ChiefKiasu:

Jeremy:

... We had a family talk earlier on, we asked him is he a happy child. The answer is no. he claims that he is always lonely in school no one eats with him during breaks. Other than that he is ok...

Jeremy, the fact that you were able to sit down as a family and talk to work things out already speaks volumes about the closeness of your family. You are doing fine as a daddy, and I'm sure your son appreciates these talks. Continue to do so regularly and I'm sure he will respect you very much as his father. That is fundamental to him taking your advice.

Thanks for your advice & motivation Chief, i really hope i can find ways to turn things round and share with parents who face the same issues as us too.

tutormum:

Could he be suffering from some disorder which you are not aware of? One example is bipolar disorder and the other is Kleptomania. I'm not trying to scare you but hope you will be open to all possibilities so that your son can be helped. As you have said that this is not his first time, it could also be that as he has got off scot free before and the thrill of doing it again is there. In the end, it may be that he is just being playful and did it for the fun or as tankee has mentioned - for attention or peer pressure. Stay calm and have a good talk with him. If he doesn't open up (and from my experience, there are certain things that most kids would not tell their parents) you may get someone else whom your son is comfortable with to talk to him. I have many students confiding in me and sworn me to secrecy. \"cross my heart\"

I'll send him to a child counselor & probably look into some health ministry that provides such services as well. Both wife and me are going all out to explore what is the root of the problems and how can we fix it in the shortest time.

It hurts to see him facing all these but i just hope he is strong enough to face his teachers and pals. FYI the bookshop has ban him from visiting their shop & i'm not sure what kind of impact he will face. Childrens at his age loves to visit bookshop during breaktime.

Thanks for all the input


Some background on how we grew up together with my little ones. Beside our 5 days 9-5 job, the rest of the time is solely for him. I;m the 1 always doing the teaching guiding and working on his homework & most of all providing him surprises base on his improvments & behaviour.

My wife will look after on domestic issues & taking care of his meals etc

We had a family talk earlier on, we asked him is he a happy child. The answer is no. he claims that he is always lonely in school no one eats with him during breaks. Other than that he is ok.

I told him the boys are doing the right thing to avoid him mainly because he did fight once, shouting at friends so parents will always advice their child not to learn all the bad things from him. The best way is to avoid him at all times.

We suggested to use his action to win his friends heart by talking to them, giving a helping hand etc

I’m not sure how this will turn out to be but trust me he has 100% attention from us and was recently promoted to be leader in the class as well.

Its just too shocking for us to accept the fact that he stole from the store not once but twice.

I really appreciate your kind suggestion and sharing some of your experiences.

Cheers

Today i received a call from my 9 yrs old son's sch imforming us that he stole some pencil from the school bookshop.


I was shock & taken back by hearing such incident.

We have been working closly with him on behaviours and constanly reminding him on the do and dont's. At his age, i'm sure we have given him all the usual staffs that kids will wish for. He is a responsible child & behave well at home except laziness & not motivated in his sch work.

We question him why he need to steal when he already have lots of stationary? Why didnt he ask us? How come he refuse to use his allowance to buy it? He cant explain on his act & i'm equally shock to know that this was not his 1st time stealing in the bookshop.

Any suggestion on dealing with such behaviour which you can share? I've spoken to him in length and i'm not sure how to ensure he will not repeat such act again.

Does boys behave such manner as they grew up in different stages??

Sigh totally stress out

immimei:

Hi, My sister gave me dis website because she knows how desparate I am. I have a daughter due for P1 next year. I live in Bishan. I wanted a co-ed school because I have a younger boy. Wanted Aitong all along, but too lazy to volunteer bec they don't guarantee a place even if you volunteer. I am very desparate now. I live within 2km from Aitong, may not even have a chance to ballot. I am old gal of MGS, but MGS is so far, at blackmore drive. Marymount Convent seems nearer. MGS is a good school. Marymount is more convenient. Where should I put her? I am considering putting my son in Catholic High if I put my daughter in a girls' school. I am within 1km of Catholic High. :roll:

Hi there

For Ai Tong, 2Km might not be eligible to go for balloting. I'm putting up a Bishan too, i manage to put my son in CH at phase 2C Balloting. (all wiithin 1KM) I know some volunteers in CH fail to ballot a seat during phase 2c so chances all boils down to luck.

Can consider Kuo Chuan during phase 2c chances are higher.

ChiefKiasu:

Hmmm... I can imagine what the parent who has put in months of \"hard labour\" of community service of cleaning up the school would say to the principal who tells him that!

What do they do? A performance appraisal of all the volunteers to see who is has met or exceeded KPIs?

Beside clocking number of hours, they still need to ballot during phase 2B. Bal will carry forward to join Phase 2C for balloting.

ChiefKiasu:

As they always say... keep your head in the clouds, and your feet on the ground. Never tell your kid what they are NOT capable of doing. Tell them they can be anything they want, as long as they want it badly enough.

Mine was into swimming, but now into fencing. He's quite good at both too, but I have no delusions about what he can be. My point to him is as long as he enjoys and do his best in all that he tries, I'm ok and will support his interests. No need to be the best - as long as he has given his best, it's good enough for me.

Yah...just go with their flow

phantom:

My niece who got into primary one recently didn't got into one of the more popular neighborhood school even though she is been balloted in phase 2c. No luck. So now my sis is doing school's voluntary work for the school to prepare for my nephew. Wow, I wonder I should do the same, but it is a tempting proposal. Except the school's do reject for late application of parents volunteers

Even as a Volunteer, you will not be garuntee a place in the school. Thats what happen in my son's school.

wow :shock: For us, we make it simple. we r just 100M away from Catholic High & was under phase 2C. Its was a gamble as my son can opt for Anderson pr sch under Phase 2A but we decide to opt for CH due to the distance.


Well the ballot was exciting. Ration @ 30/45, we manage to get in on the 2nd draw...man the feeling was priceless

Title: Just a crazy tot


Ever tot of sending your boy to soccer school @ popular clubs (Example Man U) & hopefully he'll be the nxt Rooney or owen :lol: :lol: Their weekly income will certainly be more than most average Joe yearly income :lol: ....No harm dreaming