared..including food. That was when dd at slimmest coz she will poured awayt the leftover food when no one was looking.
Been doing the same things esp cooking for so many years already..kinda achieved some \"efficiencies' already I think lol.. so don't feel it a great hassle now. But of course in time to come we all may need to expect simpler home cooked food or more dabao.
You are right..the good feelings..maybe like what dh suggested I will explore some some places for exercises nearby. I feel esp important to get myself out from the house else I will continue doing what I been doing esp cooking. -
It seem not easy for me to ‘get rid’ of my ‘what to cook’ mind…When I went to ntuc yesterday, I got so excited…saw trotter will think of eh so long never cook vinegar trotter le…so bought the vinegar…I m going to cook that today.
-
Toomuchlaundry\" post_id=\"2072858\" time=\"1656723590\" user_id=\"197996:
Once you have moved to the West, can come to my house to play mahjong
Going to see the renovations today. They just finished the demolition. A lot of debris, so not bringing the kids. Will take the little one for his final immunization later. Then a hike to work out the weekday stress for the hubby.
The little one still cannot take the vaccination for Covid 19, right? Try not to bring him to crowded area. Hiking is good for releasing stress but I am too lazy to do so. Committed to a werewolves games at Bukit Merah this afternoon and will going down soon.
DH will be working night shift this evening, no need to take care of him. :imcool: -
Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2072846\" time=\"1656700692\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2072846 time=1656700692 user_id=195250]
Thanks. We can't wait so we arady went last night.....
Enjoy your celebration dinner this weekend.[/quote] -
slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2072862\" time=\"1656724299\" user_id=\"28674:
Pardon me, but what if that good feeling doesn’t last? Wouldn’t it be better to learn to be at peace during both good or bad feelings? Good /bad feelings are both part of us as human. ?
So maybe focus on the good feelings, not the negative? -
bbbay\" post_id=\"2072874\" time=\"1656727487\" user_id=\"175278:
I don't mean that we should all be Pollyannas! I just wanted to point out that focusing on the good that we are doing will give rise to good feelings, which will take the \"sting\" out of the bad. I didn't mean to imply that there would be no bad feelings. It's a matter of changing focus, and of course, changing the circumstances if that is possible.
Pardon me, but what if that good feeling doesn’t last? Wouldn’t it be better to learn to be at peace during both good or bad feelings? Good /bad feelings are both part of us as human. ?
And feelings don't last, both good and bad. It's just that it's harder to focus on good feelings because, as humans, we tend to taking good feelings for granted and dwell on the bad. Religious beliefs have a part to play - if you believe in a loving deity who allows bad to happen for good reasons, you are more able to accept the bad and focus on the good, even though you may not like the bad.
Hello! It looks like you're interested in this conversation, but you don't have an account yet.
Getting fed up of having to scroll through the same posts each visit? When you register for an account, you'll always come back to exactly where you were before, and choose to be notified of new replies (either via email, or push notification). You'll also be able to save bookmarks and upvote posts to show your appreciation to other community members.
With your input, this post could be even better 💗
Register Login
Online Users
Recent Topics
Statistics