Childcare or no Childcare?

[smurf]

May I hijack this thread?


My 21 mth boy still cannot talk and I'm very keen to put him in a childcare (maybe starts with 1/2 day 1st). I'm a SAHM but because he is very active, I fnd that I can't manage him anymore. also, I dun want him to bum around doing nothin, might as well let him go sch and learn something, there is only so much that I can teach him and most time, he doesn't listen to me anyway.

the problem is, he is a tyrant. resemble spoilt brat I would say. but he is very affection. when he sees a child around his age, he would beat them. but also would hug them IMMEDIATELY after beating. I'm worried when he goes to childcare, the teacher cannot manage him, afterall, they have many children to look after, where got time to see if he disturbs other kids? :?

also, he is quite active. he can just run off by hmself after let loose even for 1 sec. and you wouldn't be able to find him. so, when I bring him out, super stress!!
any advise??

[foreverj]

smurf:

May I hijack this thread?


My 21 mth boy still cannot talk and I'm very keen to put him in a childcare (maybe starts with 1/2 day 1st). I'm a SAHM but because he is very active, I fnd that I can't manage him anymore. also, I dun want him to bum around doing nothin, might as well let him go sch and learn something, there is only so much that I can teach him and most time, he doesn't listen to me anyway.

the problem is, he is a tyrant. resemble spoilt brat I would say. but he is very affection. when he sees a child around his age, he would beat them. but also would hug them IMMEDIATELY after beating. I'm worried when he goes to childcare, the teacher cannot manage him, afterall, they have many children to look after, where got time to see if he disturbs other kids? :?

also, he is quite active. he can just run off by hmself after let loose even for 1 sec. and you wouldn't be able to find him. so, when I bring him out, super stress!!
any advise??

hi smurf, if u can find a good cc where there are patient teachers, it may not be a bad idea to try it out. my dd started terrible twos at quite an early age so when i finally packed her off to half-day cc, it was, in a way, a good relief/ respite for me for those 3 hours. some time for me to pack up the house, do some laundry, cook soup for dinner etc.

u may find that, your ds may listen more to the teachers than to u. becos u r the loving mum, u wil always forgive him so he may tend to \"bully\" u or push the boundaries a bit more. and the power of peer pressure is never to be understimated! somehow, when everyone is doing the same thing, they will follow suit, no questions asked.

then again, if he didn't ease into cc, eg. those problems that u foresee, u can always take him out. do what works for u. but i always believe that a happy, more well-rested mum makes a better, more patient and more loving mum :love: all the best in your parenting journey!

[smurf]

thanks for your advise! :celebrate: will try to find a good cc for him, hope he can adapt well...

[foreverj]

btw for his age group, currently in jan, a lot of the cc wil have very few children. hence a good time to try out cos the teacher-child ratio would be much better. and hopefully, the teachers wil b more patient with him, if he really behaves the way you fear. just to share, its stil very much dependent on whether u can find a good school at a convenient location.

[smurf]

hmm, i thought someone mentioned that jan is bad for new intakes cos many will be crying leh? :?

hopefully can find a cc that wouldn't reject him.

[foreverj]

true also. but not really for your ds age group. if he is 21 mths, means he is turning 2 this year. my fren whose dd is 20mths started this mth and her batch ,born in year 2008, only 4 kids. for my dd, the year she turned 2, her batch only had 3 kids in jan. so they really enjoyed a lot of attention from the 2 teachers


most of the crying kids wil be for the batch that turn 3 that year. makes sense since for a lot of the kids born in 08, stil not qualified to enter cc becos not yet turned 18 mths yet. plus many parents dun have the heart to send to cc until the kid is at least 2 or 2.5 yrs old. so very much up to u lor, whether u think yr ds is ready.

[smurf]

haha, I'm confused. but defintely will ask what is the size of the class.

[foreverj]

:oops: sorry did i confuse u? good idea to check out the cc during lesson time. likely got crying for those who just joined...

[Charmaine_chong]

Can anyone share how is the life for putting children in childcare?


Do you guys still send them for enrichment courses? Would the children benefit from childcare?

Would they be more independent? So that you can do housework without them disturbing you.

I am considering the possibilities to put my son 4yo and girl 2yo to childcare next year. They are currently look after by maid & my dad.

Just wonder how things would change.

[fristrom]

Charmaine_chong:

Can anyone share how is the life for putting children in childcare?


Do you guys still send them for enrichment courses? Would the children benefit from childcare?

Would they be more independent? So that you can do housework without them disturbing you.

I am considering the possibilities to put my son 4yo and girl 2yo to childcare next year. They are currently look after by maid & my dad.

Just wonder how things would change.

I am not sure how things would change as mine has been going to childcare since 18 months. For the first 1.5 yrs half day. For the last 1.5 yrs full day.

As both of us work, without grandparents around, the choice between maid and childcare is obvious.

It depends on how you define enrichment. If you define it as giving your kid a more rounded education/experience, my answer is yes: mine has violin and swimming. If you define it as reinforcing what they learnt in school or given them an \"edge\" in primary school, personally, I don't think it is necessary.

Independence: at 4.5, I found mine very independent. Not sure how much school plays a role though as I found that the classmates behavior is different.

Good luck!