The Birds and the Bees

[buds]

Yeah, mine too Andaiz. :oops:


Reminds me of the Kindergarten Cop
movie where Arnold was the teacher
trying to find out the student's parents'
occupation, when a child quipped innocently...

Boys have penis and girls have vagina...

I'm assuming that either one of the parents
was a gynae back then.. :lol:

[Andaiz]

buds:

I'm assuming that either one of the parents

was a gynae back then.. :lol:

Actually me too...then WE became parents and thought it important to teach the kids the right term

[KopiYing]

pardon me for being ignorant, why call Birds and Bees? :?

[tankee]

from wikipedia ....


\"The birds and the bees\" (sometimes expanded to \"the birds, the bees and the butterflies\") is an English-language idiomatic expression which refers to courtship and sex, and is usually used in reference to teaching someone, often a young child, about sex and pregnancy. The phrase is evocative of the metaphors and euphemisms often used to avoid speaking openly and technically about the subject.

According to tradition, the birds and the bees is a metaphorical story sometimes told to children in an attempt to explain the mechanics and consequence of sexual intercourse through reference to easily observed natural events such as plant pollination. Bees carry pollen, a visible and easy-to-explain form of male sperm, and birds lay eggs, a visible and easy-to-explain version of female eggs

[westmom]

My dd is in Sec 1. She is still kinda "immatured" compared to her peers…still quite small, childish and "kiddy". Not interested in boys at all. She has no sign of puberty development yet. I have explained to her about the birds and bees while when she was in P6. She is aware on the surface what it mean by "sex". Yesterday, she came back and told me that her friends mentioned about "69" and someother naughty stuff. Her classmate teased her about her purity and sort of explain to her what is 69. I really don’t know what they told her cos she said she is still not clear except that she found it disgusting. I was kinda taken back…cos she asked me to explain further… I went like errr…err…What am I to do? In what manner and to what extent shall i cover…anyone in Notticorner can help??..

[tankee]

First, I think this should goes to \"working with your child\" than here in \"Notti\" as there is nothing wrong, dirty or notti about sex education.


Second, I believe the best approach to sex education is to be direct and explain as it is. There is nothing shameful about sex and we should not be embrassed by it.

[westmom]

…i have already explained to her about sex. It’s the details about the position "69" and why it should involve that ? At this age, should they be told about different kind of foreplay for further sex enjoyment? This not notti enuf to be posted in the 'notti"…?

[tankee]

Just explain it factually what Oral Sex is and 69 being a position for Oral Sex.


It is better than she gets the correct version from you than to get the tinted version from her friends or internet.

[leesf]

I don’t seem to find any similar topics on the discussion forum. Can someone share how do you introduce the topic to a 12 year old boy as a mother? Thanks!

[daisyt]

leesf:

I don't seem to find any similar topics on the discussion forum. Can someone share how do you introduce the topic to a 12 year old boy as a mother? Thanks!

Hi leesf, is your son closer to your husband or you? I personally feel that its better for father to explain to son about this topic and mother to daughter. However, if the relationship is close enough and the child don't feel uncomfortable, its not a problem for a mother to explain to son.

Is your son, matured enough in thinking? When talk about this topic, its better to be open, serious and don't feel shy. Once you feel a little uncomfortable, the child would sense it and he/she would feel shy too. First, find out how much he knows first. Ask what the school has taught them so far (I think in P5, MOE sent some staffs to the school to talk about puberty). In Science lesson, what has the school taught them. Did his other classmates discuss about this issue in school? What he think about BGR and crushes? You might even want to share with him your experiences of crushes when you were teenage time.

JMHO, hope this helps.