Maid issue : MOM came & took maid away
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MOM did not issue notice / warning at all, even if there is any valid complaints ?
or may be the maid swallow all the warnings and notices issued by MOM ? -
verykiasu2010:
That's a good point.MOM did not issue notice / warning at all, even if there is any valid complaints ?
or may be the maid swallow all the warnings and notices issued by MOM ? -
my guess...must be a phinoy maid?
sound so familiar when you mentioned \"cannot say she is no good\" mine is super prideful! -
I feel that the problem lies in \"Lack of Communication\".
According to our friends who seldom cook at home, almost everyday they will (maid included) settle their lunch and dinner in restaurants. Basically the maid only has to assist the ma'am to take care of 2 kids and tidying up the house (mansionette). When the Maid's Birthday, they will bring her to a restaurant for celebration and even bought her gift (eg. $200 Guess Watch :yikes: ). What more can the maid ask for right ? Since she is leading a \"good life\" with her employer.
Well........ We are WRONG ! :whut:
When we visited our friend's place with our helper, our friend's maid complained a lot to our helper. Saying her employer (our friends) went out for sumptous meal without her, her ma'am is picky / fussy and stingy, always reprimand her......etc. We were puzzled. What went wrong ? Our conclusion is \"Lack of Communication\".
Our helper is all alone in an unfamiliar country. We are like her family member, she is relying on us. When she is depress, who can she turn to ? Her friends ? Most of the family I heard/saw does not allow their helper to chat with their \"friends\". Do you think the helper will pour their woes to us ? Definitely yes. But only until you had gained their trust. Some families with maid are always struggling in between RESTRICTION or FREEDOM. However, I always emphasize \"DISCIPLINE\" to my helper. Occasionally I will remind her of \"Self-Discipline\". Fortunately, we are still in a good relationship :xedfingers:
I believe once a while we have to sit down and chit chat with our helper to listen to their needs. It doesn't has to be long, at least 15mins out of your busy schedule is enough. Just to show them at least we care for them. :hugs: -
happy to be mum:
my guess...must be a phinoy maid?
sound so familiar when you mentioned \"cannot say she is no good\" mine is super prideful!
Indon maids are also full of pride -
hi gumiho
i also believe once in a while have to chit chat with my maid but after a while, i am afraid to do so..reason..she will be telling me her family always need money and that is when she will start to ask for advance salary.
initially when she just joined me, she told me her 2 maid friends got raped by their employer and now waiting for the case. i mean...to me, i can't believe it is true.
you are right when you said abt \"self discipline\" but when she does not appreciate the freedom you given to her and always tell alot of white lies, i do not think there is the point to continue
i have given my maid alot of freedom but seems like she does not know what is self discipline...i still have alot to learn! *haiz*..maid hunting is quite an experience man! -
Personally I feel that we are culturally quite different from the Indos and Pinoys so if the twain never meet especially living under the same roof, tough to have a resolution
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Agree. Myanmar maid lagi worse.
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For your infor mine maid is from Burmese. Agree with Burmese maid is extremely stubborn and pride. certainly needs lots of tolerance and patience. Scold her she will say want to quit. We had counsel her the next day back to normal. We numerous counseling with her for this one year. All I had to say her cleanness and responsibility is there that why we had tolerance and patience to her.
On the last Friday incident, mine maid actually wrote a letter to MOM. This letter is provided by MOM I think is some form which send direct to MOM to seek for help. I can recall we had dispute with her. but we resolved on that day after 5 to 6 hr talk. Till last Friday she happily say us when is my mom birthday. As she know we will get her to restaurant. Is kind of normal.
Three week later MOM call want to meet up with my maid .But did not mention any thing just a routine check with she happiness. (I also inform them mine maid sensitive and stubborn pls don’t trigger her anything)
On that day 3 office come. Lock in to room and interview her. after interview they don’t allow us to talk to her. they want to bring to maid back becos she want transfer. I spoken to them in the contact state we both party must give notice 21 days . But the office say “MOM override all the contract you had written.”
That the point in time I shock and I does not know any employment act got such ruling. Had to let them go.
Employment Contracts
To avoid disputes, the Ministry of Manpower (MOM) encourages employers and
their FDWs to enter into a written employment contract.
Employment agencies commonly draft mutually agreeable contracts for the
two parties involved.
In event of an employment problem or breach of contract by her employer,
the FDW can lodge a complaint or file a claim with MOM. MOM will contact
the employer and arrange for a meeting between the FDW and the employer to
resolve the dispute.
Disputes with your foreign domestic worker
Disputes might arise because of misunderstandings and differing
expectations.
When these happen, you should first try to resolve them with your FDW.
Even if there is suspicion that she might have committed a misdeed or
crime, you should not take matters into your own hands by meting out
physical or other forms of punishment.
If you need assistance, please contact your employment agency or MOM which
offers help to resolve such employment disputes. The conciliation service
is provided free-of-charge. Please contact MOM at 6438 5122. -
pat3:
the laws are tipped in the favour of these maids. i seriously wonder if the top management staff working in mom has any such problems with bad maids and how the issues were dealt with.
I spoken to them in the contact state we both party must give notice 21 days . But the office say “MOM override all the contract you had written.”
That the point in time I shock and I does not know any employment act got such ruling. Had to let them go.
MOM at 6438 5122.
i am sure mom is awared of such scheming maids and yet have not done anything to help employers. maids are only jailed if they are charged with attempted murder or murder. others, well, sweep under the carpet.
their countries are trying to raise the minimum wage (with support from groups in singapore) and yet supply such quality to us.
i do strongly urge my friends to go maidless if they could do so. maids now are just different from those we have had years ago.
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