All About Autism

[sharonkhoo]

iyah122601\" post_id=\"2043352\" time=\"1634887021\" user_id=\"67289:

Hello good day to all, I have a 6 years old son diagnosed with ASD he is now currently attending EIPIC since last March. My son have a speech delay but he improves a lot when he attend the EIPIC.
However, the EIPIC pscyhologist assessed him the IQ test and sad to say that my boy got a poor IQ test result, in the end they advised us to put my boy in SPED school (Chaoyang). My son is deffered already in Primary One Mainstream next year. The EIPIC give us 2 options,

1. Go to SPED (Chaoyang) School by next year as Primary One or
2. continue EIPIC for next year (since he is deffered already) to prepare him to go Mainstream.

Any moms out there have this dilemma, any inputs can share to guide me to decide what is the best for my son.
Thank you so much

Without knowing a lot of details, perhaps you can consider another year of EIPIC to prepared for P1 mainstream, and if he doesn't seem ready at the end of next year, then apply for SPED school? Is that possible? Or do you have to decide now?

There are pros and cons for both routes. Some kids do manage in mainstream, but usually they have to be at the higher functioning end of the spectrum. Otherwise they will struggle to keep up, and may be bullied. If they need a lot of in-class or home support, and the school and home cannot provide it, they will find it hard and will probably fall behind. In SPED school, the pace is slower and the environment is kinder, but the child will not be exposed to mainstream school expectations. You have to try to forecast which is better for your child as there is no perfect solution.

[sharonkhoo]

Moved from the All about GEP thread:

Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2051216\" time=\"1639100269\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2051216 time=1639100269 user_id=195250]Wishing your DD all the best and plenty of success in her job!

We had advised the young mathematician to go for some kind of counselling before but he insisted that he was OK and only other people were unkind to him.[/quote]

Thanks! That's the problem when they are smart, and when they are not counselled and coached when they are younger. They need to realise that being smart doesn't mean they are good at everything, and it's not always the fault of everyone else (although it would be good if more could be kinder and more understanding). My daughter has got a job through SG Enable, and her employers are aware. Let's hope it works out well. Both SG Enable and the Autism Resource Centre have employment and coaching schemes.

[Liew Nga Wing]

slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2051225\" time=\"1639102015\" user_id=\"28674:

Moved from the All about GEP thread:

Thanks! That's the problem when they are smart, and when they are not counselled and coached when they are younger. They need to realise that being smart doesn't mean they are good at everything, and it's not always the fault of everyone else (although it would be good if more could be kinder and more understanding). My daughter has got a job through SG Enable, and her employers are aware. Let's hope it works out well. Both SG Enable and the Autism Resource Centre have employment and coaching schemes.

Thank you for the information and will forward to him later. The problem is - he is not my kids. He is just someone I met in some broadgames events before and don't know whether he will listen to me. :frustrated:

[sharonkhoo]

Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2051346\" time=\"1639149722\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2051346 time=1639149722 user_id=195250]
Thank you for the information and will forward to him later. The problem is - he is not my kids. He is just someone I met in some broadgames events before and don't know whether he will listen to me. :frustrated:[/quote]

Yes, that's a problem - he could get very offended. Maybe speak to the parents? I think you know them? If not, I suppose there is nothing much you can do. There was a series of articles in CNA recently which he might find interesting (if he is willing to consider the possibility that he is on the ASD spectrum):

https://www.channelnewsasia.com/cnainsider/invisible-struggle-people-high-functioning-autism-workplace-hire-1965121
https://www.channelnewsasia.com/cnainsider/high-functioning-autistic-man-quest-be-human-lifelong-disability-1965116

[YYmommy]

Hi I am looking for a playmate for my boy during weekend or school holiday. My son is 7 and attends Pathlight now. We live near Serangoon. We want to find him a friend who is either from mainstream or Pathlight. We feel sometimes he is bit lonely and too bored. Any parents interested please drop me a private message? Thanks!

[Estéema]

If u can, try a pet for yr child & playmate can join in to care for & teach tricks to pet

[Liew Nga Wing]

Estéema\" post_id=\"2055460\" time=\"1641950250\" user_id=\"66413:

If u can, try a pet for yr child & playmate can join in to care for & teach tricks to pet

We can talk to each other or play boardgames for a playmate / friend but a pet cannot talk and play boardgames with us. Moreover, the cost of keeping a pet at home may be high but we no need to pay for a playmate or friend. :roll:

[Estéema]

Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2055474\" time=\"1641953787\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2055474 time=1641953787 user_id=195250]
We can talk to each other or play boardgames for a playmate / friend but a pet cannot talk and play boardgames with us. Moreover, the cost of keeping a pet at home may be high but we no need to pay for a playmate or friend. :roll:[/quote]

S’times kids want sth small & cute they can handle. Of course there are costs involved even with playmates, u’ve social & moral obligations, which do translate to a cost at some point.

The value of a pet & the companionship it gives can’t be the measured with it’s intrinsic value to the emotional devpt of a child & the happiness it brings anytime. For a young child, adults hv to guide & support.

2 years back, we were locked down with WFH & HBL, kids can’t meet or play with classmates, peers or cousins. As a family, we tried engaging with boardgames till we’re all tired of it. Then we decided to get a pet & it’s no turning back. The child learns to take responsibility, engage in walking & playing catch as well as the ‘chore’ of feeding, oral care & bathing. We don’t want our child to miss childhood under a difficult pandemic nor turn to 24/7 tech geek & not able to relate to different forms of relationships. Just an opinion fr our experience. Granted not every family will opt for this.

[Liew Nga Wing]

Estéema\" post_id=\"2055478\" time=\"1641955315\" user_id=\"66413:

S’times kids want sth small & cute they can handle. Of course there are costs involved even with playmates, u’ve social & moral obligations, which do translate to a cost at some point.

The value of a pet & the companionship it gives can’t be the measured with it’s intrinsic value to the emotional devpt of a child & the happiness it brings anytime. For a young child, adults hv to guide & support.

My Parent and my DH never agree to get a pet at home and therefore I don't have any experience / happiness from pet and the funny part is all my and my DH siblings also never keep any pet at home before. :oops:

[Estéema]

Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2055481\" time=\"1641956515\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2055481 time=1641956515 user_id=195250]
My Parent and my DH never agree to get a pet at home and therefore I don't have any experience / happiness from pet and the funny part is all my and my DH siblings also never keep any pet at home before. :oops:[/quote]

I know. It was hard convincing DH for years! Over the years, we’ve seen some boys having developmental issues. DH was concerned but when the covid locked us all in, he acknowledged the need for a pet to help us. Eventually, DH gave in for the sake of sanity. Was thankful.