2014 PSLE Discussions and Strategy

[JohnYeo]

SpartanMum:

Reading these latest posts and looking at my son just confirms my belief that it's no fun being an upper primary kid in SG :sad:

Then again, as a parent I do have the choice to stop all the tuition and settle for less...

Hi SpartanMum, definitely worth trying to stop all tuition only if you have some ideas or plans on how to support your kid after that...

if the tuition is seen as fun for the kids (and some children love to attend certain classes because the learning is seen as Fun), stopping that particular tuition class may not be a good move...

so i think is very subjective lah...case by case basis...it really depends on the child and his experience of having tuition...

I feel as a parent, it is good to teach our DC skills on how to manage all these loads and stress from schools.

Inevitably, it is how they manage their inner talk and thoughts that determine how they respond to these stresses and how they cope with all the anxiety and stresses that come along.

I know some kids with high stress loads but they are enjoying it because of healthy coping skills...and most importantly, supportive parents such as our KSP parents here, who always lend a listening ear to their DC

My 2 cents,
John

[sleepy]

My dd will just be idling away her time if no tuition. My dh thinks the 4 hours at tuition is confirmed more fruitful than her 4 hours at home.

[jjxy mum]

sleepy:

My dd will just be idling away her time if no tuition. My dh thinks the 4 hours at tuition is confirmed more fruitful than her 4 hours at home.

Agreed. My dd also has her tuition now, otherwise she will be idling doing nothing and arguing with her bro at home.

[sleepy]

jjxy mum:

sleepy:

My dd will just be idling away her time if no tuition. My dh thinks the 4 hours at tuition is confirmed more fruitful than her 4 hours at home.

Agreed. My dd also has her tuition now, otherwise she will be idling doing nothing and arguing with her bro at home.

:hi5:
yes, how can I forgot the arguing part
Yeah boi, daily occurence :rant:

[janet88]

I wish I could save the money on tuition, but there is certainly a way tutors can reach the kids which we parents can’t. i’m relieved hubby agreed to send daughter for math tuition last year when she was in p3…it was tough for her in the beginning but she has started to pick up. otherwise, there would still be tension between father and daughter getting word problems done.

[chloecube]

i got a puzzling issue here, not sure if any of the parents encounter the same thing


i’ve bought past year exam papers for DS to try doing at home (without answer sheet attached), he scored pretty well.

but when he does mock test in school or some assessment test in the tuition centre, he scored badly, really bad like 30+/100

i do not understand why, tried sitting him down and ask him, he only kept queit and sobbed (DS is an introvert)
i must make my guesses and list down the possiblilties before asking him.
such as,
-test paper too hard? (which is not quite possible, bcos as i ran through those paper, standard is about the same)
-not enough time
- too anxious till he blank out…
he answer to me was time given is too short.
but i do not think this is the real reason, he was given 1.5hr to do the paper, he can complete the paper at a much faster speed at home.

this happened too many times, for all his subjects…
i am really at my wits end

[janet88]

chloecube:

i do not understand why, tried sitting him down and ask him, he only kept queit and sobbed (DS is an introvert)

i must make my guesses and list down the possiblilties before asking him.
such as,
-test paper too hard? (which is not quite possible, bcos as i ran through those paper, standard is about the same)
-not enough time
- too anxious till he blank out..
he answer to me was time given is too short.
but i do not think this is the real reason, he was given 1.5hr to do the paper, he can complete the paper at a much faster speed at home.

this happened too many times, for all his subjects...
i am really at my wits end

-the stress getting test/exam done in classroom setting.
-test paper standard may be acceptable but child is distracted by others, especially if his classmates ask for paper or finishes before him.
-took too long at certain sections.
-simply blanked out.

[lurline]

ds has this problem too. For my case, it is because ds cannot focus in school, he said he is often distracted by other students or things. He did much better when he is alone in the room or in a small group.

[chloecube]

thks for replying


yes, maybe lack of focus and distraction is the problem
DS is easily distracted, simple things like my dog walk pass him while he is doing hw, he will look around or play with the dog while doing hw..
i can imagine how he will lose focus in a class of 40 pupils

but this is something i cannot do anything about it. had reminded him to focus while doing test and hw, easier said than done

[sharonkhoo]

chloecube:

i got a puzzling issue here, not sure if any of the parents encounter the same thing


i've bought past year exam papers for DS to try doing at home (without answer sheet attached), he scored pretty well.

but when he does mock test in school or some assessment test in the tuition centre, he scored badly, really bad like 30+/100

i do not understand why, tried sitting him down and ask him, he only kept queit and sobbed (DS is an introvert)
i must make my guesses and list down the possiblilties before asking him.
such as,
-test paper too hard? (which is not quite possible, bcos as i ran through those paper, standard is about the same)
-not enough time
- too anxious till he blank out..
he answer to me was time given is too short.
but i do not think this is the real reason, he was given 1.5hr to do the paper, he can complete the paper at a much faster speed at home.

this happened too many times, for all his subjects...
i am really at my wits end

It sounds like he's stressed. It may help to assure him that grades are not the be-all and end-all, and maybe teach him relaxation techniques too.