Pri 1 child attacked by 5 classmates
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Here is the news :
遭5同学围殴 小一生逃出学校
小一就面对校园暴力，7岁男生被5名同学追着围殴，吓得他跑出学校避难。母亲闻讯赶到学校，沿街哭找儿两小时。
这名被欺负的小男生汤姆（假名），就读于本地中部一所小学。他日前向《新报》记者叙述上周一下午遭同学欺负的经历时，惊魂未定。
读下午班的汤姆说，当天周会前，5名同学在集合广场用花名喊他。汤姆叫他们住口，但同学对他又捏又踢。“我想跑到二楼，我甩开打我的同学，但他们把我推倒在地上，结果我的下巴受伤。”
他起身跑到图书馆前，又被同学揍了一拳。他说，一些同学看到他被打，跑去找训育主任，但无法马上找到人。他说，他找不到级任老师，虽然尝试拨电给母亲，但学校电话似乎坏了。彷徨无助之下，他哭着跑出学校。
他的母亲丽娜（假名，36岁）说，儿子跑出学校后搭巴士回家，可是家里没人，所以他到附近警岗去。然而，当时警岗也没人，他只好走回组屋，在附近徘徊。
当兼职行销执行员的丽娜说，儿子跑出学校约一小时后，她接到校方通知说儿子缺课。她吓得马上请假到学校和学校周围找儿子。“我真的很担心，找儿子的那两个小时，我一直在哭。”
母亲透露，儿子被同学嘲笑是“白痴”。完整报道，请翻阅22.11.2010《联合晚报》。
http://news.omy.sg/News/Local%2BNews/Story/OMYStory201011221516-201907.html -
3Boys:
hardline views are of course disturbing! :lol:I actually find the hardline views here fairly disturbing.
As more children suffer from lack of parental guidance,
and with more parents who are unable to provide proper guidance,
we can expect more disturbing news,
which will be worse than hardline views!
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dunnoleh:
violence begets violence.
hardline views are of course disturbing! :lol:3Boys:
I actually find the hardline views here fairly disturbing.
As more children suffer from lack of parental guidance,
and with more parents who are unable to provide proper guidance,
we can expect more disturbing news,
which will be worse than hardline views!
agree that parental guidance is key, but a good whipping in school is not a substitute for parental guidance.
what disturbs me is the focus on retribution as opposed to problem-solving.
are there anti-social children in school? yes
are there poor parental role models that lead to anti-social children? yes
how does a public caning solve that? :?
yeah, some of the children who may be misguided but not truly antisocial, they may be put back on the straight and narrow by a public caning/shaming. Good for them and society.
the hardcore baddies? Good luck!
the other thing that perturbs me is the finger pointing. Apart from 2 posters on this forum, no one else even countenanced what measures they may take if their own children were the bullies.
As in other threads, its always someone else's fault, WE/I/US are the best parents on earth, beyond all reproach.....
How about helping a fellow parent/child who is struggling with their own issues and manifesting in misbehaviour in schools? Not our problem? It soon will be...... -
3Boys:
strong deterrent actions will surely help. :lol:... How about helping a fellow parent/child who is struggling with their own issues and manifesting in misbehaviour in schools? Not our problem? It soon will be......
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dimsum:
Huh? Like tat also can? Anything offensive or just joking?My boy is in N2 and was taunted by a K2 boy. He called him names right in front of his parents but guess what, they did not stop or chide him at all!After that, he continued to do that everytime he bumped in my DS. One teacher heard it but pretended as if nothing happened. I asked my DS to feedback to another teacher. Again, no action taken. They probably felt it's a \"trivial\" matter? This is one boy who will become a bully soon.
I asked my DS to ignore him and educated him that name calling is wrong. He understands and bochap him.
If offensive, I think you should step in correct the K2 boy in front of his parents then.
I teach my K1 gal to shout \"STOP IT\" if her friends does anything unpleasant to her... dunno whether it works or not. -
This is sad.
