All About Full-Time Maids

[mama_g]

tigger88:

SMH FOREST:

Sigh... my nightmare continues... during interview, we repeated MANY MANY times (over the phone, when my hub met her in person at the agency) to the new fili maid that she has to help take care of my boy in the mornings when we are getting ready for work.. and when we are busy.. since last fri she came.. she NEVER even bother to interact with him... and the worst is, when we talk to her, she sometimes dont even bother to respond! It is a COMPLETELY different person whom we had met and talked with before hiring her! :slapshead:


After so many days, I finally BTH and questioned her abt her non answers to us... and also helping out with my boy when needed... then she faked to ask my boy to play with him this morning, but when my boy took his toys to her to play with her, she WALKED away and ignored him... ARGGHH.. had to reprimand her becos we already set the expectations prior to hiring and this is what she is doing to us!! I could tell that she is treating coming to SG like a playground.. becos she very eagerly asked me where is merlion.. and even was sooo happy when we went marina sq to jalan jalan last Sun...

And guess what... after reprimanding her this morning.. she cried to my hubs and asked to go back to agent... agent rang up and she insists she cannot take care of children.. dunno how to take care! Complete reverse of what she said when we interviewed her.. even agent says bth her... ARGGHHH :stupid: :mad: :rant: :frustrated:

I am really beginning to feel like i have no maids luck and is wondering if i shd go maidless instead... buy those robot vacuums, mops, dishwasher etc and automate half my house.. so i can do w/o these ridiculous maids!! SOBZZZZ

But then again.. my aim to hire is also with the intention that i hope to get preggie for #2 by end of this year.. my parents sure complain cannot handle a newborn (as it was with #1)... so, am really in a dilemma whether to continue to lookout for a maid... since now, i do have replacements waiting with 2 different agencies.... SIGH... :gloomy: :gloomy:

Probably your new maid is just finding an excuse to come here to work and hence agreed to look after your boy during the interview. If she doesnt like looking after kids, then no point keep her. But very sian to wait for replacement also as we do not know if the next one will be better or worse.

My maid also has the habit of not responding to me when I talked to her. After 4 years, she is still the same! Sometimes I fed-up and will just talk louder to get her respond. :mad: :rant:

Dun play play, these helpers are even more daring than us eh? I dont even dare to ignore my boss when he calls for me or talk to me! Something is wrong in their mind :siao:

[SMH FOREST]

Really sian to keep looking for a maid... giving us too much stress! And i really have no idea if the new one will be better or WORSE?? Making me paranoid to hire liaozz...


Yes.. quite obvious now tt she was just agreeing to everything so that she can come here to work... thinks she can get past just by agreeing but come to our house yet dunno what to do and refuse to do... haizz.. she really thinks she is here just for fun!

Yday before we sent her back... she already refused to do housewk... in the afternoon, stood at the kitchen door and watch tv which my parents were watching.... :frustrated:

[ZuEn]

SMH FOREST:

Really sian to keep looking for a maid... giving us too much stress! And i really have no idea if the new one will be better or WORSE?? Making me paranoid to hire liaozz...


Yes.. quite obvious now tt she was just agreeing to everything so that she can come here to work... thinks she can get past just by agreeing but come to our house yet dunno what to do and refuse to do... haizz.. she really thinks she is here just for fun!

Yday before we sent her back... she already refused to do housewk... in the afternoon, stood at the kitchen door and watch tv which my parents were watching.... :frustrated:

It really makes one wonder what is in their head.
My heart goes out to you.

[MintyMin]

SMH FOREST:

Really sian to keep looking for a maid... giving us too much stress! And i really have no idea if the new one will be better or WORSE?? Making me paranoid to hire liaozz...


Yes.. quite obvious now tt she was just agreeing to everything so that she can come here to work... thinks she can get past just by agreeing but come to our house yet dunno what to do and refuse to do... haizz.. she really thinks she is here just for fun!

