Is GEP really necessary?
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The journeys throughout your motherhood experience prompted you to write. :hugs:
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Here's wat mine said abt that toughest job in the world..
http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?p=795984#p795984 -
Mychildren:
Sure will Do!ruohoo97,
Ok. I understand what you said. Will continue to pray for him and pray together with him.
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ksi:
Personally, I feel that my mother was my best school for motherhood. This informal school is the best, consultation is free too...
Now maybe ksp.com is an alternative...kekeke
You are right! That is why I come here so often....that my kids peeping and saying \"you? kiasuing again? But I have really learnt a lOT! Thanks! -
beanbear:
Motherhood, stay-at-home or go to work, deserves more recognition than is available. Mothers live with a lot of guilt about not doing enough even when we are already doing loads. Dunno whether someone implanted some gene inside us to keep striving to do more and more for our children. Anyway, I notice more mothers suffering from guilt than fathers, at least among my group of friends.
That is true. My DH is really relax when come to children's education. He often says we are not live our life through our children.
What's driving us to try so hard? I guess it's instinctive for us to want our kids to have as good or better a life than we have. No manual was given to us although it's probably the toughest or one of the toughest jobs in the world. So much to learn and most of the learning comes from making mistakes.
With 4 kids, I get to refine and adjust my parenting along the way based on the mistakes I made with older ones. Just the other day, my DS1 said to me \"So we were experiments to you, right?\" when I was sharing how I'm doing things differently for DS3. I responded, \"I didn't get any manual when I became a parent so I could only experiment!\" Parents are really scientists. We observe, we look for what are the critical variables, what results we are getting if we adjust one of the variables and then observe again....
As for rewards, ahhh, that's goes to the heart of our self-worth. It's always nice to hear words of affirmation from our kids. Without any external form of gratification, and rewards then what will be our source of gratification for this difficult work called parenthood?
Rewards? I dare not to dream. Just hope that one day my kids will realize that they will be the same to their own children.ε―ζ倩δΈηΆζ―εΏ
Parenting geniuses, gifted kids or mainstream kids or kids with learning difficulties, - can there be a measurement for what is easier? In the same vein, can we really measure what is easier, teaching geniuses, gifted, mainstream or kids with learning difficulties? In the end what do all kids want from their parents? What do all kids want from those who teach them. My understanding of humanity so far is we all want ACCEPTANCE and unconditional LOVE. Kids, regardless of their intelligence or abilities, want acceptance from the significant adults in their lives, unconditional acceptance. Not the kind of acceptance that is dependent on what grades I get, or what school I go to.
Well said, thanks for reminding!
Actually I find children accept parents unconditionally, more easily than we do our kids. At least that's my experience. They forgive me more readily when I say sorry and forgive me even when I don't say sorry. They get past my mistakes more readily. I've started to see that these things that they do to me is certainly rewarding and they've given me an education of what it means to be better human being.
Sorry if I've gone off topic. Something just prompted to write. Thanks for reading. -
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Parenting geniuses, gifted kids or mainstream kids or kids with learning difficulties, - can there be a measurement for what is easier? In the same vein, can we really measure what is easier, teaching geniuses, gifted, mainstream or kids with learning difficulties? In the end what do all kids want from their parents? What do all kids want from those who teach them. My understanding of humanity so far is we all want ACCEPTANCE and unconditional LOVE. Kids, regardless of their intelligence or abilities, want acceptance from the significant adults in their lives, unconditional acceptance. Not the kind of acceptance that is dependent on what grades I get, or what school I go to. Unquote
Well said.
Have to add that parents from poorer social backgrounds having kids with learning difficulties have the greatest challenge. Worse still, kids with learning difficulties having zero support from parents due to circumstances beyond their control face the kind of trauma that many of us may not even think of. There are kids who absent themsleves from sch so as to look after their even younger sibs bec parents are not home or parents who are either struggling to meet ends meet or due to dysfunctional families.
Generally kids of KSP parents (who come to KSP threads) are already a privileged lot regardless of their problems or kiasuness of their parents.
How many parents of the 50 000 kids every year have the resources/finances to send their kids to the top enrichment classess, all the right, left brain training, all the motivational courses, all the expensive GEP training and hobbies etc, let alone having the time to do volunteering work or finances to be renting properties near desired schs. If we take a step backwards and view things in a wider context, then we will realise that some of our parenting worries may just be unnecessary perceived obstacles that we have created for ourselves. -
Zeng:
This is so true.
Generally kids of KSP parents (who come to KSP threads) are already a privileged lot regardless of their problems or kiasuness of their parents.
How many parents of the 50 000 kids every year have the resources/finances to send their kids to the top enrichment classess, all the right, left brain training, all the motivational courses, all the expensive GEP training and hobbies etc, let alone having the time to do volunteering work or finances to be renting properties near desired schs. If we take a step backwards and view things in a wider context, then we will realise that some of our parenting worries may just be unnecessary perceived obstacles that we have created for ourselves.
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ruohoo97:
Me too. There are much to learn at ksp since we all come from diff background and each with diff pov.ksi:
Personally, I feel that my mother was my best school for motherhood. This informal school is the best, consultation is free too...
Now maybe ksp.com is an alternative...kekeke
You are right! That is why I come here so often....that my kids peeping and saying \"you? kiasuing again? But I have really learnt a lOT! Thanks! -
ksi:
Yes, I agree too. But its mother nature.
This is so true.Zeng:
Generally kids of KSP parents (who come to KSP threads) are already a privileged lot regardless of their problems or kiasuness of their parents.
How many parents of the 50 000 kids every year have the resources/finances to send their kids to the top enrichment classess, all the right, left brain training, all the motivational courses, all the expensive GEP training and hobbies etc, let alone having the time to do volunteering work or finances to be renting properties near desired schs. If we take a step backwards and view things in a wider context, then we will realise that some of our parenting worries may just be unnecessary perceived obstacles that we have created for ourselves.
I'm laughing at myself.
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:rotflmao: had a good laugh!... about the pigs. buds:
Here's wat mine said abt that toughest job in the world..
http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?p=795984#p795984
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