If you could, would you decide on a 3rd child?

[jedamum]

schellen:

Sigh...if really have another one, dunno how cos I won't have chance to be SAHM again and I'll feel like I'm depriving second one of what I gave first one. I'll be guilty my whole life.

Quite true...i struggled for a while (i AM a workaholic!) before deciding that being SAHM is the best option for having a second kid.

[winth]

Hi schellen,


Agree with jedamum. I would think that 1 child is far too little. From your posts and sashimi's, both are good parents, genuinely concerned for your children's well-being. How can things go too wrong when you guys are here to work things out?

It's Friday night. :love:

[schellen]

winth:

Hi schellen,


Agree with jedamum. I would think that 1 child is far too little. From your posts and sashimi's, both are good parents, genuinely concerned for your children's well-being. How can things go too wrong when you guys are here to work things out?

It's Friday night. :love:

So basically, as the Chinese say, \"When the ship comes to the bridge head, it will naturally become straight\"? (Alamak, Chief infected me! :?: )

[ChiefKiasu]

schellen:

...So basically, as the Chinese say, \"When the ship comes to the bridge head, it will naturally become straight\"? (Alamak, Chief infected me! :?: )

:? Ah... you are making the point that my direct translation of obscure Chinese phrases to English is below normal standards, yes? For a moment, I thought I passed you the brain-flu or something.

[cmm]

schellen:

jedamum:

[quote=\"sashimi\"] it's just that there is simply no assurance that our children can have a decent life in this world. It's all I can do to keep this single one safe and happy.

Hm...my take is, if you make the cut as a good parent, why deprive another child of your good genes and the upbringing environment? One is too little ah....

Sigh...if really have another one, dunno how cos I won't have chance to be SAHM again and I'll feel like I'm depriving second one of what I gave first one. I'll be guilty my whole life. :([/quote]I used to have the same thoughts as you...

But don't you think rather deprive the second one of what you gave first one than deprive him of a chance at life, yes?

JMHO.

[schellen]

cmm:

But don't you think rather deprive the second one of what you gave first one than deprive him of a chance at life, yes?


JMHO.

If I know second child is \"him\" waaay before \"he\" gets conceived, then there will be no second child. Now, if you can guarantee that my second child will be a \"her\", I will be 70% convinced to have a second one immediately. Sorry to all those who will tell me that a child is god's gift, boy or girl also my child, should not have favourites, etc. When it comes to my kids, I discriminate. (Oh, no point trying to get sashimi and my DD to convince me otherwise cos we all think alike.))

So, we're back to square one.

P.S.: If really I so suay got boy as second child, don't worry, he will still get my love, etc. But I will always favour my DD no matter how unfair it is to him.)

[schellen]

No problem, insider. Er, my DD not easy to take care of, you know. She was a 24-7 baby until we forced ourselves to \"train\" her to normal human schedule. Yes, must force cos will get lots of heart pain during process. DH also spoiled her rotten so with me alone, she behaved but anybody else join us for the outing or even just stay at home with us, I sure die of exhaustion and frustration that day. Luckily, the others were smart enough to figure this out so we took turns to spend time with her.


Although she adapted to normal human schedule, she only napped 15-30 minutes each time so I sped through my own shower and meals. I forgot how many times I had to go pick her up to soothe her while dripping wet or still chewing my food. The only way to calm her was to have her stuck to my breast, even while sleeping.

So, does that mean I will have a \"good\" baby if I have a second one?

[corneyAmber]

schellen:

If I know second child is \"him\" waaay before \"he\" gets conceived, then there will be no second child. Now, if you can guarantee that my second child will be a \"her\", I will be 70% convinced to have a second one immediately.

If you get some help from the doctor on your ovulation day, you can control the sex of your baby up to 80%. So if you are planning and want to increase your probability of getting a girl, monitor the ovulation timing. Actually, the probability of getting a boy is harder than getting a girl because the male sperms cannot survive as long as the female ones. So there is better hope to get a girl.... your second child dream is getting nearer...all the best.

[schellen]

ks2me:

If you get some help from the doctor on your ovulation day, you can control the sex of your baby up to 80%. So if you are planning and want to increase your probability of getting a girl, monitor the ovulation timing. Actually, the probability of getting a boy is harder than getting a girl because the male sperms cannot survive as long as the female ones. So there is better hope to get a girl.... your second child dream is getting nearer...all the best.

Thanks! I actually read up a lot about this topic online so it's not just the ovulation thing. Plus, my cycles are regularly irregular (my gynae's words). And ovulation sticks are soooo expensive. Is it sooo difficult and costly to make them?

By the way, by the time ovulation comes, it's already too late cos it's prime time for boys to spawn.

[corneyAmber]

insider:

schellen:

So, does that mean I will have a \"good\" baby if I have a second one?

Emmm... I actually had my third one after doing this 'computation'...

My first one when baby was like an angel (when woke up, would wait patiently for people to pick up with smiley face)...

My second one when baby would cry like thunder the moment he opened his eyes...

So, I thought I could 'afford' a third one who has a higher probablility of being a 'good' one. It turned out to be true, he is as good nature as his eldest. (meaning if my first one is 'bad', second one is 'good', then I might have stopped at 2 unless I was working towards 4 kids... kakaka...)

Mummies and daddies with two or more kids out there want to share the good-bad, bad-good, good-good, bad-bad, etc, 'computation' here?

I believe this computation is strangely accurate as I have seen it in my brother's kids as well as friends kids. good-bad-good and cases of good-bad and good-bad-good-bad. The one \"exception\" I know of is good-bad-miscarriage-bad again so it seems that miscarriages also count?