Double checked with D.M, now they said cane or suspension will recorded in MOE…I remember 1st time I met then they stated will not recorded… No choice la…my son had make a mistake, so had to accept lo… But don’t understand why school can be so strict, more strict than MOE regulation…

I am not sure how will these bad record effect my son in future…haix…

Previously the master told me will be recorded only in their school, not extend to others. But I never asked whether suspend will be recorded or not. They said guy is cane, girl is suspend, so if cane no record, suspend should not be recorded as well. I had not agreed yet, I told them need to discuss with DAS teacher and my husband and also must understand what my son feeling, which i think that’s most important right now. I will double confirm with them again whether any bad record in MOE. Thanks for your advised.

They said after cane will get counselor to counsel them, you see now my son case like these, they don’t even know the exam paper that he wrote on honesty is meaningless, and they don’t even know what the latest things of him. You really think they concern?? Did they just follow the paper to just work on?? How to trust…?? I send sms to his teacher asking her to pass me the composition for exam title honesty, very sad that his teacher also don’t know about what he wrote. So sad… all these actually is a bad sign shown my son actually still in restricted by that incident. But who the hell in school cares??? Worst school i ever had as this last round still never see his principle appear… They so busy??

I just came back from meeting, they change the punishment from caning to suspend from school for 5 days. Since school left 3 days only so will extend 2 more days to next year. The master emphasis that if cane only take 10-30 sec, but 5 days suspension and now not enough days will extend to next year. The way they expressed, they actually not really concern on what may happened to my son, they only base on rules and regulations only…To me I am glad that he no need to be cane in front of class. But from these incident I really felt nowadays school only concern on regulation, they felt only rules and regulation then can make things right…Where is all the love, care and concern for the teenage??? Is that only punishment to make one person to learn good?? I felt very sad…I remember when I was young, teachers not like this… I asked them how’s the counselling for my son, they said is confidential between students and counselor, so no feed back means is positive… Haix… How to leave my son in this kind of school.

They already know will meet me today, yet they don’t know things of my son. They don’t know that my son will need to represent school go HK for band performance, so I question them how to get suspend if he need to practice for the performance… and they even asked me how’s my son’s yr end result, isn’t they should show a bit concern on him and keep an eyes on him?..I was damn damn disappointed… Maybe I ask for too much…

smileplease:

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Today I received a called from discipline master wanted me go down to meet them in school to discuss on DAS teacher's email. I tried to rest as much as I can but seems still can't walk too far... my wound still pain, but no choice as I hope to settle this case fast too. Through phone, he don't sound any good news to me... Haix...

Did you call MOE?? A lot of times, school will only give in after the parent complained to MOE. :slapshead:

Since you have not totally recover from your operation, you should ask your husband to go to school instead. I believe the hospital had given you medical leave, tell the discipline master about your health condition and hopefully he can meet you at a later date when you are fully recover.

I had already told them I am still not ok yet, but they wanted to settle the case. I think because going to yr end, they must settle it...Due to my operation, my hubby already take too much leaves, can't take it again.
They let me choose either tomorrow or Monday to meet them. I think I will make it on Monday, have few more days to rest. Hope by then, I will be better....

My DD is 19 this yr, when she was in sec, she had a lot of stay back, reached home already 7-8plus, sometimes even late like 9-10pm. I seldom control her bedtime as I knew she had a lot of homework to do. Try to understand your girl, if she know what is pro and con to sleep late. Maybe you explain to her what your worries, she will know and understand. While my girl in sec 1 n 2, always do homework till 12 or 1 am, she couldn’t complete, so no choice and she need to wake up and go sch every morning 5.30am. When she went up to sec 3 n 4 it’s get worst, she worked till 3am. I was not happy but she can’t complete her works, I can’t help her as well. Beginning I thought she might be hang around in facebook, twitter etc… but when she reached sec 4, she automatic offline on all the internet except homework…but she still hang up late night to study or do homework. Since I know she need to work, I need to support her and understand her. I leave to her to make her own decision. Of course once she had chance she will choose stay at home and sleep…And at last she get not bad result in her O level. she choose to go Poly but not JC, so I thought should be better, but too bad things get worst… when we go sleep, she still doing her homework, when we woke up and go work, she still up haven’t complete her work and pack and go school. I was very worry. I though this is my DD problems, maybe she work too slow… Nope…at the end I get to know that whole course of them all up doing their works… so that’s life that they have to face. Now my girl in internship…same lo, also similar as that’s the course she choose…so now I only support and understand her, I think that will be best way… They will find their own way to adjust resting time and working time. Don’t worry…Just to share a bit more, I can accept her way of doing homework, maybe also because when I need to rush projects, my work also no day and night…that’s why I do not want my kids to take similar course as mine. But too bad her course totally different but still similar type of life, I have to accept and support her lo.

Nowadays Singapore’s education really not easy like our time, try to understand your DD first, maybe that can help and have a better bond between both of you…all the best!!

GLORYmum:

http://www.nanchiauhigh.moe.edu.sg/cos/o.x?c=/wbn/pagetree&func=view&rid=1065425


Level 1
Late-coming
Littering
Improper Attire
Improper Appearance
Rudeness to teachers
Disruptive Behavior
Consumption of food outside canteen
Bringing banned electronic gadgets
Incompletion of assignments
Use of rude / vulgar / abusive language


Verbal warning
Detention
Offence form issued
Warning letter issued
1 demerit point given
Recorded in MOE Cockpit System
Corrective Work Order
Confiscation of items related to appearance such as, additional ear studs, coloured hair-clips, wrist bands etc. (non-returnable).
Confiscation of banned electronic gadgets (for one term)
Any other appropriate follow-up actions

Thanks \"GLORYmum\" and \"smileplease\" these link really give me confident....

Today I received a called from discipline master wanted me go down to meet them in school to discuss on DAS teacher’s email. I tried to rest as much as I can but seems still can’t walk too far… my wound still pain, but no choice as I hope to settle this case fast too. Through phone, he don’t sound any good news to me… Haix…

smileplease:

I got this from : http://www.acspri.moe.edu.sg/.../Offences_and_Consequences_(Serious



Using vulgar language / name-calling\t
1\tWarning by teacher (Parents to be informed)
\t2\tTeacher Parent telephone conference
\t3\tReferral to Discipline Master (Record in MOE School Cockpit)
\t4\tReferral to Principal (Record in MOE School Cockpit)
\t>4\tCaning (Record in MOE School Cockpit)

I really think you should call MOE and clarify about this matter.

I can't enter the link you post....
Tmr will try call up and ask, thanks.

Nebbermind:

Sorry...this thread grew fast.

Why did the boy send msg to the teacher who betrayed him? Was he really suicidal?

Long story.... Nope my boy nv suisede, but do had tat thinking at tat moment as he felt betray n teacher give up on him.... Tats why I asked not to cane but lighten the punishment, worry he may think wrong way instead of pulling a kid to a bright side but pushing him down to hell...to get kids trust are not easy, to let a kid hate is not simple... But why already let them felt betray n still nv look at serious of the prob....