Yday before we sent her back... she already refused to do housewk... in the afternoon, stood at the kitchen door and watch tv which my parents were watching.... :frustrated:

:hugs: to u SMH Forest.. sorry to hear all these bad tings happening..

Sigh.. tis maids really getting out of hand.. if really wan to change maid also scared.. sigh..

[flyfree]

kola:

Hi…. I am in a dilemma, I got a problem with my indo maid of 2 mths.

She is a transfer maid, we get her urgently to look after my elderly FIL before he discharged from hosiptal.
She worked in SIN with previous employer for 1 yr, before being sent back to agent. Currently she is not serving any loan with us.

I would consider her as a hardworking maid, she took good care of my FIL, sometime she handle my preschooler girl as well. Both hubby and I are working fulltime.

I started to realize I have this big problem when I caught her seeing a man at the back alley of our house yesterday night at around 10.30pm.
We went out in the evening, when came home, nobody open the door, even when my FIL called out to her, there is no response. We got into the house ourselves and to my dismay, I saw the back gate is open. When she realize we are back, she quickly get into the house and the man quickly walk away in the opposite direction.
When I ask her \"What are you doing there?\" She said \"Talking to a friend.\", I asked \"boy friend?\", she replied \"just friend\".
We just leave the case open for the night, we have not question her, as hubby and I have not decided / don't know what to do.
At 11.00pm, I found that she did not sleep and hide in the kitchen talking on the phone…probably to the man...\"sign\"

Last week, she suddently ask for a day off on this Sunday without telling why. We rejected her, as she is still serving the 2 yr contract without off day. Now I know why she is taking leave.
I also caught her talking on her handphone (I don't even know she own a handphone) one evening, hiding in my gal's room, she told me she called her sister in indo. Now I am suspecting she was talking to this man.

I am afraid she might get pregnant or invite trouble back home (since the man know where she stay - this make me very uncomfortable)
We will give her a strong warning tonite, and intended to give her one more chance. If we caught her again, sorry… we will have to sent her back to agent.

- Should I stop her from seeing and talking to this man altogether? How can it be done?
- Should I let her continue to talk on phone with this man, but forbit her seeing him?
- Any other suggestion?

Hope I can have some good advice out here… Thanks in advance and sorry for the long post.

better change a new maid.

[flyfree]

Does your maid have her own room or she shares room with your children?

[flyfree]

clk:

This maid work for me for 6th mths already, she is not clever type but i always think she is hardworking...Her cooking also not gd but to me I always felt that cooking need practise, so I close both eyes. She very forgetful, so I wanted her to write down in a notebook, but she even forget to write, I had to remind her to write it, but at the end she forget to read on the notebook, I still tolerate her as I really scare to change maid.


