Extra Marital Affair
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Getting divorce very easy mah?
heard that so many paper works, going here and there to meet the lawyer, being interrogated as if like a criminal. Looks like the children will suffer. -
deminc:
:grphug:mummy of three:
I’m somewhat in the same situation as you. Are you really happy? Did you really forgive him? I look at him and he feel like a total stranger to me. I kept calm too. Just to “save face” in front of everyone else. But in my heart, he’s no longer the one he used to be…
:hugs: I understand what u mean. -
What if husband has sexual needs but wife keeps pushing him away? For months he was deprived of his needs and resorted to masturbation until he met one who is willIng to satisfy his needs? Or even resort to commercial sex if he can’t find one? Is man to be blamed because of his needs and wife depriving his needs?
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Be an adult, have a frank discussion, and lay down the cards. If it is so important, there is no need to sweep it under the carpet or act secretively. We are adults, act like adults.
As one of my gfs who divorced said to her ex - "if you have a problem with me, tell me in my face and let’s see what we can do. You don’t run off and do things behind my back." For the record, she is a beautiful bombshell cum career woman, but the husband couldn’t do it in bed. When she asked him to go for counselling together he refused because he has already taken up with a younger girl with the help of viagra.
Don’t take on a victim or matyr complex. Nobody appreciates it and nobody benefits from it. Frank discussion is better than deception. With frankness you can clarify your priorities and move forward, be it divorce, open marriage, counselling or making more efforts.
If you are afraid to bring things out to the open, remember that through deception, you are already setting a time-bomb on your relationship anyway. -
friendship:
Divorce is not easy. It affects people's life beyond the two adults. So let's salute all those who left bad marriages in order to protect their children from physical, emotional abuse, or financial ruin.Getting divorce very easy mah?
heard that so many paper works, going here and there to meet the lawyer, being interrogated as if like a criminal. Looks like the children will suffer.
Divorce should not be the easy way out. But it is sanctioned because sometimes, marriage partners DO need a way out, sometimes children ARE better off without one irresponsible parent. Children need good ROLE MODELS from both sexes, unfortunately not all adults are good role models.
One of my son's classmates' parents divorced last year. He said she used to cry in class last year. This year she is more cheerful and both parents have remarried. She is glad that her parents don't quarrel all the time anymore.
For those who stay together \"for the children\", make sure it is really good for the children. Do not turn around on difficult days and say to them \"I did all this for you, I suffered for you\", because this is unfair emotional blackmail. If it's \"for the children\", clarify that your spouse is indeed a good parent and then work on strengthening the relationship because you want to go on being a family. -
LostInWoods:
What if husband has sexual needs but wife keeps pushing him away? For months he was deprived of his needs and resorted to masturbation until he met one who is willIng to satisfy his needs? Or even resort to commercial sex if he can't find one? Is man to be blamed because of his needs and wife depriving his needs?
Warnings:
If you cheat on your partner it will ruin your own life, so make sure to always be honest with your spouse!
Always listen carefully. Some fights ruin the life even both sides do not know the cause of the fight.
Communication is the key to a relationship. One should feel free to discuss all things with out fear of repercussion at any time.
All issues need to have a solution and be resolved at the time of the conversation. Finish what you start other wise things just hang in the balance,which leads to future problems.
Learn to know one another understand you are not the same get to know eachother and the way they are. Respect that we are all individuals.
http://www.wikihow.com/Live-a-Happy-Married-Life
101 Ways To Tell Your Wife, \"I Love You\"
http://blessedmommy.hubpages.com/hub/101ways2sayiloveyou-wife
Married Women Hate Sex
http://www.momlogic.com/2008/09/sexless_marriage_surv -
LostInWoods:
What if husband has sexual needs but wife keeps pushing him away? For months he was deprived of his needs and resorted to masturbation until he met one who is willIng to satisfy his needs? Or even resort to commercial sex if he can't find one? Is man to be blamed because of his needs and wife depriving his needs?
Would it be ok then for the wife to turn to another man because she is not getting her emotional needs met by her husband? Because the husband fail to see what is the issue between them, the reason why intimacy is becoming a problem for them? -
LostInWoods:
What if husband has sexual needs but wife keeps pushing him away? For months he was deprived of his needs and resorted to masturbation until he met one who is willIng to satisfy his needs? Or even resort to commercial sex if he can't find one? Is man to be blamed because of his needs and wife depriving his needs?
That is precisely the reason one of my wife's colleague keep harassing her, said his wife never give him he very poor thing & trying very hard to ask wife to go for lunch, or drink after work. Wifey never bother abt him & told me everything. fyi his wife just gave birth 2 months ago.
what I cannot understand is why he married his wife in the first place, and since the wife just gone through the hardship of giving birth (his kid) - why dont he spend more time to take care both the wife & newborn, instead flirting around with other married woman. :mad: what a baxxxxx -
When the love is gone, whatever you do or don’t do is "shit" to the other person.
Doesn’t matter whether there is valid or no valid reason as the other person simply does not want to understand anymore.
Everybody chooses his or her own life.
Nobody can tell you what or what not to do.
You are guided by your own beliefs and teachings.
If you think that SEX is the biggest deal, so be it.
It only goes to show that your brain is linked to "you know where" only.
All husbands or wives, yes it is always tough when the children comes.
If your partner shows you the understanding and helps you with the upbringing, you are lucky you have found the right person.
It is only when the going gets tough that the tough gets going.
Thus when the going is tough and you don’t help out to last the ride, sorry to say you are just not mature enough to handle children. You ought to have remain as children.
Parenting is a learning process, don’t expect one party to handle all the job when it takes two to create.
Sorry just ranting.
Don’t need to agree or disagree
Cheers -
cfan:
Hhahhaahhhh cfan well said :hi5:When the love is gone, whatever you do or don't do is \"shit\" to the other person.
Doesn't matter whether there is valid or no valid reason as the other person simply does not want to understand anymore.
Everybody chooses his or her own life.
Nobody can tell you what or what not to do.
You are guided by your own beliefs and teachings.
If you think that SEX is the biggest deal, so be it.
It only goes to show that your brain is linked to \"you know where\" only.
All husbands or wives, yes it is always tough when the children comes.
If your partner shows you the understanding and helps you with the upbringing, you are lucky you have found the right person.
It is only when the going gets tough that the tough gets going.
Thus when the going is tough and you don't help out to last the ride, sorry to say you are just not mature enough to handle children. You ought to have remain as children.
Parenting is a learning process, don't expect one party to handle all the job when it takes two to create.
Sorry just ranting.
Don't need to agree or disagree
Cheers
some of us just dont want to grow up
and want everything for ourselves ...they make the worse spouse...
take all the time donno how to give...
a relationship take 2 to clap....
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