All About Autism

[Couragemom]

Hi Belachanbabe,


Thanks for sharing your son’s P1 ‘adventures’ with us. It is a very realistic take on primary school life and I hope I will be mentally prepared when the time comes.

[keropi_81]

Hi all,


When u all place your kids in Childcare - do u all face many problem? Mine 2nd week to Childcare… This week he suddenly learn to sit on the floor and lie down hitting his head if the teacher/us refuse to carry him. The teacher say he wanted to be cuddle a lot which they can afford too. But their feedback was he is getting better eg. The crying less frequent… I’m afraid that he might get too stress but I’m going back to work - no one looking after him… I’m getting very worry!!!

[mashy]

keropi_81:

Hi all,


When u all place your kids in Childcare - do u all face many problem? Mine 2nd week to Childcare... This week he suddenly learn to sit on the floor and lie down hitting his head if the teacher/us refuse to carry him. The teacher say he wanted to be cuddle a lot which they can afford too. But their feedback was he is getting better eg. The crying less frequent... I'm afraid that he might get too stress but I'm going back to work - no one looking after him... I'm getting very worry!!!

It could just be the 'teething' period. All kids need adjustments when they first start kindy/ childcare. My boy cried for 6 months and my NT girl cried for a month. You have to let go. It will get better once they are familiar with the teachers and the environment. Hang in there!

[mashy]

optrex80:

My boy is 5 and was previously diagnosed with very mild ASD.

Wish to know if any parents here can share with me their experiences on how ASD child enrolling into mainstream primary school adapt well in there.

Mine is P3 now. In the beginning, I was pretty worried. We arranged a meeting with the AED and the form teacher about 2 weeks after school started. The form teacher was special needs trained. It happened that there was also another asd boy in the class so they had an allied teacher to follow during the first year. There were hiccups such as him getting bullied, running out of the classroom by himself, urinating during flag lowering while remaining oblivious to it. It got better. We addressed some of the social issues, and he adjusted well in school. In fact, he became more sociable and able to make friends in school. Most of his classmates are very loving towards him and always watched over him. Now in P3, I've gotten Chinese exemption coz it's a torture for both of us. He is still attending but I no longer care if he failed or didn't do his homework as diligently. His handwriting is still as bad as ever so we have to keep reminding him to write legibly. He has trouble with comprehension so we are working on it. Overall academically he is still ok. He is now more confident in meeting new people and buying food by himself. We still pack snacks for him and give him money if he wants to buy from the canteen. He kept losing things like water bottles, pencil case, stationary, wallet, and drawing block! So buy lots of cheap supplies and be prepared to lose them. His form teachers adored him and have given him many compliments. It didn't work out as well with his CCA teacher coz he finds it too troublesome to have to keep him under control and get him to listen to instructions. They nearly asked him to quit when they heard of his condition but his form teacher kind of stepped in. She also told me they have no rights to get him to quit unless I say so. Hurray to the form teacher! I can't say how much I appreciate having a good form teacher to watch over him. So thankful that it has been so through these 3 years.

[phtthp]

If you say your son keep losing wallet, water bottle, pencil case, etc -

Perhaps prepare a check list reminder for him,
That is, before end of day lessons end in school, ask him to tick against those list of common items that he often lose, check to make sure that they are still intact, in his school bag.

Paste this check list somewhere convenient for him, perhaps the moment he open up his school bag, he can see the check list.

After sometime, he will learn not to be forgetful anymore, bec the checklist habit has helped him, to be disciplined.

[mashy]

phtthp:

If you say your son keep losing wallet, water bottle, pencil case, etc -

Perhaps prepare a check list reminder for him,
That is, before end of day lessons end in school, ask him to tick against those list of common items that he often lose, check to make sure that they are still intact, in his school bag.

Paste this check list somewhere convenient for him, perhaps the moment he open up his school bag, he can see the check list.

After sometime, he will learn not to be forgetful anymore, bec the checklist habit has helped him, to be disciplined.

Thanks for your suggestion. I will try that out. Hopefully he doesn't lose it. Sometimes he did realise that he lost his water bottle but he has no idea where he left it.

[sharonkhoo]

mashy:

phtthp:

If you say your son keep losing wallet, water bottle, pencil case, etc -

Perhaps prepare a check list reminder for him,
That is, before end of day lessons end in school, ask him to tick against those list of common items that he often lose, check to make sure that they are still intact, in his school bag.

Paste this check list somewhere convenient for him, perhaps the moment he open up his school bag, he can see the check list.

After sometime, he will learn not to be forgetful anymore, bec the checklist habit has helped him, to be disciplined.

Thanks for your suggestion. I will try that out. Hopefully he doesn't lose it. Sometimes he did realise that he lost his water bottle but he has no idea where he left it.

I used to put the list in my daughter's pencil case, written on a card (not so easy to lose!). I told her to check through it while she packs at the end of the day and put her pencil case away last. Also, does your son know where the lost and found items are placed in his school? You can ask him to check there a day after he loses something. You probably already do this, but it's good if everything is clearly labelled with his name.

[mashy]

slmkhoo:

mashy:

[quote=\"phtthp\"]If you say your son keep losing wallet, water bottle, pencil case, etc -

Perhaps prepare a check list reminder for him,
That is, before end of day lessons end in school, ask him to tick against those list of common items that he often lose, check to make sure that they are still intact, in his school bag.

Paste this check list somewhere convenient for him, perhaps the moment he open up his school bag, he can see the check list.

After sometime, he will learn not to be forgetful anymore, bec the checklist habit has helped him, to be disciplined.

Thanks for your suggestion. I will try that out. Hopefully he doesn't lose it. Sometimes he did realise that he lost his water bottle but he has no idea where he left it.

I used to put the list in my daughter's pencil case, written on a card (not so easy to lose!). I told her to check through it while she packs at the end of the day and put her pencil case away last. Also, does your son know where the lost and found items are placed in his school? You can ask him to check there a day after he loses something. You probably already do this, but it's good if everything is clearly labelled with his name.[/quote]It doesn't matter even when his name are on them. He still lost them on a regular basis. Also lost his pencil case before! I told him to check the lost and found but usually it's only his water bottle that will be found there. The rest are lost permanently.

[sharonkhoo]

mashy:

It doesn't matter even when his name are on them. He still lost them on a regular basis. Also lost his pencil case before! I told him to check the lost and found but usually it's only his water bottle that will be found there. The rest are lost permanently.

Oh well, he will learn eventually. Just give him cheap stuff until he learns. I used to buy the cheapest stuff and give my daughter the minimum of stationery etc - less to replace!

[Liyuan]

If you say your son keep losing wallet, water bottle, pencil case, etc -

Perhaps prepare a check list reminder for him,
That is, before end of day lessons end in school, ask him to tick against those list of common items that he often lose, check to make sure that they are still intact, in his school bag.

Paste this check list somewhere convenient for him, perhaps the moment he open up his school bag, he can see the check list.

After sometime, he will learn not to be forgetful anymore, bec the checklist habit has helped him, to be disciplined.

This is a great idea as it is a visual prompt. Visual prompts are always easier to fade as compared to verbal prompts. That is to say that the chances of the child remembering to check on his items by himself after you remove the list is higher as compared to him checking his items automatically if you were to remind him to check verbally. You can also try adding in a token system such that if he doesn't lose the items, he will/may get a token and ultimately after a certain number of tokens, he get to get the reward he chose for. This provides him with a some motivation to not lose his things.

Hope this helps

Liyuan
http://www.autismstep.com