Childcare or no Childcare?

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Her motor skills are fine. She can holding a pencil correctlyand write some letter words, she can hold a scissors but not cutting very nicely but she have no patient over colouring. Jumping, hopping & able to balance on a plank are also not a problem as she practice everyday at the playground. Sometimes I really run out of activities ideas especially social development. Preschools is it a good place for fun-loving play and learn for toddlers?

[chavie]

Has your child experienced trauma while attending child care or preschool class? What happened and how did you help your child recover from trauma?

[icemountain]

I come from another side of the coin. Perhaps, you might appreciate a different perspective.


Your girl sounds a lot like my younger child. She’s independent, sociable and no separation anxiety. Now she’s 3.5 years old and only attends one drop off class a week. She goes out with me every single day and I leave her running in and out of neighbours’ houses.

Perhaps you are already feeling societal pressure to put her in school since most of her peers are already there?

Socialisation to me is not about interacting with kids of the same age day in day out. It is the ability to interact with people of all ages. She must be polite and courteous to greet and acknowledge friends and strangers, share her toys and ask politely if she wants to play with another kid. As her mum, I’m fortunate I’m around to guide her.

She plays with kids who are in school and I can tell you many of them don’t play well, don’t share well and aren’t polite at all. How our kids behave depends on how we parents guide them.

I personally don’t see kids who go to school earlier get a headstart over those who go later. Similarly, kids who read at 3 are not better readers than those who read at 6!

You have a major advantage in that your daughter has your devoted time. Relish this time to guide her in the way you want her to grow. In time, when she hits primary school, it really doesn’t matter whether she started school at 2.5 yrs or 3 yrs.

[smurf]

May I hijack this thread?


My 21 mth boy still cannot talk and I'm very keen to put him in a childcare (maybe starts with 1/2 day 1st). I'm a SAHM but because he is very active, I fnd that I can't manage him anymore. also, I dun want him to bum around doing nothin, might as well let him go sch and learn something, there is only so much that I can teach him and most time, he doesn't listen to me anyway.

the problem is, he is a tyrant. resemble spoilt brat I would say. but he is very affection. when he sees a child around his age, he would beat them. but also would hug them IMMEDIATELY after beating. I'm worried when he goes to childcare, the teacher cannot manage him, afterall, they have many children to look after, where got time to see if he disturbs other kids? :?

also, he is quite active. he can just run off by hmself after let loose even for 1 sec. and you wouldn't be able to find him. so, when I bring him out, super stress!!
any advise??

[foreverj]

smurf:

May I hijack this thread?


My 21 mth boy still cannot talk and I'm very keen to put him in a childcare (maybe starts with 1/2 day 1st). I'm a SAHM but because he is very active, I fnd that I can't manage him anymore. also, I dun want him to bum around doing nothin, might as well let him go sch and learn something, there is only so much that I can teach him and most time, he doesn't listen to me anyway.

the problem is, he is a tyrant. resemble spoilt brat I would say. but he is very affection. when he sees a child around his age, he would beat them. but also would hug them IMMEDIATELY after beating. I'm worried when he goes to childcare, the teacher cannot manage him, afterall, they have many children to look after, where got time to see if he disturbs other kids? :?

also, he is quite active. he can just run off by hmself after let loose even for 1 sec. and you wouldn't be able to find him. so, when I bring him out, super stress!!
any advise??

hi smurf, if u can find a good cc where there are patient teachers, it may not be a bad idea to try it out. my dd started terrible twos at quite an early age so when i finally packed her off to half-day cc, it was, in a way, a good relief/ respite for me for those 3 hours. some time for me to pack up the house, do some laundry, cook soup for dinner etc.

u may find that, your ds may listen more to the teachers than to u. becos u r the loving mum, u wil always forgive him so he may tend to \"bully\" u or push the boundaries a bit more. and the power of peer pressure is never to be understimated! somehow, when everyone is doing the same thing, they will follow suit, no questions asked.

then again, if he didn't ease into cc, eg. those problems that u foresee, u can always take him out. do what works for u. but i always believe that a happy, more well-rested mum makes a better, more patient and more loving mum :love: all the best in your parenting journey!

[smurf]

thanks for your advise! :celebrate: will try to find a good cc for him, hope he can adapt well...

[foreverj]

btw for his age group, currently in jan, a lot of the cc wil have very few children. hence a good time to try out cos the teacher-child ratio would be much better. and hopefully, the teachers wil b more patient with him, if he really behaves the way you fear. just to share, its stil very much dependent on whether u can find a good school at a convenient location.

[smurf]

hmm, i thought someone mentioned that jan is bad for new intakes cos many will be crying leh? :?

hopefully can find a cc that wouldn't reject him.

[foreverj]

true also. but not really for your ds age group. if he is 21 mths, means he is turning 2 this year. my fren whose dd is 20mths started this mth and her batch ,born in year 2008, only 4 kids. for my dd, the year she turned 2, her batch only had 3 kids in jan. so they really enjoyed a lot of attention from the 2 teachers


most of the crying kids wil be for the batch that turn 3 that year. makes sense since for a lot of the kids born in 08, stil not qualified to enter cc becos not yet turned 18 mths yet. plus many parents dun have the heart to send to cc until the kid is at least 2 or 2.5 yrs old. so very much up to u lor, whether u think yr ds is ready.

[smurf]

haha, I'm confused. but defintely will ask what is the size of the class.