All About Working With Children Who Are Weak Academically

[mummy so kiasu]

concernmother:

Thanks Cherrygal, mummy of three, ksi, kwcllf. Thanks for the advises. Got her tuition for some subjects. Hopefully she will buck up and catch up with her work. Funny thing is that, she has the intention to do well but her will-power is not strong enough. She will come home with the intention of doing so and so HW, revise so and so subjects. However, only half done at the end of the day. She knows she has to set a timetable and she knows well that she has to set a target.....but...

Guess you all are right. Probably she is too comfortable, don't know what is hardship. But i have seen children, who come from comfortable home, wealthy family, doing very well on their own and very focus. Why my kid is not like this?
So many times I want to give up. But sigh....mother nature..so difficult to do that.

I can understand how you feel. Don't give up on her, she is too young to know the consequences. Try sending her to a motivation camp & get her to read some inspiration or motivation books.

[thetinyseed]

My DS is now 15, and still as laid back as ever! I told her, if she were any more laid back, people would think she’s dead! And she can laugh!


Tried carrots, sticks, bribes, everything - pep talk, sweet talk, even threats. Now, i just don’t look. Today, just spent 30 mins reading some notes, and she announces she’s done with her revision for the day! OMG! And she spent the whole of yesterday at USS with her friends!

Sometimes, i try to look on the bright side. Well, she’s not stressed like most other kids, right? Dark side: I’m the one so stressed! Sigh!

The trouble is, I know she is able to do well if she tries, but she thinks it’s too much hard work. I’ve seen her do very well, only to fail miserably in the next exam.

I can only brace myself for what is to come next.

[mummy so kiasu]

sleepy:

rains:

I finally found someone who shares the same situation!


My girl is also a slow coach: slow in eating, bathing, changing clothes, settling down to study, if she's gone out for enrichment lesson, the day is as good as gone. Even on normal school days, she takes 3 hours to settle herself down before starting to do work.

With a child like that, we can only resign ourselves to fate.

Precisely! Our girls are exactly the same!

We mummies 同病相怜 :hugs:

My girl is more super. Slow in eating, doing homework and settling down to study. She also got distracted easily and can't focus. I have to keep her company until 12pm almost every day to make sure she finishes her homework before she goes to bed. However, she can talk fast and talk a lot. She can also play fast and play a lot. :slapshead:

[rains]

Same same! When it comes to reading storybooks or play computer games, my girl is super on-task, but she is easily distracted when it comes to studying!


I think such kids share common traits lah ie. selective slowness in tasks they do not delight in.

mummy so kiasu:

sleepy:

[quote=\"rains\"]I finally found someone who shares the same situation!

My girl is also a slow coach: slow in eating, bathing, changing clothes, settling down to study, if she's gone out for enrichment lesson, the day is as good as gone. Even on normal school days, she takes 3 hours to settle herself down before starting to do work.

With a child like that, we can only resign ourselves to fate.

Precisely! Our girls are exactly the same!

We mummies 同病相怜 :hugs:

My girl is more super. Slow in eating, doing homework and settling down to study. She also got distracted easily and can't focus. I have to keep her company until 12pm almost every day to make sure she finishes her homework before she goes to bed. However, she can talk fast and talk a lot. She can also play fast and play a lot. :slapshead:[/quote]

[Edureach]

All these traits fit in exactly as the one i have at home, my dd.


She is now at jc2. During psle 2006, she was slag in her studies, i had no choice but to dsa her to a girls’ school. She chiong only 3 wks from psle and surprised me and my wife with her T-score.

From yr 1-yr 5, totally not interested in her studies, only talk about music, arts, photography, sports, computer and guys. Her teachers took her to task for open disobedience. She always says that girls cannot be too clever otherwise its difficult to get good guys. Now in her final yr, she has no choice but chiong for a place in uni. Fortunately for her, she woke up her bloody idea since end july. All these while, i hve shown patience and give alot of motivation and guidance but little nagging. She has appreciated it.

So folks, no worries!

[Neosan60]

for some children, seems like u need to allow them to ‘fall hard’ and then get back on their feet themselves. sometimes adults encourage too much and cushion their fall too much, kids are often well-protected. sometimes it is ok to let kids fail their papers once or twice. if the child is sensible enough, he/she will know what to do to prevent the next failure.

[24hr-mum]

Original Title: what do u do when ur child doesnt not perform academically?


what do u do when ur child doesnt excel in his or her studies? my definition is getting less than 80 marks.

[24hr-mum]

aiyo, my girl is same too. just cant do math n sci a bit better but not as easily as languages

[24hr-mum]

ya i agree. i was happy to drop math n sci durg my Jc and uni days

[dasalo]

24hr-mum:

what do u do when ur child doesnt excel in his or her studies? my definition is getting less than 80 marks.

How is it that getting less than 80 marks an indication of not excelling in studies? I am assuming it's primary level. Is it a one-off result or consistently below 80? What is your expected high and your lowest?

Know your child's strengths and weaknesses then set realistic target. Know their interests, talents and potentials and work on them to achieve their goals.

That way, all are happy.