Games at NUS orientation camps sexualised
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If this is really happening, it should be investigated and the uni should put a stop to it. It is completely unacceptable.
This is the result of the overemphasis on academic results and the paucity of education on values. And it’s not just the fault of the education system. So many parents who should be teaching their children values are focusing only on their children’s academic results as well as their own jobs and leisure pursuits (‘hand phones’). The often unmonitored, easy access to the internet and social media that our kids ‘enjoy’ is also to blame.
When DS1 went to sec school, it was a bit of a shock to my system to hear about kids who clearly lacked so sorely in the areas of responsibility, honesty and integrity. And there is nothing in place to encourage any of them to change. The mindset now is to foster independence. Sometimes I think that is just an excuse by an overburdened system not to provide these impressionable teens with the supervision they need.
Bracing myself for worse in Uni, JC and army. -
I don’t know that it’s the emphasis on academic results. I believe it’s the legacy of "it was done to us, so let’s do it to the juniors" coupled with too much exposure to sexualised content these days. Possibly the fact that the guys have done NS may also have something to do with it? I have told my girls that if it ever happens to them, they should walk out and we will back them all the way.
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This seems an old issue…can’t the uni tell the organisers…one more complaint of such activity and you are expelled?? Obviously the school is failing the kids. Mine are boys - but I will be sure to tell them, feel free to walk out if these activities are offensive, NEVER be party to such harassing ways.
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slmkhoo, it’s good that you had that conversation with your kids.
And it’s not the emphasis on academic results as you have pointed out. What I mean is the OVER-EMPHASIS on academic results at the expense of values. Of course there are exceptions, but in general, I would say this is true of many Singapore youth and parents today. -
SpartanMum:
That, I agree. For many, all can be forgiven as long as the kids produce good grades.slmkhoo, it's good that you had that conversation with your kids.
And it's not the emphasis on academic results as you have pointed out. What I mean is the OVER-EMPHASIS on academic results at the expense of values. Of course there are exceptions, but in general, I would say this is true of many Singapore youth and parents today. -
hquek:
This seems an old issue...can't the uni tell the organisers...one more complaint of such activity and you are expelled?? Obviously the school is failing the kids. Mine are boys - but I will be sure to tell them, feel free to walk out if these activities are offensive, NEVER be party to such harassing ways.
Yes, I can't understand why this never seems to go away. Just tell the organisers that their grades will be reduced across the board, and I'm sure that should work. Or that they won't get good testimonials when they graduate and need to find a job. -
slmkhoo:
Orientation activities have committees. That hard to find who's at fault? Else, make the whole committee responsible for any such violations. Otherwise I am just going to believe that the universities don't give a hoot.hquek:
This seems an old issue...can't the uni tell the organisers...one more complaint of such activity and you are expelled?? Obviously the school is failing the kids. Mine are boys - but I will be sure to tell them, feel free to walk out if these activities are offensive, NEVER be party to such harassing ways.
Yes, I can't understand why this never seems to go away. Just tell the organisers that their grades will be reduced across the board, and I'm sure that should work. Or that they won't get good testimonials when they graduate and need to find a job. -
I am just amazed at how an entire organisation committee or the majority of their members can think that these games are appropriate. Even at JC level when we were planning orientation activities, we were mindful not to carry things too far and we are talking about getting someone’s uni dirty, not make them simulate such unspeakable acts.
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hquek:
Orientation activities have committees. That hard to find who's at fault? Else, make the whole committee responsible for any such violations. Otherwise I am just going to believe that the universities don't give a hoot.
As long as no strong official complaints are made, the universities would prefer to do nothing, I guess. After all, it's just a couple of weeks a year, they probably think. And a lot of students will prefer not to make an issue of it for fear of repercussions from seniors. It needs to be really blown up, with complaints to the police, the press, raised in parliament, names named etc. Just sack or suspend a couple of the perpetrators as an example, and the problem will be solved.
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