Is school allowed to cane my child?

[Gracious999]

Thank you ningy,


I had requested to sit in during the counselling, but the teacher said it is not necessary.

I will monitor my child and if he is still very depressed, I may seek help from outside counselling (not from the school).

[daisyt]

hi gracious999, my suggestion is for you to talk to John’s parent, to find out more in details what exactly has happened. Then, on another separate time, bring the two boys together, talk face to face in front of both parents. The objective here is to find out what exactly happened, from the parent’s view and from the children’s view. Sometimes, its just misunderstanding. Parents can see things differently from children and via versus.


Its also good to let both kids have a heart talk out, since they are still good friends.

My opinion is, fighting is quite a big offence in school. So the school would notify the parents during the first fight or injury and I am quite puzzled why 3 to 4 months later.

[ningy]

It’s great that ur son has taken the initiative to apologise and apology accepted. After the june holidays, everything can return to normal.

[hquek]

hi gracious999,


Time to open up those communication lines and show that family still stand by him as he learn to correct what he had done wrong. Depression could be a result of his friend ‘rejecting’ him. Show him where his self worth lies (eg if he does something particularly well) and that he is valuable in himself.

After going through my son’s tale, I would think your son case is a boyish thing esp since no damage was done. But he’ll have to learn to curb the physical tendency.

If I happened to me, I will insist that the teacher keep me informed on how the progress is like and what are the measures. And also tell the teacher this type of thing should not be left to fester too long becos I’m sure you are also concerned for the other kids (as well as yours). You may not be a good party to sit in cos your child may be stressed by your presence and not want to open up.

[Gracious999]

Thank you and appreciated all the advises given.


:thankyou:

[hquek]

hey gracious999,


All the best to you and your son!!! May the dark clouds pass over soon!

[Gracious999]

hquek,


Thank your support. I’m also feel very lousy myself to see my child so moody all day, he used to be very cheerful.

[ruyu]

Mine is worse. A few idiots who are unpopular and the worst in studies in my class(top) emotionally bullyme by changing my name and using very very very very very very bad words to change it zzzzzzz no one cares about them. Very like sia but my friends ask me not to care about them and beat them in PSLE. They want to go RI but some people in my class laugh at them , soo rude leh.