Lazy & Low Attention Span Kid

[mummy so kiasu]

My P1 girl is also the same. A slower worker & she does not like to do homework. She will take lots of break in between & gets distracted easily. She studies in the afternoon session & she reaches home at 7.30pm. I have stop chasing after her & just tell her to complete her homework before she could sleep. No matter how tired she is, she has to finish her homework before she goes to bed. I have to stay up late with her. We usually sleep at 11.30pm & sometimes even till 12.30am.

[chic_savvy]

Hey parents, I'm back! Geez.. so busy with stuffs. An update on my girl's progress (who is turning 9 this year at primary 3).


As she grows, she begins to remember things slightly better now. BUT, her tendency of forgetfulness is still high. Recently, I've started to notice that she also has some speech problem. When she tries to explain things or on some encounters, she will be like \"mummy, (start off with) it's so funny. you know errr.. that day.. I erm.. very funny.. I ermm....\"

The way she tries to explain or relates things, it takes so long to the main point that it could make people lose interest in listening. And when she does that, she would fiddle her fingers greatly. I do think that it is a form of anxiety that she is trying to cope, like focusing her nervousness elsewhere. Since young, she is very shy in greeting people or takes the initiative to talk to people, unless asked to.

Now I always stop her from fiddling her fingers whenever I catch her doing so, I also tell her to speak slowly and plan what she wants to say first before saying out to improve her confidence. I told her if she is not going to speak properly and clearly, no one is going to listen to her eventually. It doesn't matter if she speaks slowly but as long as she gets to the point clearly.

Ironically, her knowledge of words are very good. Those very \"chim\" words and their meanings. She loves to read a lot, loves art, creative and draws very well, not to mention playing app games is her forte! :slapshead: She just has difficulties in expressing herself well, oh and the forgetfulness!

[ChiefKiasu]

chic_savvy:

Hey parents, I'm back! Geez.. so busy with stuffs. An update on my girl's progress (who is turning 9 this year at primary 3).


As she grows, she begins to remember things slightly better now. BUT, her tendency of forgetfulness is still high. Recently, I've started to notice that she also has some speech problem. When she tries to explain things or on some encounters, she will be like \"mummy, (start off with) it's so funny. you know errr.. that day.. I erm.. very funny.. I ermm....\"

The way she tries to explain or relates things, it takes so long to the main point that it could make people lose interest in listening. And when she does that, she would fiddle her fingers greatly. I do think that it is a form of anxiety that she is trying to cope, like focusing her nervousness elsewhere. Since young, she is very shy in greeting people or takes the initiative to talk to people, unless asked to.

Now I always stop her from fiddling her fingers whenever I catch her doing so, I also tell her to speak slowly and plan what she wants to say first before saying out to improve her confidence. I told her if she is not going to speak properly and clearly, no one is going to listen to her eventually. It doesn't matter if she speaks slowly but as long as she gets to the point clearly.

Ironically, her knowledge of words are very good. Those very \"chim\" words and their meanings. She loves to read a lot, loves art, creative and draws very well, not to mention playing app games is her forte! :slapshead: She just has difficulties in expressing herself well, oh and the forgetfulness!

Hey chic_savvy! Welcome back. Your girl so big oredi ah.

Does your daughter write much better than she talk? If so, then you should not be worried. It could be because she is too conscious of trying to speak well then on the actual topic of discussion.

I have the same problem. When I try to be conscious of the way I talk, ie. remove the \"fillers\" such as \"um... er...\" and \"ok\" and \"alright\", I lose track of what I'm trying to say and become a blubbering idiot. So it is much easier for me to focus more on getting my point across than on how I speak. After all, that's the main point of communications, right?

Here are some of what I do:
1. Visualise and formulate what I want to say in my mind before I speak.
2. Speak slower. It gives you time to digest what you say, and plan on the next sentences.

[ChiefKiasu]

slmkhoo:

I have a 16yo daughter like that too. The problem is that many people are very impatient and will not give her time to plan her answer then speak. It means that she is usually left out of conversations as it moves on before she has a chance to take part. It's OK at home as we will give her the time she needs, but with other people, they think she is unwilling to speak, or just too dumb to answer. Any suggestions?

