In-law problems?
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fifiyeo:
They are so nice infront of others but yet you know they are not treating you nice from the bottom of their hearts. :torchme:PILs are not rude. Sarcastic and says things that you can obviously read between lines but at the same time like so friendly and innocent. Backstabs and tells lies behind you. Presents you with gifts on big occassions...
Poisonous snakes! -
fifiyeo:
mmm, yes thats what they always do to me then, abused me and yes pretend it never happen or worse \"black face \" at me as if i am the one that was wrong.Yah ning ning, some PILs are like that. They think they can abuse you by saying whatever they want. Then pretend they never did anything wrong.
Anway, so many quarrels recently over at my side. So sian!
SIL somemore used to tell my DH do not believe me coz i am a \"Big Liar\" .....Me and my DH work together daily then oh..i lie to backstab her ...how? with my DH with me all the time and i manage to lie? i got better things to do then to take \"revenge\" on her. Crazy! As usual My DH ignored and told her not to be so “无聊”。Then we countdown, coz less than 15 minutes, the FIL would call first and followed closely by MIL's call separately to \"bomb\" us for \"bullying\" their princess. And if we defend ourselves, MIL will go into a crazy state, she will yell ,curse viciously over our life and cry loudly over phone. As usual, At this crazy stage, We do not need to reason with her anymore but remain silent, coz she will just continue to yell and cry without listening to you. If we chose to hang off silently first, she will complaint we rude. All these , all these all becoz of just only a single lie from that SIL to smear us.
Well, now i no longer have to go through all those \"yelling and cursing\" anymore. But even without me now, siblings still quarrel. The point is before our marriage, they also often quarrel.
But i have to confess here \"i will forever hate that SIL\", the hatred is so deep that i forever will not want to see her \"face\" for my remaining years. -
My MIL and SIL popped by sometime around my birthday (waiting to be included for some outing / treats?)... but instead, my daughter chided them for not bringing me presents and cakes, and always come empty handed, blah blah blah where is the present for my mommy birthday??? I would agree that my daughter can be very rude with them - but since they let her get away with murder, why do I bother being the bad guy? :imanangel:
So anyway, the following day, my SIL came bearing half a dozen of those sugar cream decorated cup cakes! :rotflmao: -
Ningning: Don’t hate and don’t be angry (not for too long, at least). Those two takes up a lot of space in our minds and hearts, and unfortunately, they are difficult to be contained - so it radiates and affects people that we love and care for. I will never like my MIL or SIL, but sometimes I just pity their behaviour and state. Hate is too strong, and hate will only eat into myself and make me unable to be the true person I am. So I put them in one corner… but they are not worth me compromising my true self. I try very hard to be positive and happy.
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straffan23:
Ningning: Don't hate and don't be angry (not for too long, at least). Those two takes up a lot of space in our minds and hearts, and unfortunately, they are difficult to be contained - so it radiates and affects people that we love and care for. I will never like my MIL or SIL, but sometimes I just pity their behaviour and state. Hate is too strong, and hate will only eat into myself and make me unable to be the true person I am. So I put them in one corner... but they are not worth me compromising my true self. I try very hard to be positive and happy.
Dear straffan23,
Unfortunately, till now i still hate them coz at one point they had made my life so misery then i was so tired that i told my DH let me go. At point of my life then, i just badly wanted to be alone. But also at the same time god has blessed me a girl too. So i was determined to stay put then. I set up my own tiny business when my girl can attend childcare thus breaking away from the evils.
I wish i can be like you.... but i cannot coz there is too much tears, fear(coz our main income comes from that family business) and very humiliating, heartaching moments. I can never forget the \"winner look\" of my SIL when ever we took scoldings from PILs coz of her. All those fightings that involve umbrellas, cane , throwings of things at us, curse our baby dead, scold me slut and so much more........ throughout my this life, i can never forget.
I fought hard and now i have my peaceful life with my girl and hubby. As long as i do not see anyone of them, i am happy enough.
Thanks......yes..Be happy....
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Whinypooh:
The way she sides HER kids is unbearable. In front of her, I will not say anything. Don't want to waste my time listening to her crap. Double head snake...behind hubby's back, her HORNS appear. In front of him, she acts like an angel.
They are so nice infront of others but yet you know they are not treating you nice from the bottom of their hearts. :torchme:fifiyeo:
PILs are not rude. Sarcastic and says things that you can obviously read between lines but at the same time like so friendly and innocent. Backstabs and tells lies behind you. Presents you with gifts on big occassions...
Poisonous snakes! -
janet_lee88:
The way she sides HER kids is unbearable. In front of her, I will not say anything. Don't want to waste my time listening to her crap. Double head snake...behind hubby's back, her HORNS appear. In front of him, she acts like an angel.[/quote] :udawoman:
They are so nice infront of others but yet you know they are not treating you nice from the bottom of their hearts. :torchme:Whinypooh:
[quote=\"fifiyeo\"]PILs are not rude. Sarcastic and says things that you can obviously read between lines but at the same time like so friendly and innocent. Backstabs and tells lies behind you. Presents you with gifts on big occassions...
Poisonous snakes!
I didnt really read all the prev posts so not sure what exactly happened.
But if yr PILs really ever tried to hit u or harm u, and worse, curse your baby, then you have made a wise choice to draw a line with them. -
LOLMum:
In-laws will always side with their child (your spouse), regardless of how good a relationship you have with them.
My PILs don't even side with DH. They even sabo him to play politics at home!! -
fifiyeo:
Yes, mine too. PILs never once side my DH, worse they even side BIL rather my DH...thats why things fall so apart in that household.LOLMum:
In-laws will always side with their child (your spouse), regardless of how good a relationship you have with them.
My PILs don't even side with DH. They even sabo him to play politics at home!!
My PILs should attend parenting couselling course if theres any. They badly need it ........sigh...but it wont make any difference or mend any broken relationships already as irreversibe damage already been done. -
My son was born with cleft. They didn’t have anything nice to say. But what I do know is, it is not a punishment to my family…son doesn’ bear my surname. Thank goodness, his cleft has been repaired…my son doesn’t like his paternal grandmother for her fake concern. He squirms each time she approaches him. I didn’t say anything.
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