桃花谈
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Insider, do you hv something to share with us about husbands who don’t pay for anything, leaving the wife to support the family? Are these husbands here to 讨债?
Once in a while I hear such stories from the horses’ mouths. The husbands are usually working, with stable income. However, I see a good half who earn more than husbands and the other half earning lesser. -
Dear dolphinsiah,
:hugs: :snuggles: after reading ur post,i am in lost of words.
But pls,be brave n strong. U still hv lovely two children. They'll be ur pillar of supports.
Is it possible if u could sell ur condo n stay in hdb? At least u can save on maintenance,etc. -
insider,
Shld we believe in 求签?
Sometx,it turns up to be very accurate. Many yrs ago,my mum 求签 for my father who was hospitalized, the 签 was 下下签, said my father has 血光灾, at the end,he really passed away fr. heart attack n the operations caused him lost a lot of blood.
Many yrs ago,when i went to 求签, i got a 下下签, the temple man explained that 下下签 doesn’t mean it is bad.He also said Bad things happen now and then for good purposes.Indeed i was very 坏运气 for some times…till i met my DH. -
Hi dolphinsiah,
I think you must be a strong woman to be able to go thru all these rough situations alone !
Don't understand why some people can be so cold-blooded especially towards own relatives ? 真的没人性吗?
Take care :snuggles: -
vinegar:
Hi Vinegar,blessedwife,
u r a very lucky woman!
Thank you
Yes, I am lucky. I used to think is this true what have I done to deserve this man ? At this moment, My life is consider much fortunate than some others. I must not take things for granted and do more good deeds to help the less fortunate ones.
Also, I don't take my husband for granted. I know he loves our family very much. With this in mind, I love him whole heartedly. I thank my MIL for bringing up this well mannered, generous & well educated husband of mine. Hence, I am very respectful to my parent in laws. Throughout our marriage, I have never had any conflicts with them. In fact, whenever we meet we have so much things to talk & share with one another. My MIL will buy my favorite coffee and food for me and vice versa I will buy her bags and dresses which I think suits her. Our relationship is good. I am also on good terms with my husband sister & brother.
My husband is very generous with me. He pays for all my expenses and I also uses his supplementary card for shopping spree.
He bought Hermes Birkin & Chanel bags for me on his business trips.
Not only this, he also bring my parents for holiday trips.
As for our son, he volunteered to train with him for his
Taekwando steps and also helps to go thru his homework when he knows that I am tired.
He even engaged different private tutors (each subject) to come to our house to give tuitions to our son. We have high hopes for him due to he is our only son. However, after having read thru insider and other posts, I think I need to lower my expectations. As of now, my son still have not complaint why he needs to attend so many enrichments. So, we shall continue to monitor....
My only regret now is that we don't have a 2nd bb. We didn't think of having a 2nd one because we love our son to bits and never think much of it until last year he began to ask for siblings.
I told my son \"sorry son, mummy didn't give you a brother or sister. I know you will be a good Kor Kor. Just that mummy didn't give you a chance to be one\". Age is catching up so we just let it be. -
dolphinsiah:
Quite many questions floating around and I apologise if I cannot attend to all.Here's my story
Now I see life differently, I hope in my next life I can be a tree in a National Park.... :xedfingers:
I have a 'fresh' case below via my pm and I edited a bit of details (readers, if you want to send pm to me for advise, you must know that I may re-post here unless I agreed with you not to do so).
I will try to shed some light on dolphinsiah's case first coz I think hers is urgent. However, tmr I will have a full day of work and so I maybe a bit 'late' in my answer.
Below I shall answer after dolphinsiah's.
PS: Pls DO NOT COMMENT on the below case (but you may talk about other posts) as a respect to the party concerned. It is good that you get to read cases and perhaps try to 'analyse' yourself where went wrong and hopefully through such 'practice', you get to be wiser and not to repeat similar mistakes. The sole purpose of this 桃花谈 is for the sake of the children who are under our care...Mummy Z:
case deleted upon Mummy Z's request... -
Blessedwife:
羡慕死了！！
Hi Vinegar,vinegar:
blessedwife,
u r a very lucky woman!
Thank you Yes, I am lucky. I used to think is this true what have I done to deserve this man ? At this moment, My life is consider much fortunate than some others. I must not take things for granted and do more good deeds to help the less fortunate ones.
Also, I don't take my husband for granted. I know he loves our family very much. With this in mind, I love him whole heartedly. I thank my MIL for bringing up this well mannered, generous & well educated husband of mine. Hence, I am very respectful to my parent in laws. Throughout our marriage, I have never had any conflicts with them. In fact, whenever we meet we have so much things to talk & share with one another. My MIL will buy my favorite coffee and food for me and vice versa I will buy her bags and dresses which I think suits her. Our relationship is good. I am also on good terms with my husband sister & brother.
My husband is very generous with me. He pays for all my expenses and I also uses his supplementary card for shopping spree.
He bought Hermes Birkin & Chanel bags for me on his business trips.
Not only this, he also bring my parents for holiday trips.
As for our son, he volunteered to train with him for his
Taekwando steps and also helps to go thru his homework when he knows that I am tired.
He even engaged different private tutors (each subject) to come to our house to give tuitions to our son. We have high hopes for him due to he is our only son. However, after having read thru insider and other posts, I think I need to lower my expectations. As of now, my son still have not complaint why he needs to attend so many enrichments. So, we shall continue to monitor....
My only regret now is that we don't have a 2nd bb. We didn't think of having a 2nd one because we love our son to bits and never think much of it until last year he began to ask for siblings.
I told my son \"sorry son, mummy didn't give you a brother or sister. I know you will be a good Kor Kor. Just that mummy didn't give you a chance to be one\". Age is catching up so we just let it be.
前世修來的福！ -
Good morning Blessed wife and Vinegar,
:thankyou: for your kind words....
Do not worry...I know I came to this world to repay debts....还债...
父母债 ， 丈夫债 ， 儿女债。。。。
According to my mum...a fortune teller told her I came to this world to repay debts...
since young....I have learned to mold myself to have a character to take care of myself...
My Dad and Mum being young and uneducated ....was separated when I was 5 years old...
Mum remarried....but was forever quarreling with Stepdad....
So I am always on my on feet....
Now I am very focus in my life....
Take care of my parents, my kids.....
Hopefully I have enough money to retire during my old age... :evil:
I know I can downgrade to a HDB.....but my daughters would like to me to keep it.....the Condo is already fully paid...
I told them Sure...but they have to buy my share.....
Half the price of the Condo....their Late Father Share they can inherit it....
I need them to buy my share of the Condo....as I do not want to live with them during old age....
when they are all grown up, it is time for me to seek refuge with Buddha... :please:
I used to have thoughts like Insider to be a nun....but I think I can't....because this world there is too many things to enjoy.....
I always have thoughts that it is better to suffer alone ...why want to make your loves one suffer with you.... :skeptical:
Now I am very careful in spending my :moneyflies: ....
But I will always put my love ones interest first....
I have trained myself to eat 2 meals a day....
(I learned this from a Master ...this will help me during Crisis....
Monks take only 2 meals per day and they have to do it before noon....
For me, I take Breakfast and early dinner ...in order to skip lunch.... :xedfingers: -
"无怨无悔" this caught my eye…
If we did something to revenge for the hurt that our spouse did to us and now we regret about it how?
Since it that was years ago… now whole family living cordially together… kids n both husband n wife are living happily… should the past still be brought up? -
My personal take - If there is residual hurt, a sincere apology will help to heal. If the other party does not know and is blissfully ignorant, then let the past be past.
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