I always busy, so never notice any dirtiness, only very particular on my own toilet, and yet scolded her for 3 times on toilet too dirty. One day when my hubby using the master toilet, i hightight ma go use the common toilet, aiyo nearly fainted.. once step in can smell bad smell, then whole floor is wet, I sit on my toilet bowl n look around, there is mould all round the toilet tiles, then I was very unhappy, when i stand up and wanted to flush the toilet bowl, i saw there is dirt behind, so I shouted for her, then I asked her when she wash toilet, she said tis morning, I was very mad, I wanted to take up the cover plate that we normally sitting on the bowl, wow...it stick on the bowl n i pull hard top open then notice there is urine stain on it, so long time never wash so the plate stick onto the bowl...I was so damn fedup. The next thing i see was urine stain at the back. I get so work up and asked her, how she washed? Just washed will the plate stick to bowl?? She told me she never even open up the plate...can you stand that?? Then I asked her how about the shower room, the tiles all mould...she said she did washed but cannot come out, but when i try it can be remove.... Another thing was my daughter new cloth just wore once, she iron till burn, my new pant just buy also iron till 1 batch 1 batch...All these happened, I still never think of transfered her... Even cny I bring her along go genting holidays, what my kids play, she did followed, what we eat, she also get to eat. Before I go for this trip already told her must recognise all the new cloths plus all ppl underwear and pantis, but she still bring wrong one back cos after the genting trip we go back my hometown, so when my kids blame her, she still complain was my son fault, i so angry but also don't want to make things big. Then when I felt like cooking by inviting my best friend over for our new yr meal, when I take out a pot, and the pot full off white mould, I very fedup, cos still new yr ma, so don't want scream at ppl, so just said piang!! how horrible, can you please don't be so dirty or not, go washed.. then when I need to take the dark sauce, i open the cabinet i saw the bottle all with black sauce and when I carry up, the plastic cover also all sauce, so I take out the plastic and wash and the bottom also black sauce, even the wall of the cabinet which place the dark sauce also got, so I clean, but due to i had limited time as my guess coming, so i just told her make sure she clean the rest of the tray. While I was cooking I washed my dish as well, so I saw the tray that put my plate and let it drip dried, the below had 1 more tray to collect water that drip from all dishes... whole tray full of mould...I was very upsad, so I close my eyes and told her, now i no time for all these noncense, please clean this tomorrow as well, make sure do it I will checked. Then continue cooking.

While eating that meal, I still complain to my best friends....But still I never think of changing her. Then the next day, when i came back from work, I asked her had she done the thing I asked her to do, she stare at me, I said the cabinet and the tray, she said nope... Piang!! I so angry this round really can't control even I know was still cny... I asked her why, she said she forget. Then I asked her what the hell she doing for whole day, she just any how point my living room, so I stand up and walk over to living rm, but before i reached that place, I turn and asked her, this will be last chance I asked her, did she clean, yes then said yes, if no, please said no..I hate ppl lie. She still insisted yes, so I just go to any of my cabinet and use my hand sweep on the top, dust stick on my palm, so I asked her, is that what you mean clean? then point to another cabinet beside said not this one, is that one. this time I take out 1 item, did she clean this one, she knock her head, so i do the same and dust stick on my palm. So I this round really can't control and shout at her, did she clean, she then said no...I was very mad and few days don't talked to her, really considering to change her or not... But I also very scare, cos I change many maid, indo, filipino I also tried, but some steal, some very dirty, some not here to work....May be because here really noone at home, kids all old enough, 17,15,10. so too gd life...too freedom... last time when my kids at 8mths, I had 1 maid work for me 7 yrs, but now really can't find maid like that.... I really can't think of no maid, cos my kids all will came home for dinner, even me and my hubby. I tried no maid for 1.5 mths, whole family begged me to intake a maid...cos all need to study/work and yet need to housework, really very stress....LOL

Here I hope someone there can give me some advice...I really very worries and loss...If you ask me to make decision on my work, that's really simple, but not on these kind of domestic issue... Please help!!

Change a new maid, no point keeping this maid.

[auntieM]

:? You can join our discussions on maids in existing threads under Domestic Help instead of posting a new thread for every question you have in mind..

[matrix0405]

jtoh:

I suspect your maid was sent back to the agent for inappropriate behavior so she's unlikely to change her ways. She'll continue to see the man, call him, chat with him etc regardless of what you say. Worse, she might even invite him into your house when no one's home. Best to send her back.

Agree with yr 'analysis'. Esp if you are staying landed, with the maid's room at the backyard, , high chance of sneaking out and bf sneaking in. She has the 'downside' of an experienced maid. Her 'focuses' in life are body whitening and handphone and BF, unlikely to change her ways. For an experienced maid, u are already paying premium. No need for all these additional trouble.

[peapot]

Sigh! Headaches… Sometimes we worry the maid might be lonely and wants friends. Then we worry their friends might include a boyfriend. very hard I think. That’s why I really long for the day that I can do without maids.