How to manage a child who refuse to go to school
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Hi Gmum (Gorgeous Mum?)
I know it hurts to see your little one cry every morning. I also sent my kids when they are 2.5 and 3.5 yrs old to full time childcare becoz we were working and my parents couldnt cope with 2 mischevious kids at home. My son cried for the initial 2-3 weeks but my daughter looked forward to the childcare.
The trick is to look for a childcare with sincere teachers who treat your kids with TLC. Becoz of these teachers, all the children at the centre are very well behaved and always taught to look after one another. As a matter of fact, older children are paired with new kids in a buddy system. I think it's a good approach as toddlers tend to respond very well to older ones and look up to them as older brothers and sisters.
So I guess you could wait and see if your child would settle down in the next few days or start looking for a childcare centre that could offer the same cozy and safe environment that she expected. Having said that, we have to be observant for extreme responses from the child.
Coincidentally, I also had a fren whose daughter cried alot ..to the extent of vomiting. They struggled to ignore the vomitting but gave up after 1 week. The parents were subsequently advised by paediatrician to take her out of childcare for a few months to avoid traumatizing the child. They did that for 3-4 months (with much inconvenience) and then put her back again. The 2nd time was luckily successful and the gal has since grown to be a very smart and cheerful gal..no side effect.
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Good point.
My suggestion to you is to take a surprise visit on your day off & observe from far why your daughter does not like the place. Pop by at different hours to see what are the things that make your daughter uncomfortable.
Gmum, sometimes the child could dislike the school because of harassment from other kids or even as simple as scolding by teacher. My children still throw such tantrums even though they are now in P5/P6. lol -
Hi heutistmeintag,
Maybe you are right. I shld secretly drop by one day and check on her in school. Thanks for ur advise… -
My daughter object violently because she has difficulty in making friends & language problem.
I was working following Australian working hours. I reached the childcare to pick up my kids around 3.30 pm. Since it was their tea break time, I got to stay & look around. What I saw was a horror story. Runny nose unwiped, big business in diaper not attended, toilet not flush, nobody ensure the kids wash their hands with soap after going to the toilet. I tried to wash my hand at the sink & the pipe is too tight for the kids. Some teachers discipline the crying child by making them stand at the side until the child subside crying.
So, it really pays to find out why your daughter resent being sent to childcare. -
It is always a good plus to do on-off surprise spot checks to ensure consistency with the childcare centre you entrust your child to. We love our children and do hope that they will trust us too. If we unintentionally neglect their feelings, some of their character will turn more negative and may reflect in their daily activities too.
Never put your guard down. If needs be, discuss with the teachers and the principle. At worst case, transfer them out and before doing so, try and find some alternatives. I know that it is easier said than done :oops: -
What to Do When Your Child Won't Go to School
https://www.verywellfamily.com/dealing-with-school-refusal-schoolage-children-620852 -
For school refusal, maybe parents could try to understand more of the reasons behind the refusal then you can work with your child on those underlying reasons. Some questions that might help to clarify are:
1. When did this start? Were there any triggers?
2. Are there any other information that you can gather from teachers at school or your helper at home as to the experiences of your child?
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