Childcare or no Childcare?

[DesertWind]

Awonder:

Hi, my ds was 23th mth and had been in the ccc for almost a month. Till now, he still cry when I bought him in but had start to settle down better. Another thing that worry us now is he caught flu easily and also had fever twice. Wonder shd I continue to put him in ccc, feel guilty to see him suffer and more so since I'm a SAHM. My maid had just left and had decided not to engage another one and I still had 2 more elders ds & dd in P3 & P1.


I'm in a dilemma now, shd continue or stop as I understand at his age, he is bounce to get sick easily, on the other hand worry if I could cope with him around. At least in ccc, it would free me up for a few hr to do up all the chores and checking the Sch work of the 2 elders. Shd I persist for another month or so?

Appreciate some advices.

Hi Awonder,
Just sharing as a parent myself with experience sending my boy into ccc (now coming to 4 yo) last time.
At 23 months, your DS still very young! Last time I started my boy around this time into a ccc too. Good thing he stopped crying by 3rd day, otherwise I would have quit! He kerna HFMD after 2 months at the CCC too! You mention the ccc not very stimulating. This is not good especially for boys. It may/will affect his development. I placed my boy at the CCC for 6 months until he was 2-1/2 yo and really regret it because he withdrawn within himself.

Of course not all kids the same and yours may not turn out like this.
But base on what you said that after one month still crying, I would say keep your DS at home with you until he is older. Perhaps wait for another 6 months or so?

Most importantly, what is your gut-feel? If you feel really bad, guilty, uncomfortable etc, don't force yourself, just keep your DS at home and try to work around your home schedule etc. for the next 3-6 months until your DS more ready to go ccc again!

[Monster Mummy]

Hi,

I agreed with Desertwind. Just to share on my view, if kids keep falling sick. Basically, they does not pick up any learning and might result them more withdrawn and scared of going ccc.

[Awonder]

Hi Desertwind and monster mummy, thanks for your advice. Desertwind, glad that you had observe the difference in your boy’s behaviours and pull him out of ccc, hope he is an active and smart boy now.


I had inform the principals but had to give 1 mth notice to withdraw him from ccc, so hope he can quickly adapt to the ccc or else I really don’t know what to do if he keeps crying. Today, he start crying even before I carry him out of the car.

[DesertWind]

Awonder:

Hi Desertwind and monster mummy, thanks for your advice. Desertwind, glad that you had observe the difference in your boy's behaviours and pull him out of ccc, hope he is an active and smart boy now.


I had inform the principals but had to give 1 mth notice to withdraw him from ccc, so hope he can quickly adapt to the ccc or else I really don't know what to do if he keeps crying. Today, he start crying even before I carry him out of the car.

Hi Awonder,

Actually I was a stupid first-time mummy (also FTWM) and did not really notice anything until his ccc teacher told us! Got a shock and then after talking to my hubby and maid, they too think he seems to be getting more quiet.

Now he is OK, active and happy in a kindergarten. But his speech is delayed hence it is a concern for us now.

Anyway, since my boy speech delayed, he will show us through otherways if he does not want to go to school, like refuse to get out of the car etc. Of course as adults and much stronger than them we can always carry them or force them to move. But perhaps a much better way is to be really sensitive to what they are trying to tell us with their actions and give them a break.

As for giving one-month notice to the ccc, basically it would just be to forfeit the deposit. But do what you think you can handle as well Awonder. Take care!

[Monster Mummy]

DesertWind:

Hi Awonder,

Actually I was a stupid first-time mummy (also FTWM) and did not really notice anything until his ccc teacher told us! Got a shock and then after talking to my hubby and maid, they too think he seems to be getting more quiet.

Now he is OK, active and happy in a kindergarten. But his speech is delayed hence it is a concern for us now.

Anyway, since my boy speech delayed, he will show us through otherways if he does not want to go to school, like refuse to get out of the car etc. Of course as adults and much stronger than them we can always carry them or force them to move. But perhaps a much better way is to be really sensitive to what they are trying to tell us with their actions and give them a break.