There's nothing wrong with thinking before you speak. It's better than shooting off and then regretting the moment. I see it more as a virtue than a fault.

[Vez]

Hi chic_savvy ,

May I know did u bring your DD to any diagnostic test? Have a DD who is the same age as your who loves to read, loves art, creative and draws. The way you describe your DD is exactly like mine.

Really don’t what to do already. Hopefully she can wake up soon

[beanbear]

ChiefKiasu:

slmkhoo:

I have a 16yo daughter like that too. The problem is that many people are very impatient and will not give her time to plan her answer then speak. It means that she is usually left out of conversations as it moves on before she has a chance to take part. It's OK at home as we will give her the time she needs, but with other people, they think she is unwilling to speak, or just too dumb to answer. Any suggestions?

There's nothing wrong with thinking before you speak. It's better than shooting off and then regretting the moment. I see it more as a virtue than a fault.

One of my kids is like that and we do some role-plays about social situations when he is dumbfounded or does not know what to say, what will be a temporary answer he can give people. I know of introverted adults who have learnt how to let people know that they are thinking by saying \"I'm still listening to what you're saying but I\"m thinking about my own response.\"

[ChiefKiasu]

slmkhoo:

We've also done that, and it works somewhat for one-on-one conversations and with people who are more familiar with her. But in groups and with people who aren't used to her, they just find her very hard to talk to! Oh well, that's just something she has to deal with. Actually, I don't think she cares if no-one talks to her, but we are concerned how she is going to manage in things like oral exams (are there oral exams at 'A' levels and higher?) and job interviews.

I'm in the middle of an experiment with my Sec 2 son. Essentially, we will spend about 15 minutes each day reading the Opinions page on Straits Times and then discuss the key points that the editor is trying to express, and then do critical analysis on those points or even add on to the points. This is done verbally to reduce the time taken. The nice thing about choosing the Opinions page is that it spans a spectrum of contemporary issues which are likely what people talk about, anyway.

I believe this can help to train critical thinking overtime, allowing us to rapidly process information and formulate decisions that can be communicated effectively.

Maybe you can try that too with your daughter.

[Nebbermind]

ChiefKiasu:

I'm in the middle of an experiment with my Sec 2 son. Essentially, we will spend about 15 minutes each day reading the Opinions page on Straits Times and then discuss the key points that the editor is trying to express, and then do critical analysis on those points or even add on to the points. This is done verbally to reduce the time taken. The nice thing about choosing the Opinions page is that it spans a spectrum of contemporary issues which are likely what people talk about, anyway.

I believe this can help to train critical thinking overtime, allowing us to rapidly process information and formulate decisions that can be communicated effectively.

Maybe you can try that too with your daughter.

What if I am also lazy and gave low attention span? :scratchhead:

[mico ricco]

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[sundaymorning]

yuanyuan mama:

Hi,


My dd is in P3. She is not lazy but low attention span. Her tuition teacher would complaint to me that she sort of losing her focus in the mid till the end of the lesson. Her school teacher told me exactly the same thing last year.

Also, my gal is very forgetful. I don't know how many times I had replaced the erasers, water bottle, rulers.......as she either forgot where she placed it or \"lost to no where\" as she claimed. I scolded, reminded and threatened with cane, no use. Still the same, to the extend that I suspect something wrong with her.

Any advice for me, please feel free to share. I am at my wits' end too :slapshead:

Hi ,
You could get the tuition teacher to play games with her to increase her attention span for learning . Making the lesson more interesting will make your girl remember the things she required to learn easily.
For the second issues, i was once like this when i am young. There is nothing to worry about . I think we have to be patience , kids are learning responsibility and sometimes it takes time to learn that. Gradually as i get older, i understand and handle my things with care and not lose it.
Perhaps you have to teach her how to be responsible to her items, and let her understand the consequences of losing it like if she lose an item , deduct a portion from her pocket money or smth ? just a suggestion