How do you maintain your relationship with your spouse?
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ksme:
:thankyou: so much for sharing this!!! I've been very troubled cos I thought I was facing serious communication problem in my marriage. Was feeling very depressed for quite some time. Thought my marriage was heading downhill.Received the following from friend recently. Very thought provoking.
...都太執著用「自己」的方法愛對方，而不是用「對方」的方式愛另一半。自己累得半死，對方還感受不到，最後面對婚姻的期待，也就灰心而死了。
既然上帝創造婚姻，我想，每個人都值得擁有一個好婚姻，只要方法用對，作「對方要的﹗」而非自己「想給的﹗」
好婚姻，絕對是可預期的。
After reading this article, it was like 一言惊醒梦中人!!! Bull's eye! So this is what it is all about! It is quite similar to the 5 love languages from Gary Chapman. I've just started reading that book. I feel so relieved now cos I finally understand that it's something that can be solved.
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I ask my hb: How to improve our marriage life?"
My hb reply: if u think our marriage life got prob…go see a counsellor…
HAIZ…I give up toking to him! -
some guys are just hopeless in upkeeping romance… I told my galfriend who confided me in her dull marriage "to treat husband like a furniture at home; it’s there, it’s useful yet hopeless in sweet-talking". She was appalled! But my hb is good to change lightbulbs, mend broken stuffs, buy groceries, help out at home –> love in different language.
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Check this out. Quite interesting. Got my DH and DD to try too!
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/love/ -
Seems that once marriage grows longer, communication seems harder…and especially so with kids… 有心无力!! So tiring…and no help to
"park" the kids and cant leave kids alone with maid… -
I’ve seen couples in restaurant having meals…both doing their own things…like reading or playing with handphone…then food came and ate quietly…quite sad right?
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Q) how do i maintain my relationship with my spouse?
MyA) lots of jokes, teasing, smses, eat together (at least dinner), go to bed at the same time, go to the door to greet when one leaves/reaches home, leave troubles at work at the doorstep before entering (having said that, my dh is a totally different person at work and at home; and i told him that i won't want to work with/under him) -
Going to bed at the same is important. I agree with what jedamum says. I used to go to
bed much later than hubby and it did put a strain on our relationship as it felt as
though we were both living separate lives. I try to go to bed earlier nowadays so
can catch up with him before we sleep also.
Taking short breaks together is also great for us. Like this weekend we are going
to jb for short break to relax and spend time together. Sometimes we also
go to spas on his off days. That is also considered a mini holiday for us.
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I tink this will work unless your kids are old enough or you hv somewhere to park the kids …
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That’s true. Good thing I have my mum who can help out sometimes. Those who have
no one to help may need to wait till kids are older.
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