Little Monster

[Cartoon]

Hi


Thanks for all the comments. I guess i will have to put in more effort and to be more patient with him. Afterall he is still a little boy. Thanks again!

[Addoil]

Hi Cartoon


Finally found someone kids similar with me…

My 4 yrs old boy also do such things which is make me very headache, after read through this forum, understand that caning is not the way ( a lot of ppl advise that should use cane ) ya, but this only can control awhile, and the behaviour still there, will be come out on and off…
anyway, he is still a little boy, which we need to put in extra effort on it.

Really thks for all the sharing.

[Ags]

not sure if this can be stated as a similarity here or be of help…


my boy is being cared for by my wife’s aunty whom he obviously has taken a liking to after almost 3 yrs…

realise whenever he is at home with us he is ok and does not kick up a fuss e.g. when we do not give him a sweet/or whatever he wants

however once in my wife’s aunty presence… he will always take advantage of her presence and kick up a big fuss (jumps n cries)

maybe is there any form of similarity of point of refernce u can pick up from?

[mintcc]

I think discipline for kids is an ongoing process…have to be very consistent and firm, and yes they are very smart and knows who can be "bullied" into having their way.


My boy is the same. In school, he is very well behave according to the teachers. At home with the maid or with grand parents - play tricks on them, wait for them to feed and clean up his mess. with the maid, even kick up fuss, throw things and aggressiveness. It took like more than 10 sessions of time out, explaining before he wise up. Even then, there are still times when he try to "test water" in getting his way by throwing tantrums and/or by acting up. … just have to keep up the praising when he is good and be firm with him when he misbehave.

I personally don’t find beating and beating an effective as a form of punishment. I have tried that and it back fires.

[jedamum]

mincy:

My boy is the same. In school, he is very well behave according to the teachers. At home ..... - play tricks on them, wait for them to feed and clean up his mess..... there are still times when he try to \"test water\" in getting his way by throwing tantrums and/or by acting up. ..

Hey, sounds like my P1 son! :roll:

[mintcc]

jedamum:

Hey, sounds like my P1 son! :roll:

hee, lots of people says most boys are like that m I am starting to agree... Currently reading the book you recommended and find some of the stuff they recommend quite useful.

http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/content/discipline-teaching

[Addoil]

Hi mincy


how are you going to control yourself when the kids are throwing tantrums... :?:

[csc]

mincy:

[hee, lots of people says most boys are like that m I am starting to agree...

er...i don't think so....nothing to do with gender....more to do with discipline and training ... in my opinion

[mintcc]

actually, it can be very hard and tiring to stay calm when they throw tantrums. especially if they do it for a long time and keep on with it no matter what I try. -so I did not manage to stay calm 100% of the time either. But what I find works for me is to walk away from the situation first and let him cry. (of course that only can be done at home or where there is some one else to jagar him)


At home ,If I feel myself getting angry I will try to walk away and calm down (surf net, read magazine, drink water, shower etc ). or put him in the naughty corner first, tell him what he did wrong and how long he will be at the naughty corner (usually 5-10 mins ) Then I will go do my things or if there is no one else to keep and eye on him sit where I can keep an eye on him while ignoring him. Every interval I will check if he is ready to calm down or he stays in the naughty corner for another interval.

[mintcc]

csc:

er...i don't think so....nothing to do with gender....more to do with discipline and training ... in my opinion

ho ho , me don have a gal so can't really compare. will leave that one to science :idea: