All About Full-Time Maids

[Estéema]

starlight1968sg\" post_id=\"2094656\" time=\"1673335633\" user_id=\"14025:

Tks ladies for sharing.
I am learning much from reading the posts.

I secretly pray and hope helper will not be returning. Then I can save some hassle and cost. Ok, am evil

I can u’stand yr concerns.

My Mynmar helper had not been home for the last 2 years & her mum lives alone in Yangon. She wld rather play it safe to stay in Spore come Feb when her contract is due for 3rd renewal. Past couple of years the country’s unrest & covid were the deterrence. Now, she’s still concern she’ll find it difficult to return if there’s any chances to the govt or the military govt tighten their rule.

I’ve converted the her airfare for her each year she chose to stay in SG & given her bonuses after each completion of contracts.

Upon renewal of each contract, I typically review her work with compliments of areas she did well & list areas she need to work on & get her acknowledgement & agmt to improve. She hv no desire to work with any other SG families as she’s very comfortable with us & took care of us within her ability. We trust her abit more each year with areas that she had nvr handled previously. I’m hoping she gets to go back next year at least to visit her mum when situation in Mynmar is clearer. I’ve always prepare myself & family to live w/o helper if sth changes.

[starlight1968sg]

Esteema

You are an excellent employer

[starlight1968sg]

We understand helpers’ long to return home to see their loved ones.


Anybody arranged helper’s family member to come to spore for a visit?

Would the procedure be easier as compared with helper returning to her home country and then back to work in spore?

[Estéema]

starlight1968sg\" post_id=\"2094694\" time=\"1673363481\" user_id=\"14025:

We understand helpers' long to return home to see their loved ones.

Anybody arranged helper's family member to come to spore for a visit?

Would the procedure be easier as compared with helper returning to her home country and then back to work in spore?

For Philippines, easier to arrange for family to holiday in SG. Not easy for Mynmar as they’ve to proof local contact of relatives they’re visiting & enuf cash when they’re exiting airport as their immigration need to sight hard cash.

As for Indonesian, typically the checkpoints will stall them till they hv sth extra to tip the staff to allow exit.

Think all foreigners entering SG will hv to hv a proper address & I don’t think u want to ‘harbour’ non-residents against HDB rules unless u hv a private property.

[clairebear]

Hi. How do you trust your helper with your 8mo baby?

[Estéema]

clairebear\" post_id=\"2095236\" time=\"1673921577\" user_id=\"130006:

Hi. How do you trust your helper with your 8mo baby?

I wld hv a grandparent supervise at home, as young baby taken care of by parents & by a young helper fr a diff country is nvr the same. There’s cultural differences which u may nvr accept. Just share an unrelated example for u to extrapolate - one Indo helper does not bring in clothes when it rains, coz in her kampong, they leave it as the sun will return to dry it again. I used to call out to my Vietnamese neigbor leaving her clothes in the yard even after I call out to her. She casually replied no worries. It’ll dry again.

My peer once hv a pino helper, who’ll put her pinky into her son’s mouth whenever he cries till she ran our patience dry forbading & we eventually sent her off.

We nvr let out helper touch our kids. They’ll help with house cleaning, handwash baby clothes, carry the baby stuff but we’ll carry our kids in arms on escalators or crossing the roads. We bathe our own babies & the bonding is marvelous. All the memories still lingers with their laughters.

Just sharing my own parenting experience & some observations for yr consideration.

[clairebear]

Estéema\" post_id=\"2095242\" time=\"1673927405\" user_id=\"66413:

I wld hv a grandparent supervise at homes young baby taken care of my parents & by a young helper fr a diff country is nvr the same. There’s cultural differences which u may nvr accept. Just share an unrelated example for u to extrapolate - one Indo helper does not bring in clothes when it rains, coz in her kampong, they leave it as the sun will return to dry it again. I used to call out to my Vietnamese neigbor leaving her clothes in the yard even after I call out to her. She casually replied no worries. It’ll dry again.

My peer once hv a pino helper, who’ll put her pinky into her son’s mouth whenever he cries till she ran out of patience forbading & sent her off.

We nvr let out helper touch our kids. They’ll help with house cleaning, handwash baby clothes, carry the baby stuff but we’ll carry our kids in arms on escalators or crossing the roads. We bathe our own babies & the bonding is marvelous. All the memories still lingers with their laughters.

Just sharing my own parenting experience & some observations for yr consideration.

Thanks for sharing! I am going back to work soon and my parents are both working as well. So we got to hire a helper. because i dont trust IFC as well

It just my issue. I have been observing my helper for 3 months now.

[starlight1968sg]

Install cctvs at home. They can act as deterrent and protect both parties

[clairebear]

Hi… just to rant. haizzzz


I went to work yesterday for the first time after my maternity leave and no paid leave. Just happened to open up the CCTV i had at home to see what my help and my baby was doing. I was shocked to see her feeding him solids at 4.30pm

Every single day we feed baby at noon and dinner time (6ish)

I quickly called my hubby. He immediately stopped her from feeding.

He told me over the phone that she said my baby wants to eat. —> (what rubbish is this? my 8mo baby told my helper that he wants to eat?)

seriously… i think cannot trust helper to take care of bb. She is just lazy. feeding him will allow her to sit and not carry him around.

VERY ANNOYED with her but i cant be too fierce or angry because i still need her to take care of him when i go off to work.

[starlight1968sg]

clairebear\" post_id=\"2095680\" time=\"1674198548\" user_id=\"130006:

Hi.. just to rant. haizzzz

I went to work yesterday for the first time after my maternity leave and no paid leave. Just happened to open up the CCTV i had at home to see what my help and my baby was doing. I was shocked to see her feeding him solids at 4.30pm

Every single day we feed baby at noon and dinner time (6ish)

I quickly called my hubby. He immediately stopped her from feeding.

He told me over the phone that she said my baby wants to eat. ---> (what rubbish is this? my 8mo baby told my helper that he wants to eat?)

seriously... i think cannot trust helper to take care of bb. She is just lazy. feeding him will allow her to sit and not carry him around.

VERY ANNOYED with her but i cant be too fierce or angry because i still need her to take care of him when i go off to work.

U paste a time-table for her to follow. Maybe u can call on specific hour to check if task ie feeding etc is done accordingly.

Explain to her that the baby is still very young and digestive system not fully developed. If anyhow feed, baby may be sick and maybe the helper will be investigated ...