桃花谈

[MintyMin]

"无怨无悔" this caught my eye…


If we did something to revenge for the hurt that our spouse did to us and now we regret about it how?

Since it that was years ago… now whole family living cordially together… kids n both husband n wife are living happily… should the past still be brought up?

[ammonite]

My personal take - If there is residual hurt, a sincere apology will help to heal. If the other party does not know and is blissfully ignorant, then let the past be past.

[Evermeet]

Hi all,


been reading the whole thread over the last few days.

Just thought of sharing my 2 cents view, I noticed in the last 2-3 pages or so, the replies seems to be deviating towards the whole 还债 concept in a "I’m a victim" of karma mentality and it sounds like it’s a giving up of one’s personal responsibility towards our own life and the choices we chose to make.

Regardless of whether our kids or our partner is here to collect or repay debts, it’s still what we do today and what we do in this lifetime that matters, that will shape the eventual outcome of the circumstances. What’s good may not stay good, what’s bad may not stay bad.

[Evermeet]

vinegar:

insider,

Shld we believe in 求签?

Sometx,it turns up to be very accurate. Many yrs ago,my mum 求签 for my father who was hospitalized, the 签 was 下下签, said my father has 血光灾, at the end,he really passed away fr. heart attack n the operations caused him lost a lot of blood.

Many yrs ago,when i went to 求签, i got a 下下签, the temple man explained that 下下签 doesn't mean it is bad.He also said Bad things happen now and then for good purposes.Indeed i was very 坏运气 for some times......till i met my DH.

Out of curiosity, is the 签 from the guanyin temple at bugis?

[MintyMin]

So i guess… sometimes it is better to be ignorant then to know the truth…

[popireis]

Does anyone happens to know what does it mean if a woman is born with a 男人命 (man’s fate)?


Many years ago, someone commented that I am born with 男人命, and it seems that if a woman who is born like that suffers quite alot… like she has to take over the role of the "owner" of the house, breadwinner etc, cannot enjoy "woman’s fate" such as be a housewife etc

Anyone heard of it or can shed some light?
Anyway to "change" this fate?

[ammonite]

Eh? I think many women these days won’t mind having 男人命then. Yahoo new CEO must have it.

[ammonite]

MintyMin:

So i guess.. sometimes it is better to be ignorant then to know the truth...

I won't put it that way. I am someone who prefers to know. But if I was the doer and years have passed and I feel bad about it - what is there to gain, ESP if kids are involved, to tell it now. I will be inflicting hurt in my attempt to resolve my own guilt and that is selfish, IMHO.

Unless there is lingering repercussions, or the other party will find out, it will cause less hurt to all parties involved (including kids) to just let the past be past. If I have to repay debts in my next life, then so be it.

Just my take.

[popireis]

ammonite:

Eh? I think many women these days won't mind having 男人命then. Yahoo new CEO must have it.

Hahaha... hwr, having 男人命 doesn't necc means having 好命 or
好男人命. I earn more than DH but I dun feel happy being a FTWM. But I cannot turn to PT or SAHM bcos they nd my financial contributions.

I am like kinda supporting the whole family, financially, kids studies, well-being, and I make all the major + minor decisions at home cos they either simply bo chup or CMI. I oso wan to live the life of 小女人 mah, live comfortably and no need so much headaches...

One Fengshui master ever said before, the 3 men in my house is \"sucking me dry\".... :yikes:

[MintyMin]

ammonite:

MintyMin:

So i guess.. sometimes it is better to be ignorant then to know the truth...

I won't put it that way. I am someone who prefers to know. But if I was the doer and years have passed and I feel bad about it - what is there to gain, ESP if kids are involved, to tell it now. I will be inflicting hurt in my attempt to resolve my own guilt and that is selfish, IMHO.

Unless there is lingering repercussions, or the other party will find out, it will cause less hurt to all parties involved (including kids) to just let the past be past. If I have to repay debts in my next life, then so be it.

Just my take.

Thank you for your honest opinion..