Makes me wonder how come kids that young have so much aggression? Why did they not feel empathy for the bullied boy? Is it they have been exposed to that form of voilence in life? Isnt it a manefestation of some form of need within them?
As long as that is not addressed , and checked , the problem at best will be postponed. If not in school, they will act out in playground, in a bus, …
As for caning - that will only supress the act. Festering within them till they grow up to a stage when they are bigger and stronger and smarter not to get caught.
Caning is a good deterent - it sends a message all you act like this and you will be punished. It does not remove the cause.
What is very disturbing to me is most of us parents here seem to think along the us(the good kids) vs them (bulies)
Get that bully away from my kid and i could care less what happens to him. Show him who is the boss.
i have a kid who will be going to P1 next year, he is a quite and shy kind of kid - I panic and worry that my kid might be a victim too and i need to have him prepared. But i stop myself and think - no baby is born with a desire to hurt his fellow beings - so what happened here ? Unless there is counselling for the bullies, meeting with the parents to see if they/ home circumstances are partly the cause , and regular followups , I think as a society we fail.
Ltes just remind ourselves it takes a village to raise a child. -
Sun_2010:
There are many dysfunctional families out there... and their next generation goes down the same path. Society can't help them if they don't help themselves.But i stop myself and think - no baby is born with a desire to hurt his fellow beings - so what happened here ? Unless there is counselling for the bullies, meeting with the parents to see if they/ home circumstances are partly the cause , and regular followups , I think as a society we fail.
Ltes just remind ourselves it takes a village to raise a child.
Vicious cycle.... -
Daddy
I think nowadays no parent will take care their child by themselves due to busy on their work, so all of kids depend by maid or grandparent, thus for maid and grandparent, they not really teach him what is right and what is wrong, very sad but the kids is poor things lo. some parent also too pampered their kids, i did meet a incident when i bring my son to playground, one china kid touch my son toy, then my son not allow, then the kid throw my boy toy on floor, i shocked as the grandmother not scold her grandson but still scold my son \" xiao qi\", then i quickly teach my son, never mind, let go back. some time, we think that they still very young, but this thinking is wrong.
Huh? Like tat also can? Anything offensive or just joking?dimsum:
My boy is in N2 and was taunted by a K2 boy. He called him names right in front of his parents but guess what, they did not stop or chide him at all!After that, he continued to do that everytime he bumped in my DS. One teacher heard it but pretended as if nothing happened. I asked my DS to feedback to another teacher. Again, no action taken. They probably felt it's a \"trivial\" matter? This is one boy who will become a bully soon.
I asked my DS to ignore him and educated him that name calling is wrong. He understands and bochap him.
If offensive, I think you should step in correct the K2 boy in front of his parents then.
I teach my K1 gal to shout \"STOP IT\" if her friends does anything unpleasant to her... dunno whether it works or not. -
ksi:
Sounds right jedamum....I am inclined to think that co-ed schools may be good for primary levels to keep the balance in place.[/quote]Not really, i heard of cases in mixed primary schools that the boys actually bully the girls and do all sort of stuff to the girls like lift up their skirts, touch them inappropriately etc especially if they are pretty. FYI, these \"bullies\" are from middle/upper income families and the school is a reputable school in central Singapore. :roll:
My guess is, in a co-ed school, boys that cannot seem to form friendship with other boys can turn to girls for friendship while girls who find other groups of girls to be gossipy and or not their 'kind', can turn to boys for friendship. hence, the chances of being 'alone' is reduced and i think bullies usually don't bother those who move around in groups.jedamum:
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When there are mixed genders, do children learn how to tolerate better? Just a thought.... -
after reading the news also can't help but wonder :?
Where are the teachers? 5 kids beat up another one in school grounds right before assembly and no one stop them?
P1 kid can run out of school during school hours? :!:
Even when I was in P1 many many years ago the school gates are guarded by prefect before assembly and locked after that. There will always be teachers around during assembly
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