As for giving one-month notice to the ccc, basically it would just be to forfeit the deposit. But do what you think you can handle as well Awonder. Take care!

Hi DesertWind,

Sorry for this question, is the child has faced with delay speech before 3 years old. If that the case, some kids might delay a bit so the family can try to teach him by usual communication. There is no worry, if there is still worry. You can try to talk to the teacher in the kindgertan.

[GapOf15]

I started CC for my DD2 when she was 3.5 years old and now she is 5.


Before: Healthy, confident, sensitive, caring and speak only Ebglish.

After : Sick almost every other month, caught with HFM once, lack confident, less sensitive and still speak only English.

What worry me most is that, she is not at all prepared for P1.

[Kissgurami]

GapOf15:

I started CC for my DD2 when she was 3.5 years old and now she is 5.


Before: Healthy, confident, sensitive, caring and speak only Ebglish.

After : Sick almost every other month, caught with HFM once, lack confident, less sensitive and still speak only English.

What worry me most is that, she is not at all prepared for P1.

Sick every other month...? How does the CC handles sick kids, do they allow sick children to come to CC..? Current CC doesn't allow kids with fever to enter the CC, any spots on the body and they will call to have your kid brought to a doctor to check. Need doctor's letter to certify that your child is ok to attend CC. Parents also play a part, if your kid is coughing badly, best to stay at home as it will spread to other children.

CC separates the child if she's not feeling well. He or she will be in the principal's room to rest.

Your DD2 is 2006 right :)? Don't worry, she's k1 and it is still early to be ready for P1. My DD2 is nowhere even K2 standard , still in her little dreamland

[DesertWind]

Monster Mummy:

Hi DesertWind,

Sorry for this question, is the child has faced with delay speech before 3 years old. If that the case, some kids might delay a bit so the family can try to teach him by usual communication. There is no worry, if there is still worry. You can try to talk to the teacher in the kindgertan.

Hi Monster Mummy,
My boy now coming to 4 yo already but still not very verbal/conversational. He is starting to say more and more words and 2 or 3 words and we have just put him on weekly speech therapy to learn how to talk to him and encourage him to speak up more!

Have spoken to his kindy teachers but I don't think they can help much. Either they say they are too busy handling their large class size or straight-away say they are not trained to handle \"such kids\". :sad:

Am still a sotong mummy praying each day to have more wisdom to be able to make good decisions and know what to do to help my kid!

[DesertWind]

GapOf15:

I started CC for my DD2 when she was 3.5 years old and now she is 5.


Before: Healthy, confident, sensitive, caring and speak only Ebglish.

After : Sick almost every other month, caught with HFM once, lack confident, less sensitive and still speak only English.

What worry me most is that, she is not at all prepared for P1.

Oh dear, any plans for you to change CC or something?

I recently visited a CCC because I was also toying with the idea of putting my boy into full day CCC for him to be \"independant\". That CCC was full house and quite popular with a waiting list. But the kids there most of them look so miserable with red eyes (look like just stopped crying) and/or with running nose.

Feel quite heart-pain because at their young age (pre-N or N), I am sure what they want most is to be at home with their mummies!

So dropped the idea lor since I have maid at home to look after my boy (also not an ideal situation I know!).

I know a lot of parents have got no choice but to send kid to full-day CCC but really pity the young kids!
:grphug:

[Monster Mummy]

DesertWind:

Hi Monster Mummy,
My boy now coming to 4 yo already but still not very verbal/conversational. He is starting to say more and more words and 2 or 3 words and we have just put him on weekly speech therapy to learn how to talk to him and encourage him to speak up more!

Have spoken to his kindy teachers but I don't think they can help much. Either they say they are too busy handling their large class size or straight-away say they are not trained to handle \"such kids\". :sad:

Am still a sotong mummy praying each day to have more wisdom to be able to make good decisions and know what to do to help my kid!

Hi DesertWind,

No worry, be strong as some kids develop in slower pace for certain skills. For my boy, his speech also a bit delay in the early stage but now he keep on talking non-stop. As a parent, we will try our means and ways to support them.