Different religion

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pinky:

Is your spouse sharing the same religion as you? If not, how do you deal with the situation?

Before agreeing to \"paktor\", already laid out ground rule not to convert me.

[18JA]

Hi,


I'm Buddhist, DH Presbyterian. As for our kids, they can chose whatever religion they wan when they grow up. This is what DH and I agreeded on even before we married. But currently, they follow me to the temple whenever i go praying .

[kiasimom]

DH is a Buddisht and I am a Taoist.

We respect each other religion.

There sre no conflicts and differences as long as we respect each other.

[bitchymum]

18JA:

Hi,


I'm Buddhist, DH Presbyterian. As for our kids, they can chose whatever religion they wan when they grow up. This is what DH and I agreeded on even before we married. But currently, they follow me to the temple whenever i go praying .

I noticed that if the gals are christians, most of the time they would want to convert the men. I have seen so many cases of boyfriends following girlfriends to church during paktor time. But I nvr see the other way round

[MLR]

I hv… my friends are Catholic and their wife/girlfriends convert.

Same goes for our Muslim friends.

[Andaiz]

MLR:

Same goes for our Muslim friends.

I've friends in the situation i.e., bf Muslim and gal's not. Right now fighting a battle as to whether she'd convert or not. Anyone knows what the repercussions are for her not converting? Does that mean they cannot marry?

Thanks.

[mrswongtuition]

Andaiz:

MLR:

Same goes for our Muslim friends.

I've friends in the situation i.e., bf Muslim and gal's not. Right now fighting a battle as to whether she'd convert or not. Anyone knows what the repercussions are for her not converting? Does that mean they cannot marry?

Thanks.

My best friend in primary school is half-malay and half-chinese. Her dad is Chinese (Christian) and her mum is Malay (Muslim). Her dad did not convert, instead, her mum became a Christian. But she does not eat pork as she was not used to the taste.

For so many years, I see her parents very loving and my friend still has great relationship with her maternal relatives, especially her grandma.

I'm not too sure what's the repercussions but I see their family very happy and my friend is a fantastic lady with a good career now.

[MLR]

Andaiz:

I've friends in the situation i.e., bf Muslim and gal's not. Right now fighting a battle as to whether she'd convert or not. Anyone knows what the repercussions are for her not converting? Does that mean they cannot marry?


Thanks.

That depends on the Muslim family, how staunch and also if the gal not converting, then they cannot go thru the Muslim ceremony. Muslim are govern by different set of marriage laws from civil marriage. Its not just about not eating pork, or hving to circumcise, lots of other stuff involved.

Actually if she don't want to convert, better not be together, cos she doesn't know/understand/respect him. The guy also didn't make it clear to her when starting to get serious? Young pple.......

Personally, being in a relationship with someone from a different culture/race/religion requires strength from within. You will be tested in every event all the way thru life. The best lesson that I learned is never to take anything and I mean anything for granted. DH and I being 10 yrs as a couple, still tested by every turn of events in our life.



:celebrate:

[Andaiz]

MLR:

The best lesson that I learned is never to take anything and I mean anything for granted. DH and I being 10 yrs as a couple, still tested by every turn of events in our life.


:celebrate:

Kudos to you MLR, for daily living out this challenge? I copped out by looking out for guys of the same faith coz I knew I can't grapple with issues like that :oops:

I'll let my friend know the points you've raised. Hard to try and convince someone in love :stupid: , but some time, somewhere down the road, reality has to take over lah!

[nkthen]

It’s very difficult to manage religions with relationships. Imagine that if you are a Buddhist and your spouse is a Christian.


Your spouse will find it uncomfortable to go to temple Vesak Day while you may find it uncomfortable going for Good Friday Church service.

The more difficult part is when the PARENTS are more devoted then the children. That’s where they may pressure the kids to convert their other partner.