Mummy autumnbronze's random sharings

[buds]

autumnbronze:

hi qmx, thx.


With regards to whether I have a maid. Yes, but there is the BUT.... which is, she is merely an assistant who does the household chores and babysits when I really can't be with my boy. When my DH returns from work, he spends time with him. We do not leave him alone with the maid unless really really can't make alternative arrgements. That said, we come back really fast. Simple things like paying bills thru AXS machines, DH brings him, so much so that it has become a ritual for him and he looks forward to it My in-laws are v v kind because they offer to spend time with him when I need to go out.

I am the primary caregiver of my son, I do the cooking and other things like marketing (I do it alone) etc besides housework. I have a sensitive nose and it reacts easily. The decision to have a live-in maid only came abt when boy was 3 mths plus. My hubby is a stickler for cleanliness and with the new baby ....

I am v v fortunate cuz the I don't hve major (only minor ones which can be overlooked or explained to her nicely) complaints abt my maid. She doesn't skive in her work and my boy adores her and vice versa. The only grouse :x i hve is that she 'nicks'(she does put them back) my brand new magazines almost evrytime even before I can read them. But I look the other way cuz she is taking good care of him and does not have an off day.

After reading all of the above, i can honestly say that your life is
waaaaayyy more breezy, girl!!! You're one of the lucky few to hv
such good life : ie. cook ILs... (important)... supportive and loving
husband + hands on father (very important).... an un-problematic
helper that you can depend on ( Bliss... :please: ) The housework
keeps us too busy most times.. A definite disadvantage.. :roll:
Don't do nobody will do it for you.. It'll just pile lor. :lol:

So, i agree with you. You're extremely fortunate. :celebrate:

[autumnbronze]

hey qms,


Will join the maids discussion threads. But I think many may not subscribe to our views abt handling the maid.

Basically, we take a v patient and passive approach - meaning look away, subtly take over or tell her nicely there and then when she commits a minor error, then wait till the right time to explain to her nicely - which is when I/DH am doing it so that we can be a role model - then we take the opportunity to explain the rationale behind our actions and the consequences of her actions to her.

Her EL is quite good, therefore this method works. Also, she is here for a purpose, she is saving up money to buy land back in Indo. So I think that is why she is motivated to work. Though she can get moody at times. This patience of mine towards my helper, believe me, had to be cultivated over a period of time. I always bear in mind that she is taking care of my son. That to a certain extent, keeps me in check whenever I am annoyed at her mistakes, because my son is only 2 yrs old. Have heard and seen too many horror stories abt helpers who go ‘rogue’.

We do not set too many rules. we prefer to show by example because they can be quite inflexible and have a one track mind, and stick to the rules v rigidly. Will contribute in the maid thread lah. If not, this will be nverending.

[autumnbronze]

Hey buds,


Yes I know that I am fortunate. But there is a price to pay when you get your in-laws v v involved in the upbringing of your child because of the v v different ideas of bringing up the child.

I don’t want to go into it, but one example was the issue of bfeeding my baby. If you’ve had an issue with this, then you’ll understand what I am talking abt. Am glad that I can at least rant it out to DH.

Also, DH comes from extended family, so there are always comment, comments and more comments. But I have learnt to let go 99.9% of the time because they are his grdparents/uncles and they love him v much. Also, they are v good to me too. I am grateful cuz they are in their sixties and have aches and pains but they so willingly spend time with him.

[autumnbronze]

Hey qms,


Yes, my son is currently attending a parent accompanied Mandarin playgrp 2x a week and parent accompanied gym 1x a week.

[schweppes]

Wah, Autumnbronze, you GrandMaster 1, now :lol:


:rahrah: :congrats: :rahrah:

[BigDevil]

:congrats: autumnbronze.


While I'm struggling to get to the half way point.... :lol:

[qms]

:congrats: to Autumnbronze!

[Andaiz]

congratulations, autumnbronze.... :rahrah:

[BlurBee]

:congrats: autumnbronze!

[tankee]

hi Autumnbronze


:rahrah: :congrats: :rahrah: