Lied - Would you expose her???
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chamonix:
No lah, did not fret much, very busy with three kids and still have to share info with people so selfish. Anyway, her kid/other people exposed her lies. I just quietly understood \"Oh...so that's whats going on\". No offence
Studying hard secretly (or privately) is definitely not a problem. The problematic ones are those that mugged secretly but went around telling others there's no need to study etc.KingRascal:
Thought her act was pretty foolish as her child is bound to blurt it out some day...
To me, there is a difference between secrecy and deception. Our children are observing each and every of our acts. We have to ensure that we are setting a right standard for them to follow.
Those parents I know, haha, they don't even remember which (lie) version they have shared. I have learned to let them go and laugh over them with my hubby or friends.
Fettuccine:
Don't fret yourself over such incidents. Simply not worth the effort.
I thought I must be nuts to verify with someone over her claims. But lo and behold, she did lied. She had been very selfish, and I had my common expectation as she is a close confidante. That pretty much draws the line across. Anyway, I communicate less with her, and now feel so much merrier for being a lesser fool)
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fussyMummy:
Yeah, you got a point. But have lah, not all friends are bad eggs hehe. I am thankful I still have a circle of friends who are sincere. The case I talked about, is exceptional. Never met anyone else like that before.nowadays.. how many are really sincere? :?
Most of my buddies, from 20 years to mums of my kids' friends, are all truthful at heart. Nothing much to lie about...:-) -
auntieM:
Bravo who say KiasuParents.com is kiasu :rahrah: :rahrah: :rahrah:
Very well said fussyMummy.. ...fussyMummy:
nowadays.. how many are really sincere? :?
At least in KSP you can get more 'real' info.. ...
parents are children First teacher.................... -
chamonix:
So true!!! I had my fair share of such encounters when i was studying (even up to university level, we still have such liars around)
Studying hard secretly (or privately) is definitely not a problem. The problematic ones are those that mugged secretly but went around telling others there's no need to study etc.
People who tell you \"it's ok . i am failing this subject too\" or \"no need to mug over this chapter as I had checked w lecturer & lecturer hinted this is not a \"hot topic\" \" .....
End up topic came out and they aced.... Congratulations to them! -
KingRascal:
Hmmm I would have thought that for superKiasu parents like that, they would have made every attempt to \"condition the child\" what to say & what not to say...Thought her act was pretty foolish as her child is bound to blurt it out some day...
And usually such children , constantly under such intensed pressure by their parents to outperform themselves & to watch what they say, do become very withdrawn & quiet...so chances are they may not blurt it out but instead \"bottle it up\" or they may only share it with a close friend. Very sad but i believe it happens.
Have you noticed if the child has become quieter?
BTW, can i kaypoh? is this sport swimming? no need to answer if not convenient. Like I said, I was kaypoh-ing only
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Personally I will not expose the lies…Let them be.
We are not paid to give them a free tuitions as in lesson in life. -
Have PM you...
maisy:
Hmmm I would have thought that for superKiasu parents like that, they would have made every attempt to \"condition the child\" what to say & what not to say...KingRascal:
Thought her act was pretty foolish as her child is bound to blurt it out some day...
And usually such children , constantly under such intensed pressure by their parents to outperform themselves & to watch what they say, do become very withdrawn & quiet...so chances are they may not blurt it out but instead \"bottle it up\" or they may only share it with a close friend. Very sad but i believe it happens.
Have you noticed if the child has become quieter?
BTW, can i kaypoh? is this sport swimming? no need to answer if not convenient. Like I said, I was kaypoh-ing only -
It definitely appears to me as \"un-coordinated\"...the child seems to be very innocent and tells us everything. I'm still waiting for that moment...but she could have warned him to stay \"hush-hush\"
since then as well.
Something else happened after that that allows me to conclude more about the parent's competitive nature. But I think I shall not update any further as it could be sensitive if she reads this website too and...
It's a personal choice that one makes for his/her children. So long as we know what we want we would not be swayed or influenced by how others are grooming their children. Of course at times we do feel a little sad when we see our child not doing as well as the rest due to difference in their training commitment, we have to do our part to cultivate the right mindset in my child to understand and to cope with the situation with the right frame of mind.
And I have always tell him to let me know when he's ready to take on more. I would not force him in this aspect.maisy:
Hmmm I would have thought that for superKiasu parents like that, they would have made every attempt to \"condition the child\" what to say & what not to say...KingRascal:
Thought her act was pretty foolish as her child is bound to blurt it out some day...
And usually such children , constantly under such intensed pressure by their parents to outperform themselves & to watch what they say, do become very withdrawn & quiet...so chances are they may not blurt it out but instead \"bottle it up\" or they may only share it with a close friend. Very sad but i believe it happens.
Have you noticed if the child has become quieter?
BTW, can i kaypoh? is this sport swimming? no need to answer if not convenient. Like I said, I was kaypoh-ing only -
Erm, I thought this is the most common type of people? During my school days, there would be some who claimed that they didn’t have time to study, sure fail etc… Then it turned out they always topped the class. And from certain sources, these were the very ones who secretly requested for past year papers/notes from seniors and mugged away for exams …
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I understand nowadays that these people are called "closet Muggers",commonly used in JC to label classmates.
Rgds -
Like swimmers they have to practice almost every day (May be except weekend) so as to perform well. How to believe that they never practice and yet can always break record?
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